Option 1 - - Westbury Manor - with lots of food, but only 30-40 people can make it. (will have upstair room)
Option 2 -- Art gallery (another state), less choice of food (only chesse for cocktail, Salad and one choice of entree) with 80-85 people.
Which one do you think will be better.. We're stock. By the way, people that won't be attending the NYC affair are not really close family members.
MrsCastanedain09
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You will really enjoy yourselves at the Westbury Manor. I would go for this option...while there are less people, it will be those closest to you and they will have a wonderful time.
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I think it's better if you go with Wm manner given the fact that
YOu are being offered a lot for what you're paying
The majority of attendees will be your family member
and Lastly, Westbury Manor is beautiful. You'll have a very beautiful and intimate setting for your reception
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Posted by MrsCastanedain09
You will really enjoy yourselves at the Westbury Manor. I would go for this option...while there are less people, it will be those closest to you and they will have a wonderful time.
We're concern with not having enough people dancing, or that the reception won't be as fun because there arent that many guest.
But I really don't want to deal with the heachache of having to travel to another state.
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I would say if it's not important for you to have the extra people go for westbury. .. but it's really which is most important to you. ... it doesn't sound like the 2nd is how you picture you're wedding but of course it's hard to interpret tone always from these chats. . .
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Posted by meara
I would say if it's not important for you to have the extra people go for westbury. .. but it's really which is most important to you. ... it doesn't sound like the 2nd is how you picture you're wedding but of course it's hard to interpret tone always from these chats. . .
Well, I like the gallery look (very modern), but I think is not enough food.
I don't like the ballroom look in WM, but the food..... can't beat all they offer.
I just don't want it to be long and blah!!
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I loved the westbury manor when i went to look at it, i vote for that venue. But its up to you, would you be okay w/o the others there?
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I loved the westbury manor when i went to look at it, i vote for that venue. But its up to you, would you be okay w/o the others there?
The 'others' are uncles, cousins from my FH that he have to seen or talked to for some time now.
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I loved the westbury manor when i went to look at it, i vote for that venue. But its up to you, would you be okay w/o the others there?
The 'others' are uncles, cousins from my FH that he have to seen or talked to for some time now.
Well if he is okay not having him there then i would go w/ WM, i would not worry about people not dancing, etc. i am sure it will be just as wonderful whether its 40 or 80 people.
Have you looked at other venues on LI?
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After reading everythign that you wrote.. it sounds like you want to be with all the people from the other state. The people that would come to the wedding on LI are not close to you... are you sure they will go? Personally I think you should focus more on surrounding youself with the people you are closest to and love the most. You could have a ton of food... but the food isn't necessarily what makes the day.. it's sharing it with your loved ones that matters most. So I say go for the one in another state. What state is it? Also, does it have to be in the art gallery? Could you do it elsewhere... since you don't seem too thrilled about that option and the food choices. Is there anyway to change the food menu around?
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Posted by KYBride09
Posted by JenBill61210
I loved the westbury manor when i went to look at it, i vote for that venue. But its up to you, would you be okay w/o the others there?
The 'others' are uncles, cousins from my FH that he have to seen or talked to for some time now.
Do you really want to be with distant relatives that haven't spoken to FH in some time now? I think if you end up doing it on LI and being with people you don't know or haven't seen or spoken to you may end up regretting that decision. The worst case scenario is being surrounded by 'strangers' and wishing you had done it differently and were surround by those who really know you guys and can appreciate the love you share for one another. No matter what anyone says... the company is really what makes the party.. not the DJ or the food or the place... it's the unseen things that contribute to a loving day. You could have the best of everything and still feel like something is missing.
KerriJohnS
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OMG! I'm a dope.. so the NYC wedding is with the close people... do that one then! What I'm trying to say is do the one that you will have the people who matter most there... be it NYC or anywhere's else.
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As long as you dont mind having a more intimate wedding I would go with option 1. If there are people that you wish could make it but wouldnt be able to if its in WM I would go with option 2.
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Posted by meara
I would say if it's not important for you to have the extra people go for westbury. .. but it's really which is most important to you. ... it doesn't sound like the 2nd is how you picture you're wedding but of course it's hard to interpret tone always from these chats. . .
Well, I like the gallery look (very modern), but I think is not enough food.
I don't like the ballroom look in WM, but the food..... can't beat all they offer.
I just don't want it to be long and blah!!
being a WM bride, i wanna be biased and say option 1. i was also in the upstairs room, and what i liked about that room is that it didn't feel as much as a ballroom as the rooms downstairs. more like the old victorian mansion that it is.
anyway, i really think you need to go for what will make you happier in the end. where do you picture yourself getting married? who do you picture being around you when you exchange your vows? what kind of setting do you imagine? if you think you'll have a better day at the art gallery, that's where you should have it. with wedding planning you cannot make everyone happy, you can only do what will make you and your FH most happy.
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Posted by KerriJohnS
OMG! I'm a dope.. so the NYC wedding is with the close people... do that one then! What I'm trying to say is do the one that you will have the people who matter most there... be it NYC or anywhere's else.
