I'm a pretty sensitive person to begin with, and the wedding has heightened it, I think. But here goes:
I have lived with my FH for over 2 years. In that time, there have been certain family members of his who send us mail (holiday cards, invitations, etc) with his full name and just my first name (Mr. John Smith and Jane or worse, Mr. John Smith and Fiancee). I have even gotten pieces of mail from them addressed directly to me with just my first name on them! I'm actually surprised that mail with just a first name on it would even get delivered, but anyway....
I've told my FMIL that it bothers me, and she claims to have told these people, but still it keeps happening. I stamp every piece of outgoing mail with both of our names and our address......
As I said in the beginning, maybe I am just being sensitive, but it does bother me a lot. I mean, how hard is it to ask someone what my last name is? I would never send out a piece of mail to someone without their full name. I just think it's inconsiderate. Really just needed to vent........
Mich1108
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Yes, it irks the hell out of me, especially if it's from someone who has the ability to easily find out my or his last name. I have a cousin who, before we were married, addressed things to me & guest or me & fiance when this cousin is very close friends with my videographer (the husband of another cousin) & sees & speaks to the guy ALL the time & could have taken 2 secs to call him & say, 'What's Michele's fiance's name?' It's rude and lazy. I did not send out one invitation without finding out everyone's names, spelling, etc. It shows people that you care enough to include them in something & I think it's worth the phone call to get someone's name right. It's little things like that, that don't cost money but make a difference with how people look at your invitations.
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Posted by aliciahelene
I do think its rude, but if it makes you feel any better, for the longets time I didnt have a name..i was ' Dex;'s fiance'...ohh I hated it!!!!
Actually this still happens to me. There is no Chinese translation of my name so Jim's Grandmother just refers to me as Jim's Girlfriend. Now we got engaged and it's Jim's wife to be. Then I'll just be Jim's wife.
I have no name!!
LOL!!! Im not even offended! I have no clue what her name is. So I just call her Jim's grandmother. All's Fair!
BoogieDownBride
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I think in some ways it would bother me less if they just didn't write my name on the envelope at all! It's funny, one time I got fed up with a cousin of my FI who sent us tons of mail w/o my last name on it. So for one of her kids birthdays, we gave her a card with my full name signed inside. She either didn't care, or had no clue what it was (maybe she thought it was some sort of foreign birthday greeting LOL) but she still to this day sends mail without my last name.
Eh, I guess it's true that you can't really help that other people have crap manners.
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Posted by wenndypoo
Ohhhh yeah!!!! FI's family does this all the time. Or they don't invite me at all! The best is when his cousin got married last year, and sent our invite to his parents house! Hellooo, make a phone call, get the address, you lazy poop! Poor manners drive me crazy!!
My own family would not send me invites or call when I lived on my own since I was 18!!! They would just assume inviting my parents was enough. I hate stupid stuff like that.
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Posted by wc0143
My own family would not send me invites or call when I lived on my own since I was 18!!! They would just assume inviting my parents was enough. I hate stupid stuff like that.
My Grandma told me that her neighbor got a wedding invitation from a relative and the invite was addressed to this woman and her son, who is like 60 years old, lives nowhere near her, and is married with a family of his own! I can't believe how lazy people can be!!!!
Maribelle7777
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i just pass it off as people not remembering what my last name is. it's not a big deal. at least they are putting your name.
some of my friends put just my name on the envelope. did it bug me? not really. they know i know they mean 'mary and Cxxxx' and it's writeen on the inside. Next year if they don't put Mr. & Mrs. Cxxxxx then i'll wonder what's up...
