Would you be insulted....

Original post by Mrs.C 102608

Oct 04, 2007 09:05 PM

if you asked a close friend to be in your bridal party and then they didnt ask you to be in theirs?

sugarkube4 Posted: Oct 04, 2007 10:15 PM

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I would be.. That's suxx

Mrs.C 102608 Posted: Oct 04, 2007 10:16 PM

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Posted by kellyannebrennan

A small part of me would be resentful- unless like others say she was keeping it to family or had to meet a certain number of groomsmen. I would hold a grudge silently though.

I am going to keep it to myself i guess. I will get over it eventually.

Randilotus Posted: Oct 04, 2007 10:18 PM

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If she was a CLOSE friend yes!!!

Tori9299 Posted: Oct 04, 2007 10:21 PM

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yes I would be hurt. and question the friendship.

jennandrolo Posted: Oct 04, 2007 10:25 PM

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yes i would be especially if it was a good friend

BNBride60 Posted: Oct 04, 2007 10:26 PM

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It would depend on the circumstances...if knew she was doing only family to avoid having a huge BP or to avoid hurting other friends, I'd understand. If she just had a huge BP and didn't ask me, I'd probably wonder why.

Mrs.C 102608 Posted: Oct 04, 2007 10:28 PM

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I dont know if I am more hurt or insulted

xXxNovember08xXx Posted: Oct 04, 2007 10:31 PM

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Mrs. V 2008 Posted: Oct 04, 2007 10:41 PM

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depends..if i weren't friends with them anymore at the time of their wedding..then no...

Snowflake08 Posted: Oct 04, 2007 10:45 PM

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depends
i was in my friends and i didnt ask her because im only having my sister as matron of honor

menc Posted: Oct 04, 2007 10:50 PM

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Yes, but only if she was having ab ig wedding party and had everyone and excluded me. If she decided to do something small I would not be offended.

bigrd37 Posted: Oct 04, 2007 10:59 PM

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it definitely depends on the situation. I have been in several wedding parties and would love to have all those girls in my BP (even though I'm not as close with some of them anymore) plus about 4 other friends (who haven't gotten married yet), but that would make my BP just too big and FH doesn't have enough guys to ask either. So I decided to keep it just family and have MOH (my sister) and 2 BM (FSIL and cousin). I explained to all my friends the situation and they were all understanding. I feel horrible b/c I would love to have all my good friends, but sometimes that just isnt possible and I hope they understand.

If you're friend just didn't include you, then yes, I would be upset!

PauliesGirl Posted: Oct 04, 2007 11:03 PM

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Depends if the friendship is the same as it was or if she had a bunch of sisters or something that were taking up places.

I'm sorry that you're hurt, that really sux.

JavyL008 Posted: Oct 04, 2007 11:04 PM

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It would depend...like I don't have many girls in my family, no sister, no FSIL, etc. so I am using more friends. If those same friends have 3 sisters, FSIL, etc. for example I'd understand being left out. If however other maybe less close friends were included and I was left out then I'd be upset...

Mrs.C 102608 Posted: Oct 04, 2007 11:21 PM

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Thanks girls

SFBride2Be Posted: Oct 04, 2007 11:36 PM

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Posted by Soon2beMrsC

if you asked a close friend to be in your bridal party and then they didnt ask you to be in theirs?

no i dont think I would actually. I think its all about your preference. some people prefer to have only their family in their party or some just like to have family and a FEW close friends. I am having 9 bridesmaids - but I know that not all of them will have me in their wedding - but i know what its like to plan a wedding so I dont think i would be insulted...

november152008 Posted: Oct 05, 2007 12:05 AM

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it all depends....maybe they want to keep it smaller

CNC4eva3402 Posted: Oct 05, 2007 01:48 AM

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I would be unless like the others said, they were only keeping it to family.

I feel like if I thought we were close enough to have YOU in MY wedding, why don't you feel the same?

I'm sorry your going through this!

Mici n KC Posted: Oct 05, 2007 01:53 AM

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Eeek, I guess I'm kind of in this situation myself. I was an MOH to an 05 bride, but we haven't been exactly close (even during her wedding planning) and I didn't ask her to be in mine. To me there was no point.