Would you be offended?

springbride05 Posted: May 11, 2004 04:02 PM

Would you be offended?

Would you be offended if you were only invited to the reception and not the wedding? We want to keep our wedding ceremony small but I don't want to offend anyone.

Kelly9904 Posted: May 11, 2004 04:05 PM

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How do you do that?

When we sent our invites the reception card didnt have much info except tiem and place, the card had the date and church.....

I dont know that I would be offended but I would be confused and probably be like 'are they kidding me?'

Remember alot of your guests will not come to the ceremony unless its at the hall just before. Alot of people choose just to go to the hall especially if there is a time gap between!

BMD'sPeanut Posted: May 11, 2004 04:13 PM

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Posted by springbride05

Would you be offended if you were only invited to the reception and not the wedding? We want to keep our wedding ceremony small but I don't want to offend anyone.

I'm confused as to why you want to do this...But I say go for it if that's what you want to do. I think ironically it's less offensive than just inviting someone to the church--which is what I plan to do. (Though I will just be doing that by word of mouth, not with actual invitations.)

Donna Posted: May 11, 2004 04:15 PM

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I voted yes. I would feel it's only for my gift then that I'm invited to the reception. If you want your ceremony small and private either pare down the whole wedding or have them at different times.

Bebalina Posted: May 11, 2004 04:16 PM

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i agree most ppl don't show to the ceremony, usually just close family and close friends, or ppl who want to wish u well, but cant make it to the reception.

tourist Posted: May 11, 2004 04:18 PM

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I'd be more confuesd than offended.
If its worded properly- liek a regular invitation to a party, that would be fine.
I know some people who have been invited to Morman wedidngs , but only qualifying Mormons can go to the ceremony. They understood.

AnnBrunoXO Posted: May 11, 2004 04:19 PM

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Personally, I would think that is kind of odd and im sure you will have people questioning it.

Is it worth the trouble?

Most people probably won't attend the ceremony to begin with.

MCDO15 Posted: May 11, 2004 04:25 PM

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for some people (like me) the ceremony means a tad more then reception..

call me dumb but the wedding is about being married...the partying part is a bouns

if worded correctly...sure, it would work.
i am doing the opposite..

i'll probally have an open invite to ceremony (maininly for work people)

heidla Posted: May 11, 2004 04:37 PM

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A friend of mine did this and everyone seemed fine with it. It made them feel less guilty for not wanting/making it to the ceremony.

ChristineC68 Posted: May 11, 2004 04:55 PM

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Posted by Donna

I voted yes. I would feel it's only for my gift then that I'm invited to the reception. If you want your ceremony small and private either pare down the whole wedding or have them at different times.

I would feel the same way.

Marisa&Brian Posted: May 11, 2004 07:17 PM

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JMO but i think it's rude. - i'd be a little offended - the 'wedding' is the ceremony, NOT the party afterwards. - i'd be like WHY can't I go watch them get marreid??

akanini Posted: May 11, 2004 07:27 PM

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Posted by Marisa&Brian

JMO but i think it's rude. - i'd be a little offended - the 'wedding' is the ceremony, NOT the party afterwards. - i'd be like WHY can't I go watch them get marreid??

I agree.

suven Posted: May 11, 2004 07:36 PM

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Yes

BriBri529 Posted: May 11, 2004 07:56 PM

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Posted by ChristineC68

Posted by Donna

I voted yes. I would feel it's only for my gift then that I'm invited to the reception. If you want your ceremony small and private either pare down the whole wedding or have them at different times.

I would feel the same way.

Me too . . .

samsbride Posted: May 11, 2004 11:49 PM

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I'd be really confused. I would just assume I was invited to the ceremony if I was invited to the reception. It is going to be tough to spell that out for people and I think they will be confused or offended.
Why keep it small?

MrHostility Posted: May 11, 2004 11:52 PM

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From what I know a lot of people normally skip the ceremony if it's at a church. I wouldn't be offended if you said that, but I can see how others would.

june262004 Posted: May 11, 2004 11:55 PM

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I have heard of people only being invited to the church and not the reception!

butterfly20 Posted: May 12, 2004 12:22 AM

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i said maybe... i think it depends person by person....

if its a coworker i dont know so well i might skip the ceremony anyways, but someone i know well i would want to be there

oakslady Posted: May 12, 2004 12:29 AM

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i would be really offended - like i am not good enough to attend the wedding , but i can come to the party and bring a gift -
i think the wedding is about the ceremony and not the party - but that is just me
if you dont want them at the ceremony dont invite them at all

shelly3950 Posted: May 12, 2004 09:17 AM

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If they are on the same day, I would be offended. You want to celebrate with me and you expect me to bring a gift, but I don't get to see the most important moment at all? That is strange.

If you do it another time, then its not so bad.