Ladies who threw or will be throwing your shower? Was it your mother? your MOH? your BMs?
Etd Sorry some people read this board....
shelzyp
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My BP threw it, and my mother made all the food for it. My BP put their names nad my mom's name on the invitation, and she was surprised that they did this.
Traditionally, the MOB should nt be paying for the shower bcasue it is looked at as a way of asking for gifts for your daughter, not that I agree with this but, traditionally they say it is a no no.
I think now a days it seems to be a joint effort, between the BP and the MOB, but your BM is ridicoulous in saying that you should be embarrassed.
She should be embarrassed for saying something to you about it
OctBride03
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The MOH traditionally throws the shower. Technically your mother or family of the bride is NOT supposed to throw the shower as it comes off tacky (I read this somewhere).
Your BM had some nerve telling you that, no offense.
My MOH threw my shower with the HELP of my mother.
tanbride
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My mother and sister (MOH) threw my bridal shower but my BMs did contribute $$ towards the favors - it was beautiful! I think that's rude what your BM told you - it's no ones business who throws it!
curly2003
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My mom, grandmother and sister/MOH threw mine. My BM's didn't even chip in.
kelly6273
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My Bridal Party threw mine...with help from my Mom.
dawnie
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I know people who had their mother throw the shower... I know people who have had their mother and future mother in law throw their shower. My MOH (ALIASPOOK) and my mom paid for mine. I am in a wedding and the BP payed for it. I am throwing ALIASPOOK's shower ( I am her MOH) our mother is helping me. I am going to ask for the BP to chip in some to cover the cost of the extras like invitations, centerpieces and favors. I don't know what proper etiquette is but it seems that with showers costing more and more these days nothing seems to be the mainstream answer. It is hard for one person to cover the cost of everything. Just my opinion!
xjulietx
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I have heard from a number of people that the shower is thrown by the bridesmaids (i.e. they send out the invites, they make favors and do a lot of the work) but the mother of the bride (and sometimes the mother of the groom) foot the bill. I think things have changed now since we are all getting married older and have better paying jobs, but I think it was originally assumed that the young bridesmaids didn't have the money to throw the shower but they would do the legwork.
jennyg
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My mom paid for the place with some contribution from my FMIL. The MOH got all the RSVPs and the BMs made & sent the invitations and made the favors. Basically, all of my BMs are in grad school and don't have the $$ to pyaing for a shower. My mom wanted to do somewhere really nice (I'm her only daughter) and didn't want to ask the girls to foot any of the bill.
It was rude of your friend to involve you at all. Typically it is the bridal party who throws the shower but many times the mother or sister of the bride will be the one really throwing it.
Kathy116
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My MOH and my mother are throwing it, but because my MOH is out of state, my mother is really doing everything, but she's thrilled to be so involved. (She's so thrilled that she can't contain herself, and has involved ME every step of the way)
swags1016
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My bridal party paid for most of it. My Mom contributed some because she thought my MOH and cousin did not have a lot of money.
I have always heard of the BP paying for it!
Jordan
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As the MOH, I threw my sister's. My FHs mom throws the shower for her daughters.
Ettiquette says the MOB should NOT throw the shower - they perceive it as tacky that the MOB is asking for gifts & $$$ for the bride. Whatever - I don't buy it but I think it should be the MOH & BMs, personally.
PS - no offense, but I think it was REALLY rude of your BM to say that to you. REALLY, really rude.
butterfly20
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christine.... sounds like your BM is trying to get out of paying/planning towards it.....all over the internet it says not to have a family member especially mother throw it, that it is the MOH's duty(and manytimes the MOH shares it with the BM's...)...
Samanthas Mom
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My mom and sister did together
jags77
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my 1st shower was thrown by mom's best friend. the 2nd shower fmil did it with help of some of her friends in terms of food.
my BMs did my bachelorette so i didn't want them to have an added expense of doing a shower too.
SeptemberBride03
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My Mom, MOH, and BMs did my NY shower.
My 2 FSILs (who are BM) did my PA shower.
franksbride
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I haven't had mine yet...but I'm pretty sure my mom and sisters are throwing mine!
VickiC
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My Mom and my sister threw my shower. My mom felt that the BP had enough expenses what with buying their dresses and a gift for me for the shower. She didn't feel like they needed to spend another amount of money when most of them had their own weddings to pay for as well.
Personally, I don't think it matters who throws you a shower as long as everyone is happy about the arrangements. I've been in both situations and it's usually easier when the MOB pays for the shower.
Elizabeth
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I had a very small BP, only MOH & my niece as a jr bridesmaid. My MOH was planning it and consulted my Mom about dates and such and my Mom insisted on paying for it at a restaurant.
I didnt read your original post but from the responses I guess someone was giving their opinion on who was paying. What is the matter with people? Some people always have to complaint or assert their 'correct' opinion. Dont let anyone give you grief. Your shower will be beautiful.
MarciaD
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I have a freind giving me one. I'm in her wedding right before mine and she would be a BM, but will be on her HM during my wedding. She asked if she could throw my shower since she can't be in the wedding.
