WHYYYYY???

...can't my guests just say 'accepts' or 'Regrets' without putting up a fight?!?! Is anyone else having this problem? All responses were supposed to be returned last Saturday but we are STILL chasing people down. How hard it is to put a self addressed, stamped envelope in the mail?!?!?!!

FH was talking to his friend trying to figure out if he's coming or not. The friend says 'Yeah I'm coming put me down for two, I lost the card' (He was invited without guest!)I didn't feel like arguing about it so I was like ok fine just let him bring his 'girlfriend' just get the name for the seating cards.

(I say girlfriend in quotes because he seems to have a new one every few days. In fact, last year he sent FH a picture of his girlfriend of the day naked with her legs spread on one of their 'dates.' Classy right?)

Anyway, so FH asks the name and the friend gives a guy's name. I hit the roof. This is not a f*cking party where you just bring a friend because you feel like it!

I'm losing it, girls. Give me the strength to get through this last month in one piece!!

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how about all the people CLOSE to me (sister, dad , bridal party) saying STILL (2 weeks after the deadline) 'I may or may not bring a date'

we gave in to a few + guests too.

we had someone ask to bring their BF then they broke up (reason why she wasnt invited +1 to begin with) and asked to bring a friend. we gave in too. a little nervous bc the friend is kind of a big drinker, but usually not around our friend.

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We had someone add on a guest and then NEITHER showed for the wedding though we paid for both. It's beyond rude and stressful for us but it will not effect your actual day.

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The bring a friend thing just annoys me to no end. I get it, you're uncomfortable coming alone, but what would make you think that I'M comfortable having a stranger at my wedding?? Someone who I will probably never see again. Everyone thinks that they're a special little snowflake who deserves special treatment.

I can't wait till some of these people get married and I get to make all kinds of outlandish requests lol

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Posted by snarkyspice

This is not a f*cking party where you just bring a friend because you feel like it!

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OMG - I JUST said this. I had a bridesmaid not respond so I said to her obviously you are coming but are you bringing a date. She said I guess put me down for two for now, and if i cant find anyone i'll just bring my cousin.

Um no. This is not a backyard BBQ and you are in the bridal party. How will you be able to entertain your cousin all night when you're going to be busy with pictures, etc. And put you for two for now, like this may change? I have to provide a headcount, I can't tell them x number of guests - for now.

This is what I thought to myself, but I smile and nodded when she said it because I hate drama.

I am shocked at how many of FH's friends are coming solo. It's going to be a sausage fest. Too bad all my girlfriend's have dates :)

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Crashing. I totally agree how utterly rude it is. I dread the whole process or invites. What I also dont understand is, if your single (esp in the bridal party) this would be a great way to meet someone! Suck it up and go alone..just like you did in school. No one walked you to class right? So i'm pretty sure you can get through a wedding without bringing your cousin and you might be surprised when you meet someone. Just saying..

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Posted by snarkyspice

...can't my guests just say 'accepts' or 'Regrets' without putting up a fight?!?! Is anyone else having this problem? All responses were supposed to be returned last Saturday but we are STILL chasing people down. How hard it is to put a self addressed, stamped envelope in the mail?!?!?!!

FH was talking to his friend trying to figure out if he's coming or not. The friend says 'Yeah I'm coming put me down for two, I lost the card' (He was invited without guest!)I didn't feel like arguing about it so I was like ok fine just let him bring his 'girlfriend' just get the name for the seating cards.

(I say girlfriend in quotes because he seems to have a new one every few days. In fact, last year he sent FH a picture of his girlfriend of the day naked with her legs spread on one of their 'dates.' Classy right?)

Anyway, so FH asks the name and the friend gives a guy's name. I hit the roof. This is not a f*cking party where you just bring a friend because you feel like it!

I'm losing it, girls. Give me the strength to get through this last month in one piece!!

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Yup! I'm having the same problem. From guests bringing their 'friends' with them to family members who serial date people off of the internet and want to bring one of these randoms. This is just my personal opinion but if I'm not in a relationship or dating someone, I'm not going to bring my girlfriend as my +1. If I can't handle attending alone, I'd rather not go and just send a gift. Grrr.

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double post. sorry

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The RSVP with caveats and maybe are effing ridiculous. There are seating charts and favors and accommodations. Like we all just felt like investing hundreds of dollars and hours of time to print specific names, and stuffed little self addressed envelopes with pre paid postage. My sister in law had people saying, maybe we will bring the kids, maybe we wont. Like come on dudes, you know we have to make arrangements for everyone, especially kids.

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Posted by snarkyspice
I can't wait till some of these people get married and I get to make all kinds of outlandish requests lol

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I think i say this once a week at this point in the planning!

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Posted by BrideToB

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Posted by snarkyspice

This is not a f*cking party where you just bring a friend because you feel like it!

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OMG - I JUST said this. I had a bridesmaid not respond so I said to her obviously you are coming but are you bringing a date. She said I guess put me down for two for now, and if i cant find anyone i'll just bring my cousin.

Um no. This is not a backyard BBQ and you are in the bridal party. How will you be able to entertain your cousin all night when you're going to be busy with pictures, etc. And put you for two for now, like this may change? I have to provide a headcount, I can't tell them x number of guests - for now.

This is what I thought to myself, but I smile and nodded when she said it because I hate drama.

I am shocked at how many of FH's friends are coming solo. It's going to be a sausage fest. Too bad all my girlfriend's have dates :)

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I feel the exact same way!! It's a WEDDING, it's not a regular party where people just show up. People seriously don't understand how much planning and money is involved. I've been so shocked at some people's actions. Can't wait until these people get married, then they will understand!

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Posted by 92813bRide

The RSVP with caveats and maybe are effing ridiculous. There are seating charts and favors and accommodations. Like we all just felt like investing hundreds of dollars and hours of time to print specific names, and stuffed little self addressed envelopes with pre paid postage. My sister in law had people saying, maybe we will bring the kids, maybe we wont. Like come on dudes, you know we have to make arrangements for everyone, especially kids.

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This!!!

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Posted by snarkyspice

This is not a f*cking party where you just bring a friend because you feel like it!

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OMG - I JUST said this. I had a bridesmaid not respond so I said to her obviously you are coming but are you bringing a date. She said I guess put me down for two for now, and if i cant find anyone i'll just bring my cousin.

Um no. This is not a backyard BBQ and you are in the bridal party. How will you be able to entertain your cousin all night when you're going to be busy with pictures, etc. And put you for two for now, like this may change? I have to provide a headcount, I can't tell them x number of guests - for now.

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This ANNOYS ME TO NO END! Guests are DATES, not family members, not neighbors you've known since you were 3 and certainly not people you met a week ago in a bar and don't know their last name. WOULD THEY TAKE THEIR COUSIN OUT ON A DATE? I think not, considering I'm fairly certain it's illegal. I don't understand this phenomenon. I really, really dont. I invited everyone with a guest, but I'm not gonna lie if people show up with their second cousin or bff I'm going to be PISSED.

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We purposely only invited people with guests if we knew for a fact that they were in a serious, comitted, long term relationship with that person. I would NEVER bring a random to someone else's wedding and I would expect that others would afford me that same respect.

I'm not trying to be a bridezilla (I promise! lol) but this wedding means a lot to me. We have invested so much time and effort into making this day beautiful and I am so excited to share it with friends, family and loved ones. NOT so and so's cousin/hookup/match.com date.

We have had to leave friends off our original guest list in the interst of keeping costs down so why would I welcome a stranger??

I'm so frustrated. I literally haven't had a good night of sleep in a week lol.

WHYYYYY??? - Long Island Weddings

People bringing random dates made me think of my friend's wedding. Our mutual friend and her boyfriend were all over that wedding video. They were like the only ones on the dance floor for every song, making out at the slow songs, etc. They are literally all over the video. Then they broke up right after. So now when my friend watches the video we are always going to see this girl's ex all over it. That stuff obviously happens to anyone so that's not the issue. But I'm just thinking of the people who want to bring random cousins and Match.com people. This is usually a highly documented day, even for the guests. I just don't know why people want to bring their flavor of the month and pay more for the gift because usually a gift from two is larger than a gift from one, just to have someone sitting next to them to eat with when usually your at a table of 10 anyway. I've been invited to weddings without a date before and I easily got through the four hours. It's really not a big deal.

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Posted by larlynn

WOULD THEY TAKE THEIR COUSIN OUT ON A DATE? I think not, considering I'm fairly certain it's illegal.

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This made me LOL

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Posted by snarkyspice

We purposely only invited people with guests if we knew for a fact that they were in a serious, comitted, long term relationship with that person. I would NEVER bring a random to someone else's wedding and I would expect that others would afford me that same respect.

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THIS :)
This whole thread makes me
At least we are all going through it!!!!