Would this bother you?

net267 Posted: Aug 12, 2011 03:49 PM

Would this bother you?

FH & I had our e-party last year and I worried so much about who we invited and how to address the invites. He has a very large family and we are not having kids at the wedding. I wanted to make sure everyone was included and not upset anyone.

WELL....we get an invite yesterday to his cousins eparty. The envelope says:

FH full name & Fiance!

Now mind you I have been with FH for almost 5 years and now I am reffered to as 'fiance'

Not even a first name and no last name...Just 'Fiance'

Am I blowing this out of proportion that it bothers me that they did this?

mjm2012 Posted: Aug 12, 2011 03:51 PM

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that would definitely annoy me but who knows maybe they had temporary amnesia? i almost think & guest is slightly better.

Evan820 Posted: Aug 12, 2011 03:59 PM

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Do you live together? I got the same thing to my cousins engagement party- FH was not on the invite just my name “and guest”. I thought it was totally rude since me and FH live together in his apt (he owns it). I have a really small fam and they are usually very warm and welcoming. When I asked my Aunt why she did this, she said it was just the formal way to invite an un-married couple. I was def pissed though.

net267 Posted: Aug 12, 2011 04:09 PM

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Posted by Evan820

Do you live together? I got the same thing to my cousins engagement party- FH was not on the invite just my name “and guest”. I thought it was totally rude since me and FH live together in his apt (he owns it). I have a really small fam and they are usually very warm and welcoming. When I asked my Aunt why she did this, she said it was just the formal way to invite an un-married couple. I was def pissed though.

Yes we live together. I may have rathered 'and guest' since I don't think they know my last name (not that it's hard to find out from another family member)
I feel like introducing myself as 'fiance' at the next family party! LOL
I know it's silly but I try so hard to be PC with the wedding planning and such and would like the same back!

connied Posted: Aug 12, 2011 04:25 PM

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Very annoying and rude! At least if you are going to invite a cousin, find out what his other half's name is!

Soon2BeABC Posted: Aug 12, 2011 04:35 PM

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I just got a wedding invitation and on the outside it just had my name, I wouldve thought both our names would been on the invite. On the inside it just said our first name. I found it weird. Day later we got another invite to another wedding and it had both our names on the outside which i find is to be the correct way. I didnt let it bother me. Everyone does things diff thats all.

Bearsgirl Posted: Aug 12, 2011 04:40 PM

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yes that would annoy me!

SMDC2012 Posted: Aug 12, 2011 05:13 PM

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This would bother me too but maybe they were trying to be cute about it? I mean they could have at least addressed it to 'the soon-to-be-mrs... and not just fiance.

I went to a wedding with FH a few years ago, the invite was addressed to us both, his name and mine, but the escort card has his name 'and guest'. I was pissed!

soon2beMrsHenry92912 Posted: Aug 12, 2011 06:21 PM

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It would irk me...but like the others have said, everyone does things differently. I do think it would be quite funny if you introduced yourself as 'fiance'

dmbfan36 Posted: Aug 12, 2011 06:42 PM

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I went to a wedding with FH maybe 2 years ago and our escort card said FH's name and guest. We had been together for 2 years at that point but I didn't let it bother me. The bride's mother came up to me later in the night and apologized that my name wasn't on it. She had done the escort card and wasn't 100% sure of my last name and did it that way. It was nice that she took the time to say something.

christinajimmy06 Posted: Aug 12, 2011 08:22 PM

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It definitely would have bothered me.

I got an invite for an engagement party, the envelope was written out to me and then my fiancee's name was whited out!!
I was fuming!

(Turns out, they were on a limited budget and only inviting certain people with guests...)

At that point, I think using another envelope would have been better..

linda_art Posted: Aug 12, 2011 08:25 PM

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I SERIOUSLY hate people sometimes. FH sister got married last year. We were living in together in the apt attached to his parents house at the time and she fu#$%^ wrote his name and guest. I said something but it wasn't even worth it... Some people have issues. For me, I was just glad they weren't my issues.

pixietina Posted: Aug 12, 2011 08:35 PM

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That would piss me off. The cousin could have at least called your FH to find out your name if they forgot. So rude and lazy!

Bride in 2012 Posted: Aug 12, 2011 09:30 PM

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i'd be offended but i wouldn't lose sleep over it... at least they gave you the title of fiance and not 'guest' though lol

gmcamp Posted: Aug 13, 2011 12:00 AM

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Posted by christinajimmy06

It definitely would have bothered me.

I got an invite for an engagement party, the envelope was written out to me and then my fiancee's name was whited out!!
I was fuming!

(Turns out, they were on a limited budget and only inviting certain people with guests...)

At that point, I think using another envelope would have been better..

Seriously unbelievable! Could they not have spared an envelope!?

jenna618 Posted: Aug 13, 2011 12:05 AM

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Posted by christinajimmy06

It definitely would have bothered me.

I got an invite for an engagement party, the envelope was written out to me and then my fiancee's name was whited out!!
I was fuming!

(Turns out, they were on a limited budget and only inviting certain people with guests...)

At that point, I think using another envelope would have been better..

white out?!?! Wow now they really just needed a new envelope on that one! How unbelievable!

SEB102707 Posted: Aug 13, 2011 09:22 AM

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Posted by christinajimmy06

It definitely would have bothered me.

I got an invite for an engagement party, the envelope was written out to me and then my fiancee's name was whited out!!
I was fuming!

(Turns out, they were on a limited budget and only inviting certain people with guests...)

At that point, I think using another envelope would have been better..

Is this a real story because I feel like it is so ridiculous and tacky!!! I'm with you, just get another envelope. It would of been annoying if FH wasn't invited but at least their wouldn't of been white out showing that he was originally invited!