I am pretty torn on who should sit at Dais. I have seen just bride and groom seated seperately (most often). I have also seen entire bridal party with bride and groom (and they had their guests/dates seated elsewhere). I have also seen the bride and groom and the honor attendants with their guests.
I can't decide what is best. What do you think?
Soon2BMrsC09
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We are only having me and FH sit at the Dais - our BP and dates would have to be separated to eat dinner and i think it would just be too uncomfortable for them to not have their special someone with them...IMO
FCsBride914
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I am seating my BP with FH and I at the dais... We thought about sitting alone, that was our original plan... My mom told me that my BP may be a little offended if we seat them with the crowd...
When you're at a wedding, how often are you in your seat? No much (well my family anyway), so I figured my BP could go be with their dates almost the whole reception except for eating...
I think its nice to honor your BP and seat them at the dais... (IMO) Sticking them in with regular guests, could be offending.
JoanneAndJustin
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It will be just myself and FH at the dais. The BP will sit amongst their friends/other guests/dates. I know they would rather sit with people they are comfortable with then sit with the other BP they don't know.
stacey23
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One of my bridesmaid was just asking me about this yesterday......it's just gonna be me and fh at the dias by ourselves.......I don't want to have their dates sitting by themselves or make anyone uncomfortable
Im a Pepper
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i don't want to separate my BP from their special someones. in fact, FH is in a wedding in July that i'm not in and i would feel pretty uncomfortable if he were sitting at the dais and i were in a crowd of people i didn't know. so just FH and I.
sarahdavid
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I've been at a wedding where my date was in the bridal party and I had to sit elsewhere. It was horrible. I would definitely suggest just the bride and groom at a table and a table on either side with the bridal party and their dates.
PattyK
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DH & I sat at the dais by ourselves, we let our BP sit with their guests.
sugarkube4
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Just the 2 of you... anymore is like 1987!!!
mls282
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Thanks everyone for your thoughts. Years ago my boyfriend at the time was in the bridal party and sat at the Dais. I was stuck at some random table and new no one. I was soo miserable. I hated that wedding. I can't imagine doing that really.... but I wanted some opinions on that. I also didn't necessarily want to sit alone with just my man ... we have lived together and spend A LOT of our time with just the 2 of us. So I was a bit torn on what to do. Unfortunately we will have 5 bridesmaid and 5 grooms so we definetely couldn't fit all of them and thei dates at our table. My 2 sisters are going to be co-Maids of Honors and his brother is going to be the best man.... so I was considering having the Honor Attendant and dates share a simple round table with us cause that makes 10. Not sure about that though b/c I dont know their guests/dates so well.... hmmmm.. I have plenty of time. Just trying to see what might be best. :)
Thanks!
mls282
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My last note probably cam across wrong... LOL! I wasn't saying that I didnt want to be alone with my man... just that I wanted a more social celebratory meal then just me and him off on our own. I don't get to see my sisters or fam much since I don't leave nearby. Thats all :)
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I would do just B&G The only reason i say this is we had people in the BP who had significant others that were not in the wedding party-at that point it starts to get out of hand, we had 9 total in our BP-if we sat them with their SO's it would have been almost 20 people. That to me is just silly.
Sit alone and take that time to watch what is going on just you and your new husband. Enjoy it b/c you wont get a chance to again.
And if you only do the BP, their SO's will sit alone and its just a weird situation IMHO
HM807
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we are doing a sweet heart table (just me and FH)... and a table on each side - on left will be my bridal party and their guests... and on my right will be FH's groomsmen and their guests.
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we sat alone. Our bp wanted to sit with their dates and im sure some of theirs wouldnt have felt comfortable sitting alone. We barely were in our seats, except in the beginning for the speech and thats it. We didnt even get to sit and eat our dinner. They eventually brought our dinner for us in the bridal suite if we wanted it later on and i ate my dinner after it was all over and we went to pack up all our stuff
tgrlily339
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We are sitting at the dais just us (bride and groom) and then there one table on either side of us both for the bridal party and their dates, so that way they are honored by being up front, but there isn't the inconvenience to their guests of having to sit with people they don't know. I just think its super uncomfortable to make their guest sit alone... I know if I was someones date and had to sit alone for dinner I dont think I would be too keen on going. But that is just my opinion.
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Posted by sarahdavid
I've been at a wedding where my date was in the bridal party and I had to sit elsewhere. It was horrible. I would definitely suggest just the bride and groom at a table and a table on either side with the bridal party and their dates.
same with me! i hated not being able to eat or sit next to fh so we are sitting by ourselves and the bridal party will sit with their dates
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Posted by Soon2BMrsC09
We are only having me and FH sit at the Dais - our BP and dates would have to be separated to eat dinner and i think it would just be too uncomfortable for them to not have their special someone with them...IMO
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Autumnbride03
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I have seen both... but I want us to have a few minutes (lets hope) together and get a few bites to eat alone without family and friends chattin us up on either side. Plus, it's our 'special table'.
My BP will have the table on one side of us and our immediate families (parents and grandparents, etc) on the either side, so they each have the other 'head tables'.
PreshusSmurf
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To be honest, I think the idea of a Dais table where the Bride & Groom & Attendants sit separately is getting to be somewhat antiquated.
Especially if the Attendants have dates!
If you want to seat your Bridal Party together, I would have them sit together, but along with their dates ...
We had our Bridal Party sit with their dates & whomever they were closest with at the wedding ... so they were scattered throughout the room, at the table they would enjoy sitting at the most.
