Would you be offended?

Original post by Miblove

May 06, 2008 12:33 PM

Woman I work with just walked up to me and told me 'Honey....I know you're thin, but now you're wasting away'
I was like 'huh, this is me - I've always been thin - havent lost weight'
She was like 'oh, I guess I never really looked..' blah blah - you could tell she felt uncomfy
I shook it off, and laughed a little but not too much

I dont understand how ppl would NEVER dare to tell someone they're TOO FAT, but ppl would NOT hesitate to say they're TOO THIN!

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deed766 Posted: May 07, 2008 12:31 AM

Re: Would you be offended?

I think it is offensive to mention someone's weight like that. Weight is a sensitive topic for people regardless of size. Throughout my adolescence i had received comments like that from other adults and i was teased by kids that were in my age group. Some people make comments like that because of jealousy, so perhaps she said that on purpose just to get you all rattled.

ldrenckhahn Posted: May 07, 2008 01:21 AM

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jealousy

Miblove Posted: May 07, 2008 11:26 AM

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Posted by Sharron70

Posted by Miblove

I dont understand how ppl would NEVER dare to tell someone they're TOO FAT

Ohh, they do, they do

But yes, what she said to you was totally innapropriate. Just take comfort in knowing she's an ignorant twat and you're a better person than she'll ever be!

ha ha hahahhah thanks

TommysWife08 Posted: May 07, 2008 12:15 PM

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OMG i get this ALLLLL the damn time!!!! its really annoying!!!

KK Holiday Posted: May 07, 2008 12:55 PM

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i get this too. people i know come up to me and say 'oh kathryn youre so THIN!!!' and it's not a compliment it's an accusation! I feel like I have to apologize.

and what i really want to say is THANK YOU! I work out 5xs a week and bust my *** at the gym with weights and cardio. I cut out ALL desserts so I havent had cake or ice cream in almost 6 months. SO THANK YOU. I'm working very hard to get in shape!

Kimbalina Posted: May 07, 2008 01:16 PM

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I would like to point out that either way it was rude.. but i think that you have to realize... PEOPLE CALL PEOPLE FAT TO THEIR FACES TOO! and that hurts also. I think it was extremelly rude and hurtful. I am sorry that it happened to you.. but it isnt like the world is perfect,, lol Most woman who have been called 'too fat' arent going to come on here and say.. she said this or that because of comments that they would hear back,.

IMO - being called fat is just as hurtful. Dont let her get to you and it is very presumptious to assume she is jealous

Miblove Posted: May 07, 2008 02:12 PM

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Posted by Kimbalina

I would like to point out that either way it was rude.. but i think that you have to realize... PEOPLE CALL PEOPLE FAT TO THEIR FACES TOO! and that hurts also. I think it was extremelly rude and hurtful. I am sorry that it happened to you.. but it isnt like the world is perfect,, lol Most woman who have been called 'too fat' arent going to come on here and say.. she said this or that because of comments that they would hear back,.

IMO - being called fat is just as hurtful. Dont let her get to you and it is very presumptious to assume she is jealous

Did I assume she was jealous?! I never assumed that....was just venting....

msflesch Posted: May 07, 2008 02:22 PM

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Honestly - NO I would not be.
Truthfully - the day someone says that I look like I'm wasting away is the day I know that my diet and exercise program has been working!
but thats just me!

BNBride60 Posted: May 07, 2008 02:29 PM

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I can totally relate to this and yes I'd SO be offended. My own aunt, who neither my Mom nor I have great relationship with, spread a rumor in our family that I am anorexic. Not only is this so backstabbing and awful, but it is so FALSE - try catching me without a mouthful of guacamole....it won't ever happen.

Mrs. V 2008 Posted: May 07, 2008 07:17 PM

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Posted by KK Holiday

i get this too. people i know come up to me and say 'oh kathryn youre so THIN!!!' and it's not a compliment it's an accusation! I feel like I have to apologize.

and what i really want to say is THANK YOU! I work out 5xs a week and bust my *** at the gym with weights and cardio. I cut out ALL desserts so I havent had cake or ice cream in almost 6 months. SO THANK YOU. I'm working very hard to get in shape!

thats totally true!! You sound like me...I bust my *** in the gym as well..5 days a week..cardio and strength..so maybe i should take it as a compliment..I worked hard to get myself in the best shape of my life...