My ex and I are on friendly terms. I have ZERO romantic interest in him. One of his good friends is getting married, someone I was always fond of. My ex asked if I wanted to be his +1.
Would you go?
FH probably wouldn't want me to go as HIS date.
thelastresort
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Definitely not...my FH would be so entirely uncomfortable with that, actually he would probably end the relationship, that I just don't think that's a good idea at all, no matter what your intentions are.
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I wouldn't, cause also think of it this way. Would you want your FH going to a wedding with one of his exes if it was the same scenerio?
Weddings are for romance and love - and that isn't something you should be sharing with an ex.
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well i would think that's between you and FH. i mean it all depends on how he feels about your friendly relationship with this ex.
in a guy's eyes...wording it as a 'plus 1' vs. 'a date' doesn't really make a difference. he will see it as a date. you will be going to an event with free flowing alcohol, dinner, and dancing. i'm not too sure how to sugar coat that.
i'm a pretty secure person--but i know i would be none too happy if my FH was an ex-gf's '+1'....no matter how much they are 'just friends'
JMHO
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Definitely not...my FH would be so entirely uncomfortable with that, actually he would probably end the relationship, that I just don't think that's a good idea at all, no matter what your intentions are.
Ditto here...he doesn't even like me to hang out with a good friend of mine who used to like me...8 years ago in high school, even though there was NEVER anything between us besides friendship.
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nope - bad idea!! even if you broke up 10 years ago, he is still your EX. it would be disrespectful to your fh/dh to be your ex's date.
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NO. I'd feel weird and my DH would never have let me live it down!
If you had been outright invited and the ex- was going to be there, that would be one thing.
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I would never think of doing something like that, and I know DH wouldn't either. But it's completely dependent on your situation and how comfortable everyone is with it.
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I think it totally depends on your relationship with each of them. I know that while my FH wouldn't be too happy if I went to a wedding with an ex but at the same time, I know he'd let me go, knowing that I would leave not to long after dinner was served. This is something that you and your FH have to discuss. See what his opinions are on the subject then decide. HTH
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I'm fine with it but I won't go because I know it would bother FH. I am friendly with all my ex bfs. FH doesn't talk to any of his.
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I agree with the others who say it's a bad idea. Obviously nothing would happen and if you were single it would be fine, but my DH is good friends with more than one of his ex-girlfriends. If he wanted to go to a wedding with one of them as their date, I would be SO upset. Think about how your FH would feel if you went with your ex.
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Absolutley NOT. Its disrespectful to your FH and would you want your FH going with an ex gf of his although they are just friends?
greenfreak
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10 years ago, I would have thought it was ok. I too was friends with many of my ex's and even hung out with them after they got married (as a part of a group; not alone).
But now, I'm not really sure. My first impression was absolutely not, if I was in that situation. I know my husband has ex's but I wouldn't want them asking him to be their date for a wedding. As a matter of fact, I wouldn't want them in his life at all. (they aren't, so that's good.)
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Posted by Bridex100
My ex and I are on friendly terms. I have ZERO romantic interest in him. One of his good friends is getting married, someone I was always fond of. My ex asked if I wanted to be his +1.
Would you go?
FH probably wouldn't want me to go as HIS date.
That would be slightly awkard. People are not going to understand (I would not know what to think of it!).
There is a difference between being friendly and going to an event with an ex.
In addition you are to be married with someone else.
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No, I would not. Thats a bad idea all around. How would you feel if your FH went to a wedding with one of his exes?
Tell him you are sorry, but he needs to find another date.
rojerono
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Not if it wasn't 100% okay with my FH.
AMGBride2008
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No no no... I would definitely not go. It wouldn't be OK with FH and even if it was OK with me, no romantic attachments or what-have-you... I'd feel funny that my date wasn't FH.
Bridex100
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Most of my ex's friends know that I'm engaged to another guy. They would probably question why I'm there as HIS date when I am engaged to another guy.
OK, I'm not going...
However, it would have been nice to congratulate my ex's friend. I have always liked her a lot. I just never really saw her after my ex and I broke up.
Sometimes breaking up with a bf is like getting a divorce in social circles.
CLMon7906
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You could always send her a card congratulating her!
AMGBride2008
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However, it would have been nice to congratulate my ex's friend. I have always liked her a lot. I just never really saw her after my ex and I broke up.
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Get her address and send her a card, that way she knows that you are thinking of her. I think that would be a really nice gesture.
