This thread just made me smile. We are going to my parents house tonight straight from work. FH drives. I take the train. I just handed him a bag to take. I even said 'Can you please take this with you?' HE PUT IT ON THE FLOOR AND THEN STEPPED OVER IT WHEN HE LEFT, COMPLETELY FORGETTING IT. What is wrong with them???????
JennJay
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I like to blame it on their mothers for doing everything for them for their whole lives.
I agree 100%...FH only learned about a year ago how to do his own laundry (he's 27), so guess how much that helps me!
Hahaaha, mine jsut learned how to iron, and wash dishes. I still don't think he knows how to do his own laundry.....
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Just tell him that if he doesnt help out with the planning of the HM you would be more than happy to ask someone else to go with you See how fast he helps then!
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I like to blame it on their mothers for doing everything for them for their whole lives.
YUP!!!!!!!!
MCDO15
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can you ladies stop the male bashing!!!
some guys do stuff (in my case, i did a lot)
at least change it to most men don't do anything or some men... its not all of them
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sorry for the generalization......it's just that when it's 99.999999% we just lump you all together!!!
It's always nice to see a groom who wants to be involved.
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My DH was involved every step of the way. We planned everything together. I did all the research in the beginning and narrowed it down to a few choices and then we discussed them and chose together. He came to every appointment and gave his opinion.
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I can relate to what your saying. FH has not helped with any planning. everytime i ask him anything about the wedding he tells me to do what i like.
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can you ladies stop the male bashing!!!
some guys do stuff (in my case, i did a lot)
at least change it to most men don't do anything or some men... its not all of them
Tom, you are DEFINITELY the exception here!
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can you ladies stop the male bashing!!!
some guys do stuff (in my case, i did a lot)
at least change it to most men don't do anything or some men... its not all of them
Tom, you are DEFINITELY the exception here!
His mama must've raised him right...
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My DH did not have a mom that did everything for him and actually does a lot around the house. With wedding planning, though, I think 2 things happened.
First, he really was clueless about how far in advance things get booked up and I know he thought we had lots of time to do stuff. For example, he was the one that wanted the classic car for the limo. I kept reminding him he had to book it, and when we finally went to a showcase and he asked about the car he wanted (a few months before the wedding), he was told that the car was booked, he was shocked!! This was when he finally realized what I was talking about all that time.
Second, I think he still wanted me to be involved in the stuff he had to do, because he didn't want me to be unhappy with his choice, even when I told him it didn't matter to me - he could choose. When it came to planning the HM, though, he was great, because he had planned vacations before and knew exactly what to do and how far in advance he had to do it
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HA! I know what you mean
FH and I just got back from a showcase to meet with our DJ and when we walked in the house he goes 'you owe me one'
This is what FH says about Pre Cana! I could kill him especially since we are getting married in the Catholic church for his family! Shouldn't he owe me one???
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I like to blame it on their mothers for doing everything for them for their whole lives.
yes totally agree
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FH was in charge of ONE thing: the tuxes. I figured between him and my dad, they could figure something out for all the GM if I give them a sample.
GUESS AGAIN, Steph! He still made me go with them all and him, my dad, my brothers and the other groomsman were looking around with their thumbs up their butts. When they left, they all said, so what are we wearing? GOD!!!!!! It took them 35 minutes collectively to find out what size shoe they were (the sizes varried slightly).
Then, to top it off...the BM is from out of state, and it turned out we needed more measurements than we thought. So, he calls the BM, they get the measurements and call us back and this was TWO WEEKS ago and FH still hasn't called the tux place with the new measurements. Then he tells me 'I thought you were going to do it.'
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I like to blame it on their mothers for doing everything for them for their whole lives.
I could not agree w/ you more MOMMAS BOYS
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My DH also had everything done for him. But he was the worst kind of that. He wanted to be involved in everything and since he had no clue he had preconceived notions of how things were and he was wrong. It was very frustrating. I can't think of an example right now, but I will..
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girl i know what u mean
MCDO15
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I have a question? if your man doesn't do anything (cook, clean, help plan the wedding, etc.....)
A. why are ya getting married? B. what does he do that is productfull?
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HA! I know what you mean
FH and I just got back from a showcase to meet with our DJ and when we walked in the house he goes 'you owe me one'
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My DH was involved every step of the way. We planned everything together. I did all the research in the beginning and narrowed it down to a few choices and then we discussed them and chose together. He came to every appointment and gave his opinion.
My FH wasn't into the planning at the beginning (and he wanted the NY wedding) but he wanted to go to vendors. Now we like going around and both ask questions and don't even have to look at one another when we hear something we know we don't like.
That being said, unless I'm constantly reminding him, he doens't get me the info I need for the guest list, or other little things I ask him- so he's a little of both.
FH knows how to iron sort of- he thought you ironed dress pants on the side seams- not the front pleat! He was cute about it. Otherwise, he's been doing chores most of his life- it's FMIL that I have to worry about- all she ever did was cook and laundry- she never cleaned- FH's dad did and he passed away!
