Please help me with this difficult situation. Do I invite these people to my wedding or not? In our circle of friends I have a problem with two people.
#1. A male friend who has become close friends with my fiance but does not like me very much and makes that blatantly clear. He is rude to me when we are in our group, does not talk to me, and is hesitate to say hello. Just last night I tapped him on the back, said hello and he just ignored me, didn't even look at me. My fiancé and I fight about it all the time, I just don't get how FH doesn't say anything to him. Do I invite him to my wedding? He is such a miserable person always complaining about everyone, and I am one of them.
#2. My old roommate that I no longer talk to. She had a mouth full to say about me behind my back to everyone when we were roommates. We are now cordial with each other, but everyone is telling me that if I don't invite her, there will be drama. She doesn't like me as much as I don't like her. Since we have the same group of friends we just put up with it when we are together. Things have gotten better, but honestly I feel uncomfortable around her and I really would not want her there. But everyone is insisting I invite her.
Do I suck it up and invite these two? Or not invite them and deal with the consequences of the drama aftermath?
Thank you!
Nina1010
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Posted by MarjorieFrank
I would invite the second person and cut ties with her after the wedding. I feel not inviting her is exactly what she wants. If she and you have a bunch of mutual friends, hopefully you won't even see her at the wedding because she'll be too busy with her friends. HOWEVER If it is a small wedding and her presence will be felt/known, then I wouldn't invite her.
The first person sounds like a total d0uchebag. I wouldn't invite him, but I think you may need to check with your FH. If your FH really wants him there I think you will have to make that sacrifice for FH.
If any of these two people will cause a scene at your wedding, then definitely don't invite them. But, I think that you won't even realize that they are there when the day is blurring by.
I totally agree with Marjorie... I would invite the second one to be a bigger person.. .leave it in her court. hopefully something will just happen to be scheduled on your wedding date and she won't make it.
As for the guy...absolutely NOT. I would fight FH on it too if he insists. I would not invite someone so rude. Especially who is outright mean to you and its obvious to others... so everyone will understand. If anyone has anything to say...just say...would you invite someone who....' fill in the blank. I'm sure it doesn't go un noticed.
JenBill61210
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i say no to both..... its YOUR day, you shouldn't have miserable people there!
kmi8
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You shouldn't invite either one, in my opinion. You shouldn't have anyone at your wedding that makes you feel uncomfortable.
