What would you say if...

your FH told you he wanted to be part of your wedding dress selection process????

thoughts/opinions?

Hmmm... that is a tough one. If he really wanted to I wouldn't deny him. We make so many decisions together that I could totally understand it, but at the same time I would really like to make that decision on my own.

I guess I couldn't give a definite answer unless I was in your shoes completely. HTH!

I wanted FH to come with us. He was NOT into that. I feel like he is such a big part of the planning process why not him choose my dress with me.

Now that he REFUSES to see my dress. I am happy, although he has stated a few times that he cannot wait to see me on the day

i would prob let him! FH doesnt want to see me until the church...but if he did i wouldnt really mind. he wont remember a year later LOL plus its different on the day of your WEDDING when your dolled up and excited JMO!

thanks for your thoughts ladies!

I'm not surprised that FH wants to come with me. He's got a great sense of style and I think it would be FUN! He talked about getting a limo for our moms, him and I and making a day of it in the city over the summer.

On the other hand, I love the element of surprise and part of me would love him to wait until our big day.

In the end, I guess I would hate to say 'no'. If he's interested enough to WANT to come, then I think it'll be fun.

Someone suggested having him come for the 'trying on' part and then make the actual purchase without him. I think that sounds like a good idea

I'm more about the element of surprise too. Although I agree that chances are he'll forget and you'll look so different on the big day, but I still want the anticipation.

I was talking about a dress, I don't even think it was mine and FH was like NO I don't want to know! I think its really cute he wants it to be a surprise too.

I actually asked my FH to come dress shopping with me. He turned me down. lol I originally wanted him to come because I trust his vision and we do all of our clothes shopping together. I really wanted his opinion on the most important piece of clothing that I would every wear. He, wants to be surprised and I understand that. I think even if you allowed him to come dress shopping the dress he will help you choose will be a very different dress on the day on your wedding. It will not have clips holding it up, possibly be in a different shade, hair and makeup will be different, jewelry. I think no matter what he will be stunned when he sees you on your wedding day.

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Posted by ChristineNorah

I actually asked my FH to come dress shopping with me. He turned me down. lol I originally wanted him to come because I trust his vision and we do all of our clothes shopping together. I really wanted his opinion on the most important piece of clothing that I would every wear. He, wants to be surprised and I understand that. I think even if you allowed him to come dress shopping the dress he will help you choose will be a very different dress on the day on your wedding. It will not have clips holding it up, possibly be in a different shade, hair and makeup will be different, jewelry. I think no matter what he will be stunned when he sees you on your wedding day.

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ITA!

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Posted by Bride in 2012

I would tell him that I'd rather him wait and see me in my dress on our wedding day.

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this!

FH actually asked me to show him the dresses I have seen that I want to try on. I haven't showed him yet but i don't mind showing him because he has a good sense of style.

He will definently not see me in the dress b/f the wedding. I am only showing him the dress online if that. It's funny b/c of timing, I mentioned what he thought about the idea of doing a revealing b/f the ceremony to take pictures. He said Absolutely NOT!!! I want to see you for the first time at the church when you are being walked down the aisle by your father. I was like WOW! Ok .. no problem. That's how I wanted things too, but I figured I should just throw that queston out there to get his opinion.

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Posted by Watermelon5

i would prob let him! FH doesnt want to see me until the church...but if he did i wouldnt really mind. he wont remember a year later LOL plus its different on the day of your WEDDING when your dolled up and excited JMO!

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i agree!! me and FH are technically already married (through the court) and we have a son LOL (1 year old) so we are going to see eachother before the ceremony but he is not coming to see me to get the dress.....if you feel that you want him there why not? its whatever YOU want right? lol

He would never, he hates going shopping with me because I take forever and try on EVERYTHING...I can only imagine how long I'll take to find a dress! haha And he's pretty traditional like me so I think he wants to be surprised.

If he did, I would say its too important of a tradition for me to have him come. The moment when the groom first sees the bride appear down the aisle is a moment I've dreamed about all my life, it's too special to me. It's the one tiem i really get to surprise FH so I want to fully enjoy it.

If he argues that I'd have to question the marriage at hand. :-P

jk

But really his opinion of fashion is just tooo clashing with that of mine or my BMs, it would become a stressful process.

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Posted by mara1017

I am glad that he does not want to because honestly that would be the one thing that I would put my foot down about! I do not want him to see the dress until I tap him on the shoulder and do the reveal!

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This!

I think that's why I dont mind him coming..FH has a really good sense of style and taste in clothes and jewelry! If it's important to him and something he would like to share with me, then I wouldn't deny him the opportunity.

He would never argue with me if in fact I felt strongly that he NOT come. I think it's cute that he cares enough to want to be part of the process


I think i'm going to stick with the idea of not having him know in the end which one i'll be buying. Nothing compares to the big day where no matter what happens, everything will be exciting and surprising!