Ok, here's the situation. I'm having 3 MOH. Two of which, I've been friends with since 7th grade, and High school. (MOH 1 & 2) They all know how I LOVE South Beach, and one of my MOH (MOH 3)wants to give me a bachelorette week end there! (I would LOVE it) Well, the other two complained that they would not be able to go for financial reasons, with it being so close to the wedding and all. One of them recently let it slip, that they (MOH 1 & 2) just booked a trip (for 5 days!) to go to ARUBA to DE-STRESS before my wedding! I'm getting married in April. They are going to Aruba in February. Am I wrong, or is ARUBA way more $ than Miami?
I'm pretty pissed, and everytime I talk to them it boils me up! Am I wrong to be pissed?
Would you be?
mrsh2b
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Yeah, I would be pretty pissed, especially if they didn't invite me along!
MJDoc12
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honestly--i would be a little disappointed....but you have to remember that while they are your MOH's....they DO have their own lives....and your wedding is not the be all--end all of their plans.
for whatever reason--they decided to book a vacation to aruba (i'm sure it's NOT just to de-stress b4 the wedding, they probably said that in hopes you would understand) they have every right to book a vacation if they want to. they don't have to make sure they get any type of approval or pass it on to your for review first.
does is suuck that they now can not afford to go to south beach for a bach. party? sure it does--but i don't think it requires that you get boiled up about it. if you wanna go to south beach--and there are others who can go--then go! have fun...and don't fret about these 2. perhaps you all can have a nite out in NY as a 2nd bach. party.
in the grand scheme of things--it's really not a gigantic deal! you'll still be able to enjoy your bach. party, with those who are able to attend. don't focus on the ones who can't go--focus on the fun you can have or plan something else, if you really want them to go!
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yeah i would would be upset and attempt to tell them how it hurt! but not for nothing....if they can't go b/c of $ and your MOH 3 wants to plan something let her and give her all the friends you would like to share that day with and if they don't come then they miss out on a life time of fun!!! no your PROBLEM
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I wasn't expecting them to OK their vacation with me, but they were not even planning a trip until after I told them I wanted to go to Miami. I am going to So. Beach without them, but the reason that I'm pissed is b/c they knew about So. Beach 1st. Complained that they could'nt afford it, then booked the trip a few days after the So. Beach conversation.
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Posted by MJDoc12
honestly--i would be a little disappointed....but you have to remember that while they are your MOH's....they DO have their own lives....and your wedding is not the be all--end all of their plans.
for whatever reason--they decided to book a vacation to aruba (i'm sure it's NOT just to de-stress b4 the wedding, they probably said that in hopes you would understand) they have every right to book a vacation if they want to. they don't have to make sure they get any type of approval or pass it on to your for review first.
does is suuck that they now can not afford to go to south beach for a bach. party? sure it does--but i don't think it requires that you get boiled up about it. if you wanna go to south beach--and there are others who can go--then go! have fun...and don't fret about these 2. perhaps you all can have a nite out in NY as a 2nd bach. party.
in the grand scheme of things--it's really not a gigantic deal! you'll still be able to enjoy your bach. party, with those who are able to attend. don't focus on the ones who can't go--focus on the fun you can have or plan something else, if you really want them to go!
WELL SAID!!!!! i know i would prob be really pissed at first...thinking they cant afford to go with me, but they can do it on there own, BUT if they had orig said they booked a trip already and couldnt do both I would have to understand EVEN if i didnt like it!!
i hear ya on what your saying, but forget it and go with the ones that want to go with you!!!!!
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I'd be upset too! How much stress is she really under for your wedding?
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ok if they are maids of honor not matrons then I say they are jealous. They want to be the ones having the wedding and soon to be happily married. they realise that you are not looking to go out in south beach to hook up. and they would rather go out and hunt in aruba then hang with the girls in south beach. Planning a wedding sometimes brings out the worst in people. I say go without them and let them morn their lost wingman in aruba.
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I wasn't expecting them to OK their vacation with me, but they were not even planning a trip until after I told them I wanted to go to Miami. I am going to So. Beach without them, but the reason that I'm pissed is b/c they knew about So. Beach 1st. Complained that they could'nt afford it, then booked the trip a few days after the So. Beach conversation.
Whether it is right or not, my feeling would def. be hurt
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Posted by SN2BMRSBURTE
Posted by ealvarado0178
I wasn't expecting them to OK their vacation with me, but they were not even planning a trip until after I told them I wanted to go to Miami. I am going to So. Beach without them, but the reason that I'm pissed is b/c they knew about So. Beach 1st. Complained that they could'nt afford it, then booked the trip a few days after the So. Beach conversation.
Whether it is right or not, my feeling would def. be hurt
Yah, my feelings would be hurt as well....but I would move on. Definitely wouldn't be mad at them though no matter how the trip was planned.....
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Yeah, I would be mad too, but I woul djust say ok, you go where you are going and me and the MOH who wants to take you are going to South Beach to DESTRESS before the wedding! Too bad for them!
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I would definitely be pissed. they have the money to go to aruba for 5 days but not for a weekend in South Beach? that doesn't make sense..... you should go with the rest of your crew......without them! the party is about YOU!!!! Go have a great time! Have a 'call a cab' at wet willie's for me! those things are sensational!!!
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I would be very hurt. I also think they should have included you on their vacation or maybe you all could have sat down and picked somewhere together which you all could afford to go to.
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I don't think I'd be angry, just disappointed. I have friends who don't make the trip from Boston to NY for bachelorette parties and bridal showers because it's too much travel and too much money. I think my friends, after 10 weddings, have really loosened up about what's right and wrong (in our minds) when it comes to weddings. I'd be disappointed that I couldn't have fun with those friends, but we all have so much of our own stuff going on I can't expect everyone to make all the trips. Even MOHs and other bridal party members.
ETA - We had a similar situation recently where a friend was a reader in another friends wedding. She felt she had to lie to the bride about not being able to attend her bachelorette because she wanted to go away with her boyfriend. The bride eventually found out, but she didn't mind! She understood people sometimes have their own thing that they have to or want to do.
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NovemberBride- are you in my head? That's exactly how I feel! I've been close with these girls forever! Since I heard I was going to Miami, I've had 'Call me a Cab' on my mind! I'll think of you as I chug one down! LOL!
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woooooo that would piss me off a whole lot!!!
jax1023
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Yeah, I;d be kinda annoyed. Since you all could have gone on vacation and just chilled out!
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I would be angry at the fact that they didn't tell me that the reason they didn't have money is because they are going on their own trip.
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NovemberBride- are you in my head? That's exactly how I feel! I've been close with these girls forever! Since I heard I was going to Miami, I've had 'Call me a Cab' on my mind! I'll think of you as I chug one down! LOL!
LOL! that's awesome! Definitely have a few of those! well, it depends on how wasted you want to get! last time I had one, I was drinking it while I was walking..........by the time I got to the Clevelander I was holding on to whatever was stationary! I think I only walked a block and a half!
you're going to have a fabulous time! you better rub it in their faces how AWESOME it was!!!!!! that'll teach them to mess with you!
BTW, when are you going?
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Personally I think you are taking this a little too personal. They may not have the plan specifically the trip to Aruba, but knew they would be going on vacation and the bachelorette trip would put them over finacially. They have every right to go on vacation. Yes its your wedding, but honestly you can expect to have them put their lives on hold just because you are getting married.
