Whos Paying for the wedding?

everyone..... too expensive for one household to afford

I don't know how you are doing it alone. FH and I are paying for the whole thing, RD, wedding and Honeymoon. If I had to do it alone it wouldn't be the wedding of my dreams. Together we are making that happen.

More power to you ladies who are footing the solo bill.

Nope fh and i are paying for it. Currently he is putting away the most but after i graduate in may and find a better job crossing fingers then i will be putting a lot in if not the remainder so he can focus on the home.

Feel for ya.. thats harsh to do it alone.

my daddy is paying. my mom made all of the centerpieces ( i wanted her touch and felt bad w/paying soooo much for flowers that would go to waste anyway) - in the end the centerpieces she made prob cost same/more than flowers would have...oh well

we paid for the little things - invitations, favors, hm, rings, etc.

We were fortunate...I give those who are paying themselves so much credit, it cant be easy!

my parents paid for the reception hall, my gown and everything to do with my attire and hair and makeup and trials-oot hotel bags, lots of little things-shower..the biggest 'chunk'

dhs parents paid for: limo, photographer, videographer,florist, Rehearsal dinner restaurant and the band

dhs brother paid for the open bar tab at the Rehearsal dinner as his gift

Dh and I paid for: invites, favors, honeymoon, rings, church, programs, menu cards...the little things

We are paying for the wedding ourselves, no help from parents. So far I have written all the checks so I keep joking that I'll pay for the wedding, he'll pay for the house! I think I have the better deal

You are not alone on this. FH and I are footing most of our own wedding bill ourselves too. My FMIL and FFIL are helping us out by paying for the church and for the guests that they invite to the wedding and thier family. My mom is trying to help out as best she could by buying my wedding gown which is about $1200 and she's paying for the rehearsal dinner but she's not in a financial position to help out much more than that and still give us shower and wedding gifts. But I'm thankful for any help she or my FMIL and FFIL are giving us but FH and I will be paying most of the bill. And we have a guest list so far of 220 people! We're taking out a loan in order to pay for everything and also build up our credit so that when we look to buy a house in a few years, we'll show that we have a good track record. We're expecting some loss but we figure we'll be able to pay it off after the wedding.

And FH is FDNY and the rule for that I've heard is that you are supposed to invite all or none. Which in my opinion is ridiculous, because if we invite all of them with a guest, now you are talking about 100 more people to be added to the guest list. And I feel bad because I know that FH wants to invie them because they are like a second family (the whole FDNY brotherhood thing). He heard from one guy that had the most recent wedding, that he invited just the guys that he was gonna do his 20 years with on the job and that the other guys in the house understood. If anyone's FH is FDNY and can help us out with the etiquette involved in this, it would be greatly appreciated.

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Posted by lizzynyu

You are not alone on this. FH and I are footing most of our own wedding bill ourselves too. My FMIL and FFIL are helping us out by paying for the church and for the guests that they invite to the wedding and thier family. My mom is trying to help out as best she could by buying my wedding gown which is about $1200 and she's paying for the rehearsal dinner but she's not in a financial position to help out much more than that and still give us shower and wedding gifts. But I'm thankful for any help she or my FMIL and FFIL are giving us but FH and I will be paying most of the bill. And we have a guest list so far of 220 people! We're taking out a loan in order to pay for everything and also build up our credit so that when we look to buy a house in a few years, we'll show that we have a good track record. We're expecting some loss but we figure we'll be able to pay it off after the wedding.

And FH is FDNY and the rule for that I've heard is that you are supposed to invite all or none. Which in my opinion is ridiculous, because if we invite all of them with a guest, now you are talking about 100 more people to be added to the guest list. And I feel bad because I know that FH wants to invie them because they are like a second family (the whole FDNY brotherhood thing). He heard from one guy that had the most recent wedding, that he invited just the guys that he was gonna do his 20 years with on the job and that the other guys in the house understood. If anyone's FH is FDNY and can help us out with the etiquette involved in this, it would be greatly appreciated.

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A cousin just married a FDNY and she had said that the invitation policy was all or none and that they are all like that about weddings. She didn't want to invite them all, but out of courtesy she had to.

Me an FH are paying. My mom is paying for my dress and hair make up ect. everything for me. Which at this point help considering the rest is up to us!!!!.. I hate being BROKE.

me & FH and about 5% from my parents..
which is fine with me!

FH is pretty much paying for the whole thing...including his wedding band probably. I don't really have a job right now, and my parents can't really afford to help even though they'd like to. They did pay about $800 towards my dress, and my mom has picked us up little things here n there, but thats about it. His parents are paying for absolutely nothing... haven't even asked if we need help with it or anything, all they said is that my parents have to pay

We're paying for a large part of it, but we are getting help

RH, HM, DJ, and misc stuff FH and me
Photo, Video, Church -- Dad
Dress and all bride stuff - MOM
Flowers- StepDad
Limo and RD- FILs

Kudos and much credit to you for footing the entire bill solo!!!! I cannot even imagine how you are managing. I am paying half and FH is paying the other half.