Would you be mad?

Soccadoc13 Posted: Apr 23, 2008 11:23 PM

Would you be mad?

So i just got home from some clinical time I had to do at the hospital for school and I went online to try and talk to FH via webcam (we live 300 miles apart, since i'm finishing up school)...so I was online waiting for him and I checked my email and I was looking for an email from our softball team...so when I saw I didn't get anything I checked FH email to see if he got anything (100% honestly the truth I was not spying....anyone who knows me knows that I am not a jealous person, especially not with FH, he is the most trustworthy guy you will ever meet....so anyway back to the issue......so I found the email from the softball team but then I see like 10 emails from this one person, and I'm like who is this....so I open them up and they are from this girl that I have never heard of, and she sent like stupid surveys to him, and then one of them is some joke but with a pic of a naked girl in it......so i was pissed...so I confronted him about it and he says it is some girl from work (his second job, I work in the same store sometimes when I come home from school, but I don't know this girl)....so I'm like how did she get your email and he is like I gave it to her and this other girl Kat that works there (she is gay though lol I know her)...so knowing FH I know it was innocent, but I am still pissed, I think it was inappropriate and unnecassary for him to be conversing through personal email or phone or anything outside of work with other females, especailly ones that he just met......and FH is not the type of guy that has a bunch of female friends, he is a mechanic and all he has is guy friends.....so am I right to be pissed or am I just PMS'ing?.....cause right now I am still fuming....SORRY SO LONG!!!!

ellyoxox Posted: Apr 23, 2008 11:27 PM

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i would probably be piissed at first too.. but if it was completely innocent on his part, i wouldn't worry about too much

Marissa09Bride Posted: Apr 23, 2008 11:36 PM

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I wouldn't be mad. It sounds pretty innocent

VickiR510 Posted: Apr 23, 2008 11:39 PM

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Yea dont worry I would probably be like who the hell is this too. But once you get an answer like that which seems pretty much harmless Im sure its fine.

FuTuRe MrS MaZz Posted: Apr 23, 2008 11:39 PM

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knowing me i would be pissed b/c liek you FH has all guy friends so it would seem a lil weird but if you trust him which i mean you;re marrying him, im sure you do, then let it blow over ... sleep on it... im sure you'll feel alil better in the morn!

kabo0831 Posted: Apr 23, 2008 11:40 PM

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oh that would make me made too

queensora1980 Posted: Apr 23, 2008 11:41 PM

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Posted by ellyoxox

i would probably be piissed at first too.. but if it was completely innocent on his part, i wouldn't worry about too much

yeah, i wouldn't worry.

michesq Posted: Apr 24, 2008 06:00 AM

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I would not be mad- sounds innocent, ok maybe for a second but nothing to continue ot be mad about

Summertimegal424 Posted: Apr 24, 2008 07:08 AM

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tell rich im gonna kick his as s

mrsdraskin2009 Posted: Apr 24, 2008 07:55 AM

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honestly, i have not one jealous bone in my body and i probably wouldn't care...fh and i are waaaaaay to laid back!

MrsDtoBe09 Posted: Apr 24, 2008 08:18 AM

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I would be mad, I would know it was wrong for me to be mad, but I would still be mad.

dazies1011 Posted: Apr 24, 2008 08:21 AM

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I'd be mad not matter what his reasoning was

MaggieLuvsJoe Posted: Apr 24, 2008 08:42 AM

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Posted by dazies1011

I'd be mad not matter what his reasoning was

me too! I couldn't help but be pissed off

FutureMrsLV Posted: Apr 24, 2008 08:55 AM

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Honestly I would be really mad. not only is it inappropriate but its rude and I feel a little disrespectful towards you esp since the joke had to do with naked girls (I feel thats crossing the line even if its a joke..girls shouldnt be joking like that with an engaged man they just met)! I know that my FH has done something similar and I was mad. I would just tell him that you feel its disrespectful and inappropriate and make sure he knows that you dont mind if he has friends that a girls but that there are certain things that arent appropriate. Tell him you know its just him being the nice guy that he is but that sometimes being too nice can get you into trouble and it can be interpreted as something else. thats what I told FH and he understood.

flairforfashion Posted: Apr 24, 2008 09:32 AM

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It sounds innocent. Don't sweat it. BTW, this girl Kat you mention that is gay- I think I know her. Did she work at Ikea?

Jsquared279 Posted: Apr 24, 2008 09:34 AM

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I would have been pissed as well!

Ann 52409 Posted: Apr 24, 2008 09:41 AM

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I dont think I would be mad at alll, It wasn't anything bad that he was doing BUT I would not have said anything and just kept checking the email more randomly to see if it does go too far

bkposh Posted: Apr 24, 2008 11:40 AM

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it seems innocent to me.
me and FH have an agreement that just because we are together does not mean that we cant be brings with or hang out with other males or females... its just funny emails and i would just take it as someone sending him stupid forwards...dont stress about it..

Soccadoc13 Posted: Apr 24, 2008 06:02 PM

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but the thing that makes me still mad and I can't get out of my head is, that #1 he does not have any girl nor has he ever had any girl friends....I just think it is odd, inappropriate and disrespectful that now of all times after we are engaged and everything,that he chooses to strike up a friendship with a female, when he never did so before in 30years....and not to mention FH is not one to converse online especially not over emails and I saw last night that he emailed her last week around midnight to ask her is she was working a day next week......and not to mention (again lol) he originally LIED to me about the whole thing, when I originally mentioned it he said 'I never even read those' and I was like well one of them she sent you a pic of a naked girl and he is like 'yeah that was stupid I didn't even pay attention to it'....so um if you said that u didn't even look at them then y did u just say u did?....so I caught him in a lie....please girls don't get me wrong honestly I do not think he is cheating on me nor do I think he would EVER cheat on me....it's merely a respect thing....that's why I am pissed, especially since he LIED!!!!! (oh and Kat works at Rite Aid in suffolk I don't know her all that well to know where she worked before)