What do you think of a vegetarian wedding?

Original post by marymoon

Jul 01, 2004 12:06 PM

I'm a vegetarian, so we were considering having an all or mostyl vegetarian wedding. It woudlnlt be boring stuff. We'd like to find a caterer who can make creative, yummy dishes!

What would you think as a guest? Would it not be your tastes? Would you think it was cheap? Would you think it was interesting? Would you just be glad the couple was expressing their own tastes?

Thanks!

MRSJLK Posted: Jul 01, 2004 01:34 PM

Re: What do you think of a vegetarian wedding?

Posted by fashionhag

Marymoon,

again, I think you should do what makes you most comfortable. But let the guests know beforehand that the wedding will be all vegetarian. This way, if they really want meat, they can get some before they get to your wedding.

I agree!!!!

september2004 Posted: Jul 01, 2004 01:34 PM

Re: What do you think of a vegetarian wedding?

Posted by fashionhag

Marymoon,

again, I think you should do what makes you most comfortable. But let the guests know beforehand that the wedding will be all vegetarian. This way, if they really want meat, they can get some before they get to your wedding.

i think that would be a little tacky on her part...

eogara Posted: Jul 01, 2004 01:36 PM

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I don't think so, I think 'Vegetarian Reception to Follow' on the invitations would be fine.

MRSJLK Posted: Jul 01, 2004 01:36 PM

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Posted by september2004

Posted by fashionhag

Marymoon,

again, I think you should do what makes you most comfortable. But let the guests know beforehand that the wedding will be all vegetarian. This way, if they really want meat, they can get some before they get to your wedding.

i think that would be a little tacky on her part...

I disagree - I think that it would be very considerate to let the guests know that it's going to be all vegetarian - this way there is no surprised or disapointed guests at the wedding - since they will know before hand

CubanBride Posted: Jul 01, 2004 01:36 PM

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Posted by september2004
i think that would be a little tacky on her part...

It's tacky to let people know the menu beforehand? Since when?

RedHead Posted: Jul 01, 2004 01:37 PM

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Posted by september2004

Posted by brooklynbridezilla
But I don't think it has to be a moral decision for you to respect it.

YES!

I think this is the point here...

Going to a wedding and being 'disappointed' with anything I think is pure cr@p. People definitely have likes and dislikes but to be 'annoyed' with anything I think is pushing it. You are there to support the couple and whatever they decide to do should be good enough. If they want to do something different, let them!

Be unique! Be classy! Do the veggie thing! Open your minds ladies!!!!

My mind is definatelt open which is why as someone who hates
vegetables and does not eat fish i am not limiting my guest to my
likes, my dislikes nor to my moral values!

All i am saying is give people an option...so they don't starve

ETA..and as someone who is of the minority (for whatever reason)
i would think that as a vegetarian you would empathize since you are usually limited
yoursel

september2004 Posted: Jul 01, 2004 01:38 PM

Re: What do you think of a vegetarian wedding?

Posted by fashionhag

Posted by september2004
i think that would be a little tacky on her part...

It's tacky to let people know the menu beforehand? Since when?

since forever...

Sassyz75 Posted: Jul 01, 2004 01:39 PM

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i went to a wedding once that had no alcohol for religious reasons.. and no dancing either- and let me tell you- THAT was the worst wedding ever- so I wouldn't worry about the vegetarian thing.

treilly13 Posted: Jul 01, 2004 01:39 PM

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Devil's advocate, point to ponder:

You are morally against meat, but FH is not. Yes, he eats your cooking but he will still have the grill and the meat in a fridge in the garage. Using the reasoning of morals would only apply to you since your FH does not share in those morals. He may also be for an all vegetarian reception but he would be compromising and not eating meat at the wedding for your sake, not because he is against it in any way. To reiterate, you've already mention he likes to eat meat and still will when you married. You may not serve meat to guests in your house, but FH will eat it. If you can stand FH still eating meat, why can't you do the same for your wedding guests?

But like I said in an earlier post, do what makes you happy. I'm just throwing things out there to think about.

RedHead Posted: Jul 01, 2004 01:40 PM

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Posted by september2004

Posted by fashionhag

Posted by september2004
i think that would be a little tacky on her part...

It's tacky to let people know the menu beforehand? Since when?

since forever...

that is an opinion not a fact!

May152005 Posted: Jul 01, 2004 01:40 PM

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I don't like the idea, I think it would be alittle inconsiderate as a guest. Maybe you can have the caterer offer 2 meat entrees & a really good vegetarian one.

CubanBride Posted: Jul 01, 2004 01:40 PM

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Posted by september2004
It's tacky to let people know the menu beforehand? Since when?

since forever...

Really? Is this written in some book that I can get from Barnes & Noble? I have read many etiquette books and have not seen anything about the little blurb 'vegetarian reception to follow' on the bottom of the invitation.

eogara Posted: Jul 01, 2004 01:41 PM

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Ladies, this seems to be turning someplace we probably don't want to go...

ChristineC68 Posted: Jul 01, 2004 01:42 PM

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I don't agree with the whole I wouldn't serve meat in my house so I won't serve it at my wedding argument. First, your FH will be preparing/grilling meat so even if he has to eat it outside, it's still part of your house/home. Second, if you took (treated) people to a meal in a restaurant that also served meat would you only allow them to order vegetarian meals?

Posted by groovypeg

with a kosher wedding you still have a choice between meat and vegetarian. with a vegetarian wedding you do not have the choice of eating meat.

keeping kosher is part of jewish law, or halacha. you are supposed to have a kosher wedding when getting married b/c that is what is written in jewish law.

people who keep kosher would not be be able to eat food at a non kosher wedding. non kosher people can always eat kosher food. we are having kosher meals specifically brought in for FHs family b/c they are extremely religious.

etd to add: with a kosher wedding you usually will know by the invitation, if it's being held a jewish center etc. maybe you could let your guest know that it is a vegetarian wedding in advance?

And this is actually a perfect example of accomodating your guests - you are not having the wedding at a Jewish Center or Kosher catering hall but you are providing meals for your guests that are religious.

tinkerb30 Posted: Jul 01, 2004 01:42 PM

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I went to a strictly vegetarian wedding at the Watermill. I didn't mind but FH was like why are we paying $$$ for a tower of vegetables??? I would suggest not doing it entirely vegetarian.

september2004 Posted: Jul 01, 2004 01:43 PM

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Posted by oct.2004bride

My mind is definatelt open which is why as someone who hates
vegetables and does not eat fish i am not limiting my guest to my
likes, my dislikes nor to my moral values!

All i am saying is give people an option...so they don't starve

ETA..and as someone who is of the minority (for whatever reason)
i would think that as a vegetarian you would empathize since you are usually limited
yoursel

i am not a vegetarian but would view this type of reception interesting and unique. as a host i would elect to provide the broadest range of options for my guests, but as a guest i would NEVER 'complain'...

RedHead Posted: Jul 01, 2004 01:43 PM

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Posted by Sassyz75

i went to a wedding once that had no alcohol for religious reasons.. and no dancing either- and let me tell you- THAT was the worst wedding ever- so I wouldn't worry about the vegetarian thing.

i think the important part of that staement was WORST WEDDING
if you want people to have a good time give them what they want?!