will you call

Robeymuse Posted: Jun 10, 2003 10:02 PM

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I already call them Mom & Dad...which is strange because FH doesn't, he calls them by their first names!

He also calls my parents by their first names.

lltravis Posted: Jun 10, 2003 10:09 PM

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This is such a funny post because i always have this conversation with people. Fh and I have been togetehr 7 years and i still call them mr and mrs....it feels a little formal to me at this point especially when we are in our pj's at christmas but they have never told me to call them anything else so unitl they do i feel like i have to just go wiht the flow. FH wants me to call them mom and dad once we get married but i think i might have to wean off mr and mrs first!

princess99 Posted: Jun 10, 2003 10:26 PM

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I really do not call her anything, but refer to her by her first name or if someone says to me and refers to her as MOm I acknowledge it. I tell my FH it will be better when we have kids cause then I can call her Grandma or Grandma Cindy.

dubliner Posted: Jun 10, 2003 10:31 PM

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I'm crashing here

We got married 2 weeks ago, and till then I always called IL by their first names, then I got an email from FMIL signed 'mom'. I replied addressing it to her first name, and I think she got the message.

I'd feel weird calling them mom and dad when I have my own

Jen_n_Dale Posted: Jun 10, 2003 10:42 PM

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I call his mom by her first name. His dad I only met 3 times so I don't call him anything. He calls my parents by their first names. His mom has signed stuff like 'mom' or this is 'mom' calling. I don't know if that is a hint. But it feels weird for me.

swags1016 Posted: Jun 10, 2003 10:44 PM

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FFIL goes by a nickname so I call him that. I try not to call FMIL anything that could get me into much trouble!

DaniRN Posted: Jun 10, 2003 10:49 PM

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I used to call them Mr & Mrs 'so&so' but since we got engaged they insist I call them by their first names. I would feel awkward calling them mom and dad though---I already have a mom & dad.

Lunatrek Posted: Jun 11, 2003 09:05 AM

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Not me! We're on a first name basis, but I could never call my FILs Mom or Dad, because I am very close with my own mother and no one else can come close to that. I also grew up without a father (until my mom got remarried) so Dad doesn't feel right for me either. But I do call my FH's grandfather Grandpa! I never had one of those myself, so it feels kinda nice.... he's such a sweet guy.

SeptemberBride03 Posted: Jun 11, 2003 09:23 AM

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I don't know what I'll do. We've been together for 6 yrs and I've always called them by their first names. They want me to call them Mom & Dad, and I'm close with them and I would but the thing is I have a stepfather that is my Dad (I don't talk to my 'real' Dad) and I have always called him by his first name - I don't know how after 20 years to change what I call him and if I don't call him Dad, then how can I call FFIL Dad? I agree with the grandpa thing - that will be much easier!

Chloegirl Posted: Jun 11, 2003 09:30 AM

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Probably first names....Mom and Dad doesnt come naturally. Maybe after more years pass...but dont think so.....

cw0904 Posted: Jun 11, 2003 09:32 AM

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I still call them Mr and Mrs XXX. I won't call them anything else unless they say I can. But I refuse to call them Mom and Dad. Just thinking about it doesn't seem right to me.

bethsiar Posted: Jun 11, 2003 09:41 AM

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LOL, I WISH I could call them that, but soooooo awkward. I accidentally called his grandfather GRANDPA (because every grandpa is just GRANDPA I think it just works out that way

And I swear the whole room gasped

rosebud Posted: Jun 11, 2003 09:45 AM

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First name!

Kim921 Posted: Jun 11, 2003 09:55 AM

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That is so funny because I thought I was the only one who avoided having to call them anything. They are the sweetest people in the world, but I don't know about mom or dad. I am just worried about when we get married because all of FI's siblings spouses call them mom and dad and if I don't, I don't want them to think I don't adore them.

eroxgirl Posted: Jun 11, 2003 09:59 AM

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I don't know if I will call them mom and dad. I might call his mother mom but I could never call her step-father dad. It just doesn't sound right to my ears.

shelzyp Posted: Jun 11, 2003 10:03 AM

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I don't need another set of parents, I hav my own. I just direct questions to them, or when refering to other one, I call them FH's mom or dad. We have been together for 10 years, and we are fairly close, but they have never told me to call them by their first names, and have never told them to call them mom and dad. And I feel uncomfortable calling them by their first names, because I was also taught that you call people by Mr. & Mrs if they are adults. I only call a couple of my friends paretns by their first names, and that is because they insisted.

smooch Posted: Jun 11, 2003 10:08 AM

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I try to avoid talking to them at all, but when I do have to address them, I use Mr. and Mrs. Unforunately, they've ruined any chance of me ever viewing them as anything but acquaintences.