Would anyone else be annoyed about this??? Vent....

Original post by LRR223

May 13, 2008 11:59 AM

Okay, so my bridal shower is supposed to be a surprise, which it still is...i don't know when it is, where it is, etc....but, being the nosy detective I am, I've been asking my mom, sister, other bm's about who's rsvp'd, etc....that's just me, i'm curious and excited!

So, b/c i had to ask who was coming, i JUST found out that one of my own Bm's has rsvp'd no....she CAN'T come to the shower!!!!!!! No real reason, just no...can't make it! ***? I'm really upset and feel like i'll look like a fool at my shower....my own BM can't come to my shower (when i've been to EVERYTHING else for her)??? Some friend of mine!!!!

Has this happened to anyone else? Where you mad/angry/upset/disappointed? Am I totally over-reacting?

sorry, needed to vent!

LeeLee111 Posted: May 13, 2008 12:23 PM

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I'm shocked, thats awful. I'm sorry they're not coming, I would be pissed unless they're very far but I have a BM from Virginia that I expect to be at my shower.

snowcutie82 Posted: May 13, 2008 12:31 PM

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Posted by GinaZ

Im sorry Thats def annoying!2 of my BMs didn't make it to my NY shower- I didn't really expect them to as they live in MA and ME. And my mom threw me shower in maine and they went to that. BUT, they were supposed to come and the night before called my sister and said tehy couldnt afford the gas. And its frustratinig cus I know Ill be at both their showers and practically planning them.

this should mean i better see u at mine

i would be upset cuz i would want everyone there but i would understand depending on the reason. but if u don't know the reason...then i guess it might be worth asking someone first (or at least mentioning it).

SparkyandAng Posted: May 13, 2008 12:42 PM

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Posted by LRR223

Okay, so my bridal shower is supposed to be a surprise, which it still is...i don't know when it is, where it is, etc....but, being the nosy detective I am, I've been asking my mom, sister, other bm's about who's rsvp'd, etc....that's just me, i'm curious and excited!

So, b/c i had to ask who was coming, i JUST found out that one of my own Bm's has rsvp'd no....she CAN'T come to the shower!!!!!!! No real reason, just no...can't make it! ***? I'm really upset and feel like i'll look like a fool at my shower....my own BM can't come to my shower (when i've been to EVERYTHING else for her)??? Some friend of mine!!!!

Has this happened to anyone else? Where you mad/angry/upset/disappointed? Am I totally over-reacting?

sorry, needed to vent!

There is a possibility she has something else to do that day. I was in a wedding and couldn't attend the shower b/c her family didn't ask me before they booked it and my cousins Confirmation was the same day and I was his sponsor. I'm sure she would make it if she could.

mrspalomino148 Posted: May 13, 2008 01:03 PM

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This happened to me, she had a paper due a few days later or w/e ... she could have came for a few hours I thought .. and I was very upset ... but we talked it out and everything was alot better .. maybe talk to her and tell her how you feel, she might not realize just how important this is for you

Mrs. V 2008 Posted: May 13, 2008 01:04 PM

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I would definately try talking to her! i too would be pretty upset

FutureMrsCarrieri Posted: May 13, 2008 07:09 PM

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I've had issues with so-called friends in the past -- my entire BP except for two people is family. Of the two, one is engaged to my sister and the other has been FH's best friend for 15 years....

I'm sick of people and their sh!t

Snick n Nick Posted: May 13, 2008 07:12 PM

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One BM couldn't come b/c she lives in CA, which I told her was ok when I asked her to be in BP in the first place. She really can't afford to come.

FSIL who is also a BM and in college in PA decided not to come, and that upset me a little b/c if she really wanted to I think she could have....she just chose not to. But....it is what it is.

Jamnike Posted: May 13, 2008 11:21 PM

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im sorry that she isnt comming but if it makes you feel better my FMIL didnt even RSVP no show up to my shower

NYCGirl2008 Posted: May 14, 2008 10:06 AM

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I would be disappointed but never mad. She is your good friend so I hope you trust if she said no it is for a good reason. I do suggest though you ask her about it in a non-confrontational way so it doesn't seethe in you.