Just curious, as my sister has never been a Matron of Honor before (or Maid) and does not live local to me.
What do you expect their role to be for your big day? Do they pay for your shower with your BM's? Do they always dress shop with you and learn how to bustle your dress?
Curious.... thanks!
bella_bride
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My MOH's are my sisters and they will def be with me when I look for a dress, but I don't expect them to pay for the shower. I don't expect my BM's to either. I just hope they help my mom with setting up and stuff.
Wear the dress and be on time are my only expectations for the MOH's/BM's
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I guess it's individual to each bride. My mom thinks my bridal party should pay for the shower, and that does seem like A LOT to ask them. There are 5 of them, but what if it runs $1k?
Anyway, just thinking and trying not to stress yet. I just hate putting people out, but if they want to be in a bridal party, I guess they have to help in some way.
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Since she is out of state, you cannot expect her to attend all of your dress shopping escapades.....I would think that she should plan one weekend when she can visit for bridesmaid dresses. She can maybe do favors for your shower...and def plan your bachelorette party.
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I definitely heard about BM/MOH's help paying for the shower... so it's not uncommon at all. I was just letting you know what I am specifically expecting.
I also have been in a couple of BP's, where we have pitched in to get the bride a big gift (patio furniture, luggage, etc)... but everyone does things differently.
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My sisters are my MOH's... I honestly dont expect them to do much such as throw me a shower/bach party, buy certain things. Even if it wasnt my sisters i wouldnt expect someone to be responsible money wize. I know my parents will cover w.e costs the other parties are. But since my parents are involved i really cant say anything regarding MOH & $. I think if they couldnt afford it i would pay if i wanted those things ((just my opin. tho)
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Posted by bella_bride
My MOH's are my sisters and they will def be with me when I look for a dress, but I don't expect them to pay for the shower. I don't expect my BM's to either. I just hope they help my mom with setting up and stuff.
Wear the dress and be on time are my only expectations for the MOH's/BM's
Ahh you said it so much better then me
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Posted by bella_bride
My MOH's are my sisters and they will def be with me when I look for a dress, but I don't expect them to pay for the shower. I don't expect my BM's to either. I just hope they help my mom with setting up and stuff.
Wear the dress and be on time are my only expectations for the MOH's/BM's
Ahh you said it so much better then me
we have a very similar situation! you said it fine!
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im bring my MOH w/ me for dress shopping only cause 1- shes my SIL and already invited herself lol she wants to be VERY included with everything and 2 - i trust her opinion and need someone to be honest with me cause my mom will just tell me everything looks perfect lol
as for the shower i hope they just help my mom but i know they will.
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My parents are giving us money towards the wedding, so I'm pretty sure my Mom wont be helping with shower costs.
My sister is 40 and lives in FL, while I am in NY. Obviously she wont be at EVERY appointment for dresses, but yes, I do want her to come once and help find BM dresses and/or my dress.
It's just frustrating and has barely begun.... my entire BP lives out of state except 1 person, and she is not really the most reliable person. I love them all and know they love me, and want to help.... I just dont know what to expect and/or do myself.
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My MOH lives in Florida and just started a 12 month MBA program, so i am just happy she will be there for everything!!! I only expect them to pay for their dress and hair/makeup the day of.
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I only expect my MOH to bustle my dress because it's HUGE.
I'm in a wedding right now and paying for a lot of things, which is fine because I love the bride but idk what it is that I will expect. I figure when it gets closer, I'll know more what my expectations are.
Don't think that you'll have to do things on your own. There's always someone willing to help.
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My MOH has done so much for me over the years that I don't expect much from her. She is already taking on the huge role of MOH and even offered to give me my invitations!!! She's such a doll. I love her very much for offering to do that. I know she is also going to organize my Bachelorette Party but I don't expect her to pull out crazy $$ for my bridal shower if i even have one.
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My MOH is my sister and she came with me when I was trying on dresses. She will help me find BM dresses and that is basically it. I expect her to make sure my train and veil look perfect on the day of, but I really don't expect anything else from her, especially now that she is moving to London in September.
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Posted by CaughtMyFish
Just curious, as my sister has never been a Matron of Honor before (or Maid) and does not live local to me.
What do you expect their role to be for your big day? Do they pay for your shower with your BM's? Do they always dress shop with you and learn how to bustle your dress?
Curious.... thanks!
I have two MOH's (my sister - Maid of Honor and my best friend - Matron of Honor). I don't expect them to pay for the shower or even chip in because my mother is paying and planning the entire thing. My Matron of Honor already came with me to look at halls one weekend because FH had a softball tournament and told me to go with her instead. She already said she wants to come dress shopping which is great because my sister couldn't care less lol. My sister will only be 21 and a Senior in College when FH and I get married so I'm not expecting her to help at all but I had to give her the MOH title simply because she's my sister and it would create unnecessary drama. I know my Matron of Honor will probably be the main person coordinating my bachelorette party but aside from that, all I want her to do is show up on time and enjoy herself.
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She will be contacting all my bms to plan the shower and bach party etc. Basically planning all of tha stuff. She will also help me with my dress the day of. Other than tha im not expecting much more. I believe my mom is helping her plan my shower.
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My two sisters are sharing the duty as co maids of honor. I hope they will coordinate my bachelorette party, help my mother organize my shower. Accompany me to appts if I need an opinion, support me in my madness. lol
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For one of the weddings I am in the bridal party split the cost of the shower. I thought that was a good idea. The other one her mom paid for it and the other one I think her sister paid for it who is her MOH.
I personally think your MOH should ask your BP to split it and just not get a gift.
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My MOH is my best friend... I guess I really dont expect too much from her lol I just want her to be with my that day.
She wont be paying for my shower.. my mom will be handling that but according to my mom she will pay if my MOH plans it hahahahaha
My MOH came dress shopping with me and she will fix the train of my dress and my veil and shes coming to my fittings to learn how to bustle (this is because she wants too not because im making her)
