Let's say a friend of yours was getting married about a year after you..and all of your vendors you recommend to them starting from flowers to dj to make up person to photographer..they go with someone else they think is 'better for them'
Personally, I would not be offended. I've seen plenty of recommendations from girls on this site, or reviews online, and I've seen them in personally and realized they weren't for me. Everyone is different and need to pick what's right for their budget, for their vision and for them :)
Not at all- thats what makes every wedding unique!
I think the vendors we choose have so much to do with personal preference/taste. When I got engaged, one of my friends immediately e-mailed me with a list of the vendors she used. She was thrilled with all of them. Truth be told, they just weren't my taste. It's also possible that she met with some of the vendors you suggested and may not have felt their personalities clicked with hers. What makes one person happy, doesn't necessarily elicit the same response from another.
it seems she found something wrong with all of mine..I see both sides though
Posted by SummerBride10
Not at all- thats what makes every wedding unique!
5 of my gf gt married before me in the last few years and they all recommened their vendors to me and I didn't go with any of theirs, only because what was in my budget and taste was a little different. I hope none of them took offense and I don't think you should either. However I don't think it's right that she is taking negatively about them to you. That I feel is rude.
Since your wedding still hasn't come.. I wouldn't get offended because she hasn't seen their work. But I totally understand how you would feel this way.
I would not be offended for many reasons already stated. Many of my girls are already married and I took all of their suggestions and kept them in mind. Some I checked out, some I did not. I've done hours and hours and hours of my own research to come up with a short list of vendors that I feel will work with what FH and I want for our special day. I would hope my girls would not be /are not offended if I haven't chosen to book with a vendor they have used.
Posted by happybride11
Maybe I am being sensitive but all she talks about is how hers are so much better and it hurts my feelings![]()
Posted by ddms7870
I would not be offended for many reasons already stated. Many of my girls are already married and I took all of their suggestions and kept them in mind. Some I checked out, some I did not. I've done hours and hours and hours of my own research to come up with a short list of vendors that I feel will work with what FH and I want for our special day. I would hope my girls would not be /are not offended if I haven't chosen to book with a vendor they have used.
Im getting married a year from my friend and i would not be offended at all b/c everyone is different with there taste
No, I definitely wouldn't get offended. After everything was said and done, I looked at dozens and dozens of vendors. It's not as though they were all 'bad' except for the ones I picked, KWIM? Some would be better for a different style of wedding or get along better with a different personality. That's all!
I would not be offended, but if she is rubbing it in of how hers is better then honestly I would be. It all depends on how she is saying it.
I wouldn't be offended if all she did was choose different vendors, but if she's insulting your choices or telling you that her's is better, I think you should say something to her. Nothing mean, just 'oh, well I'm actually very happy with my vendors, guess we just have different taste.'
I, personally, am the type of person who will shy away from recommendations from people who are close to me just because I want things to be different... it's not even always a conscious thing. SO I could see how it might hurt to have your advice ignored, but I can see myself doing the same thing... not out of spite or because thye weren't good enough for me but just because then I'd feel like my wedding wasn't entirely a reflection of myself and FH, KWIM?
