Would you ever?

bluegreen08 Posted: Dec 19, 2007 12:00 AM

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If I had to... but I'd rather not. I asked my BMs RIGHT AWAY and sometimes wish I had taken a little more time, but I hope I made the right decision.

I asked my bff from college, but we haven't kept in touch that much since because we've been so busy with grad school..... and I also decided not to ask some of my good friends from grad school because at the time we'd only known eachother 1 year and i thought it might be weird. sometimes I wonder if I was wrong to ask bff from college, or if I should have asked my friends from grad school.... but the dresses are ordered and things have been done so I'm going to leave it as is.

I'm planning another way to honor my grad school friends (maybe a corsage or a single rose, with a symbolic meaning) and I'm hoping everything works out with my college friend -- we've been making more of an effort to keep in touch, and she was one of my closest friends so I'd like to honor her.

If one of my BMs was MEAN to me though, I would be much more likely to drop her. Luckily I haven't had to deal with that so far, but I've read other stories from people on here and it's sad/scary what weddings will bring out in people. I don't know your situation but if one of your BMs is treating you badly you do have the option of dropping her if you need to. They are supposed to make your life easier, not harder. Feel free to FM me if you want to talk further...

jsta76 Posted: Dec 19, 2007 12:03 AM

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Posted by Mimacat

Well, ok but the original post just asks a general question, so I thought it would be acceptable for me to answer.

Sorry don't mean to be snippy, but i'm tired and stressed out beyond belief. Plus sometimes you just have to read deeper into the post.

lwny427 Posted: Dec 19, 2007 12:05 AM

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Posted by jsta76

Posted by Mimacat

Thank God my girls are NOT problems at ALL. I'd hope that if I had drama queens I woudlnt have put them in the BP to begin with.

I'm glad that YOU don't have problems but this wasn't about you and doesn't help me at all.

That wasn't very nice. I think we should all be able to share our experiences and opinions on here, even if it is not the specific direct answer to the op.

Toucan311 Posted: Dec 19, 2007 12:07 AM

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Posted by lwny427

Posted by jsta76

Posted by Mimacat

Thank God my girls are NOT problems at ALL. I'd hope that if I had drama queens I woudlnt have put them in the BP to begin with.

I'm glad that YOU don't have problems but this wasn't about you and doesn't help me at all.

That wasn't very nice. I think we should all be able to share our experiences and opinions on here, even if it is not the specific direct answer to the op.

I agree, I thought it was a question about what we'd do! Whatever, I'm not crying over it.

SugaBeans Posted: Dec 19, 2007 12:42 AM

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i've thought about it.

debismom Posted: Dec 19, 2007 01:01 AM

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While this has probably been said before, Debi commented recently, ' These girls think I'm planning my wedding to suit their convenience!!', after a BM had dropped out, but was still making comments like 'Well, why does your wedding have to be in Long Island?' Mary MOB

MrsHtobe Posted: Dec 19, 2007 02:27 AM

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Posted by Mimacat

Well, ok but the original post just asks a general question, so I thought it would be acceptable for me to answer.

hmmm. I didn't think you said anything wrong.

I think it depends a lot on the situation. I'd probably need a good reason to do that, and be willing to accept the fact that it might ruin our friendship going forward. If you are okay with that, then maybe they shouldn't be a BM anyway.

I hope it works out for you.

Kimbalina Posted: Dec 19, 2007 08:01 AM

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yes,, if there were circumstances that really made me feel that they were not wiling to be a part of that day.

Kimbalina Posted: Dec 19, 2007 08:03 AM

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Posted by lwny427

Posted by jsta76

Posted by Mimacat

Thank God my girls are NOT problems at ALL. I'd hope that if I had drama queens I woudlnt have put them in the BP to begin with.

I'm glad that YOU don't have problems but this wasn't about you and doesn't help me at all.

That wasn't very nice. I think we should all be able to share our experiences and opinions on here, even if it is not the specific direct answer to the op.

Agreed!!! Geez that was uncalled for.

I think your OP was vauge. I took it as a 'Question of the day' which we have often. YOU didnt say this was your problem,,,we are not mind readers and dont need to look DEEPER into your post Mima answered the question just like I did. above this post until I saw how snippy your comment back was.

Sorry that you are stressed-