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Would you donate your eggs?
Original post by TracyInQueens
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Re: Would you donate your eggs?
Posted by mrsmck
I don't really know what I'd do....
A male friend of ours is using a surrogate to have a child. He used a donor egg, and another woman to carry the baby. He doesn't consider the egg donor the 'mother' but the woman's who carrying the baby.
I think he paid about 80K!!![]()
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His baby shower is in a few weeks, and the baby is due in June!!!
Wow that's interesting...is he single or is he gay?
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Posted by JimmysBride
Posted by mrsmck
I don't really know what I'd do....
A male friend of ours is using a surrogate to have a child. He used a donor egg, and another woman to carry the baby. He doesn't consider the egg donor the 'mother' but the woman's who carrying the baby.
I think he paid about 80K!!![]()
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His baby shower is in a few weeks, and the baby is due in June!!!
Wow that's interesting...is he single or is he gay?
He's a single guy in his mid-40's, successful attorney, owns a home, financially secure. He's just not married and isn't involved with anyone. His family and friends have been very supportive. DH has mixed feelings about it cause he feels the baby doesn't have a 'mother', and that money can buy practically anything. DH's really into geneology and tracing family history, so this is a sticky issue for him.
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i think thats so awesome that he wants a baby.
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i have thought about it and then realized, gosh what if my son or daughter brought someone home saying they found their soulmate and it turned out to be their sister or brother????? i've had horrible visions of the what if's. i think it's a beautiful way to give someone a child though, i just couldn't be the egg donor.
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How does it work? U are put thru weeks of needles, then what?
As long as I'm not having the child for someone else, then I'd probably donate an egg or 2... after I've had some kids of my own, of course. I would do it in a heartbeat for someone I loved, and would help out an infertile couple, if/when I could.
As long as I'm not having the child for someone else, then I'd probably donate an egg or 2... after I've had some kids of my own, of course. I would do it in a heartbeat for someone I loved, and would help out an infertile couple, if/when I could.
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I would but there are so many stipulations that I would probably never qualify.
I would love to be able to help someone else have a child, especially knowing I have more eggs than I would ever need.
I would love to be able to help someone else have a child, especially knowing I have more eggs than I would ever need.
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Posted by lolita4life
i wouldnt/couldnt think of it as MY child.. since i wouldnt be the one who carried it, raised it etc.....
BUT i WOULD be very curious as to what he/she looks like
so some people think that would be your child, while others are thinking not...anyone else?
In no way would I think of it as my child, to me an egg is an egg not a child.
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I found some information online:
What are the basic requirements for becoming an egg donor?
An egg donor must be between the ages of 21 and 32. She must be in good health, both mentally and physically, with a weight that is appropriate for her height, and with a family history free of genetic and/or psychological illness. Upon deciding to participate in the donation process, she must have clear resolve and motivation. It must be at least six months since a donor has had any piercings or tattoos. Donors may be married, although this may make them inappropriate for recipients who are more observant of Jewish law. Donors do not have to be U.S. citizens.
Donors must be willing and able to:
*Attend early morning blood tests
*Be on time for all appointments
*Follow instructions for timing and doses of medications
*Self-administer injections, or have a trusted friend or relative administer them
*Refrain from sexual intercourse during the cycle
*Refrain from using any recreational drugs
*Donate all eggs that result from the cycle
How do I know if donating is a good choice for me?
Only you can know if you are a good candidate, but here are just a few of the questions you should ask yourself before deciding to donate:
*Will it make me feel good about myself to help others build their family?
*Will I feel that I have donated an egg, or someday feel I have parted with a child?
*Will I be able to discuss donation with people whose opinions are very important to me?
*Am I a decisive person who is comfortable with my choices, or do I often regret them later?
*Am I a responsible person who can be on time for meetings and follow instructions?
*Am I comfortable with the idea of taking daily injections?
*Can I modify my behavior during the donation process, refraining from intercourse and excess alcohol?
*Have I fully considered this decision and become truly comfortable with it?
Why should I donate?
You will be helping others build a family that they might otherwise not be able to have. Many women find that they cannot or should not become pregnant with their own eggs. This can happen for a number of reasons, such as illness, age, a condition from birth or the risk of passing on genetic illness. In such circumstances, those who wish to become pregnant must rely on the generosity and compassion of others willing to donate. Donation allows the recipient mother to become pregnant, give birth and breastfeed a child who is, in most cases, genetically related to the recipient father.
Since the process of donation requires the donor to make complex personal decisions, to take daily injections for a period of around two weeks, and to undergo egg retrieval, she is compensated by a predetermined amount for her sacrifice. The amount of this compensation is $8,000.
As part of the screening process, potential donors receive medical, genetic and psychological examinations and evaluations. The results of the screening can give you peace of mind, or allow you to address issues that might otherwise go undiscovered.
How long does it take?
Once a donor is matched with a recipient, screening can begin three days after the donor's next period. From that first day of screening, it will usually be about 3 months until the day the eggs are retrieved. The screening is generally scheduled on several days at the beginning of the three months, then there are several weeks of waiting for the results. Next, assuming the tests indicate the donor may proceed, there are 7 to 14 days of one injection per day, then 10 days of two injections per day, with retrieval occurring a day or so after the the end of that 10 day period.
Will I find out if my donation resulted in any children?
No. Donors are told how many eggs are retrieved and anything else that relates to their own health, but are not told if any embryos or children result from their donation.
What are the basic requirements for becoming an egg donor?
An egg donor must be between the ages of 21 and 32. She must be in good health, both mentally and physically, with a weight that is appropriate for her height, and with a family history free of genetic and/or psychological illness. Upon deciding to participate in the donation process, she must have clear resolve and motivation. It must be at least six months since a donor has had any piercings or tattoos. Donors may be married, although this may make them inappropriate for recipients who are more observant of Jewish law. Donors do not have to be U.S. citizens.
Donors must be willing and able to:
*Attend early morning blood tests
*Be on time for all appointments
*Follow instructions for timing and doses of medications
*Self-administer injections, or have a trusted friend or relative administer them
*Refrain from sexual intercourse during the cycle
*Refrain from using any recreational drugs
*Donate all eggs that result from the cycle
How do I know if donating is a good choice for me?
Only you can know if you are a good candidate, but here are just a few of the questions you should ask yourself before deciding to donate:
*Will it make me feel good about myself to help others build their family?
*Will I feel that I have donated an egg, or someday feel I have parted with a child?
*Will I be able to discuss donation with people whose opinions are very important to me?
*Am I a decisive person who is comfortable with my choices, or do I often regret them later?
*Am I a responsible person who can be on time for meetings and follow instructions?
*Am I comfortable with the idea of taking daily injections?
*Can I modify my behavior during the donation process, refraining from intercourse and excess alcohol?
*Have I fully considered this decision and become truly comfortable with it?
Why should I donate?
You will be helping others build a family that they might otherwise not be able to have. Many women find that they cannot or should not become pregnant with their own eggs. This can happen for a number of reasons, such as illness, age, a condition from birth or the risk of passing on genetic illness. In such circumstances, those who wish to become pregnant must rely on the generosity and compassion of others willing to donate. Donation allows the recipient mother to become pregnant, give birth and breastfeed a child who is, in most cases, genetically related to the recipient father.
Since the process of donation requires the donor to make complex personal decisions, to take daily injections for a period of around two weeks, and to undergo egg retrieval, she is compensated by a predetermined amount for her sacrifice. The amount of this compensation is $8,000.
As part of the screening process, potential donors receive medical, genetic and psychological examinations and evaluations. The results of the screening can give you peace of mind, or allow you to address issues that might otherwise go undiscovered.
How long does it take?
Once a donor is matched with a recipient, screening can begin three days after the donor's next period. From that first day of screening, it will usually be about 3 months until the day the eggs are retrieved. The screening is generally scheduled on several days at the beginning of the three months, then there are several weeks of waiting for the results. Next, assuming the tests indicate the donor may proceed, there are 7 to 14 days of one injection per day, then 10 days of two injections per day, with retrieval occurring a day or so after the the end of that 10 day period.
Will I find out if my donation resulted in any children?
No. Donors are told how many eggs are retrieved and anything else that relates to their own health, but are not told if any embryos or children result from their donation.
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The money is tempting but realistically I would never go for it.
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Posted by Summerbride04
The money is tempting but realistically I would never go for it.
I don't think so, either. I'm already 27, and would like to have 3 kids... will probably take me about 5 years, so I'd be past the cutoff age.
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Although that is a hell of a lot of money and God knows I could use it - I don't think I could go through with it. I agree with Julz, I would probably think differently about this decision if I had already had children of my own. But for right now - I think that little part of me would really wonder what happened to that egg, and I don't think I'd be able to remain so objective as to not think of it as partly my child. It would be MY egg, I can't see looking at it any other way. Also, you need to make yourself available for almost a month I think for the testing, procedure, etc. so it's not something you can just do in one day. I wouldn
t be able to take that kind of time off work right now, and it's not something I'd feel comfortable doing to my body. I was actually considering this after seeing an ad in the Metro paper for egg donors, but after reading up on it and doing research, it's just not something I could do...
GREAT POLL, by the way!!![]()
t be able to take that kind of time off work right now, and it's not something I'd feel comfortable doing to my body. I was actually considering this after seeing an ad in the Metro paper for egg donors, but after reading up on it and doing research, it's just not something I could do...
GREAT POLL, by the way!!
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Posted by newnybride2be
if I was a surrogate mother, than I would feel like it was MY child, but if it is just donating an egg, than no I dont think I would feel like it was my child.
I would just be donating the egg, its not like I would be carrying it around for nine months.
i agree with you. i would consider doing it, but i have heard that it is painful, unlikemen donating sperm...easy for men!
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I would only donate my eggs to family members. I always thought that f my SIL or best friend every had problems conceiving I would help them in any way possible, whether it be donating eggs, carrying the baby etc. I could never charge for my eggs, I feel like that is a gift for anyone whether it be family or not.
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never never ever.
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Posted by RedHead
No i couldn't...
I couldn't bare knowing my child was out there somewhere...
That's the way I'd feel too.
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Posted by lolita4life
I was going to do this!!!!!!!!
but then i learned that you haev to go through 8 weeks of needles (give yourself shots everyday) and i just couldnt do it!
if i was a guy i'd donate my sperm though![]()
I would not for that reason. The hormones used may increase a possibility for uteran or ovarian cancer in someone who is already in the risk group (like myself).
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Posted by emilain
I would only donate my eggs to family members. I always thought that f my SIL or best friend every had problems conceiving I would help them in any way possible, whether it be donating eggs, carrying the baby etc. I could never charge for my eggs, I feel like that is a gift for anyone whether it be family or not.
That is just soooo sweet - being that I am your SIL !!! Love you!
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I can't because of my medical history just like I can't donate blood. I would love to though (donate blood) I'm still unsure about the whole egg thing. ![]()
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When I was younger and I heard abut it I thought I would do it for the $$. But when I think about it, I really don't want a child of mine running around somewhere that I don't know about. it just feels weird to me. I never thought about it that way until D explained why he'd never donate sperm
