what would you do....

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Posted by Future Mulligan

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Posted by GinaZ

No I wouldnt cry. I'd appreciate all teh ahrd work the people planning it put into it.

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well i cried i guess i am a horrible person

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Seems like you are more upset that there wasnt too much thought put into it then the actual details which I can understand. You would assume that they would know you well enough to realize that this isnt something you wanted. Maybe FH just felt bad to tell them that it was a bad idea.

I'm sure when the day comes you will just have a great time and wont even care about the place and then you will look back and laugh that you got upset.

I would feel disappointed but still make the best of it.

I totally understand how you are feeling. You think that the people who are planning your shower know you the best, but when you get something totally different then what you thought they would do because they know you so well it's a disappointment. Even though I must say they probably thought you would love it because it's chinese food and they know how much you love it.

Don't feel like a horrible person though....you're entitled to feel a littel disappointed.

Aww dont cry!!! No matter where it is you will still have fun!!!!! It suxx that they wouldnt have made it somewhere else but I guess they figured you like chinese so they would do it where you liked, not thinking that u wouldnt want your shower there.

As for the ppl who dont like chinese, maybe they will eat something before hand? Can you FH talk to them and tell them to eat a little before so they arent starving

i am so sorry.... i just recently figured out when my shower is and i am totally bumed... i understand what your saying, but all these people are trying their best to make u happy and that is what matters the most.... all these people are coming together and brining you presents for your future... i am sure everything will turn out just fine!!!

It's true, I was sooo busy saying hello to everyone, chatting with people, eating, drinking, opening presents and giving speeches and cutting cake to even notice the decor of the place we had it at.

There is so much energy in the room, you will not notice either! It will be a whirlwind, so do try to enjoy it as much as you can- while you have the opportunity!

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Posted by kslmbuggie

sorry but, IMO i think you are overreacting. you yourself said you love chinese food, and your friends and family obviously know this, and are doing this to make you happy so whats the problem? its not the shower that you wanted but its not the end of the world, and this is something that you should not be crying over, there are far worse things to be worried about. Just smile and enjoy the wonderful day your friends and family have put 2gether for you.

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I agree. I do not think you should have asked your FH, personally. People are going out of their way to do something special for you, whether it's what you would have liked or not - and obviously they all care about you a lot in order to do so. And you love chinese food, so like you said, they think they are doing a great thing for you. AND THEY ARE.

I am sorry if I sound harsh, I really am. Many people don't get showers at all, and we all have to be very thankful that we come from families and a part of the country that can and does devote a lot of time, energy, effort, and money into throwing us such great parties.

im telling you people wont notice its the same food... there was a bit of a time span in between the 2 parties no?.. i had my shower at a chinese resturant and people LOVED IT!!! (my MOH doesnt even eat chinese food! and im sure she prob starved) but its for YOU and they are trying to do something that you LOVE... they obviously know you and wanted to make sure you would love it. Try not to be upset b.c if you are people will notice and you dont want them to think they did a bad thing when really all they were trying to do was make it perfect for you!

Just be greatfull that they are puttin so much thought into it and everyone will be there together to celebrate you being a birde to be!

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Posted by Future Mulligan

i feel bad now b/c i made FH feel upset - he is like freaking out and i keep telling him that its okay but he feels like its all his fault b/c he told them i would like it and he feels like he should have known better - im just feeling shocked because this is what i would have least wanted and i dont know how they came up with the idea i think that is the part that is disappointing me the most - i feel like nobody really knows me or knows what i would have wanted and that makes me sad - even my FH who was part of the planning was clueless and that makes me sad because he asked me what i wanted and i told him

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i wouldnt want to get your hopes up and/or ruin a possible surprise, but what if fh is doing an excellent job of throwing you off...? maybe you wont be having chinese.....

I really have to tell you that I felt the same way recently. I really didnt want my shower at a house. My mother has a big beautiful house that we've had at least 6 showers in. I was really against having it at a house - don't know why. Im pretty sure they are doing it at my sisters house now to trick me. I was really upset at first but honestly, I got over it. How could I be upset?? People are going out of their way to throw me a shower - to make me happy. How could I not love what ever they do for me. I am fortunate to be getting one, some people arent as lucky.

Try to look at it like that!

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Posted by Future Mulligan

i just dont want to get heat for being honest....its easy to say dont be upset when its not happening to you i know the day of the shower it will be fine, but right now im just looking for people to say its going to be okay - not your a b!tch

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your not a b!tch - I totally felt the same way. trust me you will change your mind, I did

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Posted by Future Mulligan

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Posted by kslmbuggie

sorry but, IMO i think you are overreacting. you yourself said you love chinese food, and your friends and family obviously know this, and are doing this to make you happy so whats the problem? its not the shower that you wanted but its not the end of the world, and this is something that you should not be crying over, there are far worse things to be worried about. Just smile and enjoy the wonderful day your friends and family have put 2gether for you.

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you know what it is - i cant help but be upset - most of us have a shower that we love and its what we wanted - so unless you are in my position its hard to say dont be upset - to be honest i NEVER thought i would be upset over a shower, b/c like everyone said, i am lucky to even have one - but now that its actually happening i cant help but feel sad thats this is the complete opposite of anything i would have ever wanted ....now my FH feels horrible, which makes me feel bad and now we have to keep it a secret that i know....just the whole situation s-u-c-k-s....now im not surprised, its not at all what i thought it would be, and now i feel guilty that everyone is throwing this party that they *think* i will love - i just feel bad about the whole situation....im sure once i am there i will have a good time and it will be nice - now my poor guests have to endure chinese food AGAIN!

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how do you know that you wont love the shower? the place doesnt make the shower bad (unless it is an utter and complete dump) it is the people that make the shower good. once you see everyone who is there for you and all the wonderful gifts they gave you, you will totally get over the fact that you dont like the venue.

i would tell your FH 2 keep his lips zipped, and you as well. no one should know that you arent happy about the location, and i am sure you will laugh about this whole thing once the day is over.