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how lovely k square....this is a great thread

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through all the ups and downs that i have experienced this week i have learned many things...

that my parents love me dearly and will make sure i am always happy

that rob loves me and will try the best to make things that were one possible become possible again

that through the very tough times in my life FH and i have really learned who will stand by us and love us both unconditionally.

and that i have met so many great ppl on this site that have shown me that i am strong and will help me the best they can to make me happy.

and lastly.. that i realize more and more how much i do love and care for FH

how have i grown....
FH and i are rebuilding... we are in the process of growing again... to become successfuly we have to individually grow for a while.. then come together again... but stronger.

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Great thread.

I wish I could say this without sounding bitter or peeved. I'm honestly not at ALL, but I can't think of how to word it and not sound snarky.

Your wedding may be the best day of your life - to date. But if you plan a wedding assuming that it will be the best day of your LIFE, you might be met with disappointment. Someone earlier hit the nail on the head. Parties come and go. Celebrations will continue to come. But look at your wedding like the doorway to the rest of your lives together - not just this massive party. You NEED other things to look forward to in life!!! A wedding isn't the culmination of life! Common sense, yes...but I think people get TOO wrapped up (myself included). For most of us, we're only about a quarter of the way into our lives..... there is SO MUCH MORE to life than this one day.

LIW was a blessing and a curse. A lot of the time it made me think that my wedding wouldn't live up to the majority of the extravagant weddings that are shown, re-shown, and shown again. At times it felt like a pissing contest. So silly! I had become shallow, and obsessed with the smallest, most insignificant details. However, had it not been for this site, I wouldn't have found the wonderful vendors that I used or met some great people. I'm grateful for that.

I'll be really honest here. I learned how obsessive I could be over the small things...and I never want to become that kind of person again. I lost sight of the big picture for a while. Thankfully I had my wonderful husband put everything into perspective. He alone made our wedding day the most special day - TO DATE!

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In the weeks since my wedding, I have really been able to put it more into perspective.
The emotions of a wedding or other big event can really change how you see things.

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This process has taught me who my true friends are!

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Great thread !

This process has taught me not to sweat the small stuff, as hard as it can be at time . Everything is not going to be perfect , but what matters is that you are exchanging vows with the person you are going to spend the rest of your life with ,and starting a new chapter in life .

It has also taught me that not everyone is thinking/obsessing ect about my wedding like I am. It doesn't mean that they are not my friend, it just means that they have other things going on in their life that they are incapable of devoting 100% of their time , money and effort to MY wedding. There are a few people however that I have completely written off because their true colors have come out during this process, and If you can't be happy for me , i don't need you in my life.

I have also learned alot about LIW. I wish I could have written my thesis for my masters on the social patters of LIW , or open forums in general . some people are very interesting to put it in a way to not cause 'drama' , even though apparently causes it as well
Overall I have learned some great idea's from this site and enjoyed chatting .

One last thing, FH has the patience of a saint . I love him more and more each day.

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I learned......









I should have eloped

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Posted by mariaobride

people are always going to talk sh!t and make comparisons i have learned to ignore them you will not satisfy 100% of your guests many people will like to take control of you and your planning again this is where the mute button comes in

i always use to consume myself with what everyone thinks of me, my decisions, if I was too rude when I spoke up -dh has taught me not too care so much and let it go you can be the nicest person in the world or you could have been so accomodating people still will find a way to complain

hth

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I couldn't say it any better I learned the same lesson and people that you think will never disappoint you will and you should forgive but never forget and i also learned to put myself first and stop thinking about others because at the end of the day they are not thinking about you

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figured I would bump this as well

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Posted by Mici n KC

I have learned that people you care about don't seem to care about you as much and it's time to move on from these relationships. Why give my all when they aren't?

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I completely agree! and along the same lines you also realize how much some other people care about u and how wonderful it is to have those people in your life

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I learned how much I can count on FH. I mean, i always knew he had my back, but never to the extent that I saw thru this whole wedding planning process. He would do anything for me, and it just made me fall even more in love with him.

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I learned what is important in life, and how precious life really is..I was able to make it to my wedding day after a bad car wreck...And i'm so grateful...