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I have a problem. I have been dating FH for 9 years and haven't been calling his parents anything! I was asking around at work and it seems to be a thing my generation does, I'm 26. She was saying once I'm married I should call her something lol. I asked her what she would like and she said whatever I wanted. I can't call her Mrs. whatever because that is too formal, I would feel weird calling her by her first name, and also I would feel weird about calling her mom. At this point anything I call her would be weird though! I was curious to what everyone is going to call their FIL's? Am I alone here?
I was just having this conversation dinner last night! If I have to I call them by there first name, but mom and dad just won't happen it feels too weird! FH isn't to keen about this!
Posted by truelove5803
WHen I am talking to them I call them by their first names, but when talking about them I usually call them mom and dad. When talking about them in reference to our dog, we call them Grandma and Grandpa, but once we are married I think I will be able to call them mom and dad and also probably by habit by their first names.
I call them by their first names. My mom had the problem, though. She didn't call my grandmother anything until she had us....then she started calling her Grandma, but she still feels weird about it. I call everyone by their first names, I guess. We're all adults!
I called them Mr. and Mrs. LastName. Right before the wedding, his mother asked I call her by her first name, but his father didn't (MIL and I were alone at the time). Now it sounds weird if I call one by the first name and not the other. I've reverted to calling MIL Mrs. LastName, which may annoy her since she told me otherwise. I don't want to call them Mom and Dad because those are names I want to reserve for my own parents. This is too complicated!
I have the same situation. No matter what I'd call them, it feels strange. I will absolutely not call them Mr. and Mrs. ____ now that we're married & they're family, but sometimes my FIL will be talking about my MIL and say something like 'Mrs. ___ said......' which is so strange because now that's my name too! She signs cards as 'Mom & Dad' but I def don't think my FIL would be comfortable with me calling him 'Dad'. When we got engaged my MIL said to me 'you can call me whatever you want' which didn't help at all! I think I'd feel funny saying 'Mom' and 'Dad' out loud to them though. And now that I've gone so long calling them nothing, it would feel weird to suddenly start calling them by name. If I absolutely had to, I'd use their first names.
I called them Mr. & Mrs. ********.
his parents i call them by his there first names.....and his grandparents live in FL so i rarely see them but when i do i just kinda look at them to get there attention...
I have called them by their first names since we started dating. . . . FH and I didn't meet until I was 24, if we were younger I would have called them Mr. and Mrs H.
Wow thanks for all the responses! It is so funny that so many people were thinking what I was. I really wish FMIL would just tell me what to call her. I think I might call her mom to her face and then when talking about her to someone else say something else. I guess I'll just have to see. So confusing!!!
once we are married, mom and dad. Now I call them big mac and side salad. We have a fun relationship.....
FH and I have been together for 6 years and always called them by their first names. I don't think things will change.
