would you guys be pissed?

what!!! i would totally be PO'd!

well, u're right that people's true colors really do show themselves sometimes!

That's insane..I would be soo pissed. There's no reason ahy shew can;t celebrate her birthday on another day. This is your wedding day. Once in a lifetime. If she doesn't want to be there for you, then you're right it's her true colors coming out..

Is she married? Maybe she's just jealous or she'll feel depressed reaching her 30th birthday not being married, etc. Some people are like that

she can celebrate her 30th another night.....if she is a good friend she would not miss your wedding for anything...I would be pissed!

My wedding is on my godmother's 60th bday and I don't hear her complaining. She's looking forward to having a big party to go to the night of her bday.

Um, is she kidding? Seriosly, if someone told me that I would laugh at them and think it was a joke. She couldn't come up with a better excuse.

YEAH, I'd be pissed!!!

Honestly, I don't know if I would. I guess I would be a little hurt, but some people take their birthdays VERY seriously. Specially those milestone birthdays you know. But why couldn't she have a bday party for herself b4 or after the wedding. I don't know maybe you're not high on her priority list, so she shouldn't be on yours either! Either way don't sweat it, the people who love you will be there!
XOXOXOXO
Kitty

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Posted by mskittynj

Honestly, I don't know if I would. I guess I would be a little hurt, but some people take their birthdays VERY seriously. Specially those milestone birthdays you know. But why couldn't she have a bday party for herself b4 or after the wedding. I don't know maybe you're not high on her priority list, so she shouldn't be on yours either! Either way don't sweat it, the people who love you will be there!
XOXOXOXO
Kitty

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Yeah i think i feel that way... although she did tell a mutual friend who is coming to the wedding when the subject came up that she (mutual friend) is gonna have a hard time choosing which event to attend. Mutual friend was like you've gotta be kidding me

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Posted by spring06bride

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Yeah i think i feel that way... although she did tell a mutual friend who is coming to the wedding when the subject came up that she (mutual friend) is gonna have a hard time choosing which event to attend. Mutual friend was like you've gotta be kidding me

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You know what then, she sounds like shes a bit**
so screw her, I wouldn't even send her an invitation at this point (unless you already did)
XOXOXO
Kitty

What the hell is wrong with people?

My friend got married on July 4th a few years ago - we weren't best friends, but good friends - and I gave up my entire weekend and plans to be at her wedding - and she had an early wedding. My date (which she let me bring even though I was single) wound up having to leave early, and since I drove him there, I had to leave early - and I had nothing to do that evening because I just made no plans - but, I wanted to be there for my friend! I was so upset about having to leave, but at least I got to be there - I never said - oh - how inconvenenient, or - oh, I have other things to do on that day...

thats just a load of...

I happen to be very sensitive about my birthday. But quite honestly, if a good friend of mine was getting married on my 30th birthday it wouldn't bother me in the least. But as you said, people's true colors definitely come out.

Hey, it's one less person for you to have to pay for.

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Posted by dianadrw

I happen to be very sensitive about my birthday. But quite honestly, if a good friend of mine was getting married on my 30th birthday it wouldn't bother me in the least. But as you said, people's true colors definitely come out.

Hey, it's one less person for you to have to pay for.

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True, but i think what upsets me is that I valued her more as a friend to invite her vs. inviting other people....

people get weird around weddings. people who talk about how they are going to go all year long suddenly have something come up.

my philosophy is... if they REALLY care they will make it there!

If this was a 'good' friend of mine and that was her excuse, I would be pissed. Birthdays are important, but come on, I have celebrated MANY birthdays on a day other than my 'actual' b-day.
Sorry this happened to you.

I had a similar situation with a friend of mine. I had a choice of having my wedding on 6/8 and my friend's birthday is 6/9 and the party would technically end on 6/9 because it is ending at 12:30. I didn't pick that date because she would turn it into HER DAY and it is supposed to me mine. Her 30th birthday is more than a year away and she is already planning on what she is doing. She has had about 3 different plans for her birthday already.

It ***** that your friend said that but I guess you learn who your true friends are. Hopefully she was just kidding.

I had a similar situation with a friend of mine. I had a choice of having my wedding on 6/8 and my friend's birthday is 6/9 and the party would technically end on 6/9 because it is ending at 12:30. I didn't pick that date because she would turn it into HER DAY and it is supposed to me mine. Her 30th birthday is more than a year away and she is already planning on what she is doing. She has had about 3 different plans for her birthday already.

It stinks that your friend said that but I guess you learn who your true friends are. Hopefully she was just kidding.

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Posted by knm1204

I had a similar situation with a friend of mine. I had a choice of having my wedding on 6/8 and my friend's birthday is 6/9 and the party would technically end on 6/9 because it is ending at 12:30. I didn't pick that date because she would turn it into HER DAY and it is supposed to me mine. Her 30th birthday is more than a year away and she is already planning on what she is doing. She has had about 3 different plans for her birthday already.

It stinks that your friend said that but I guess you learn who your true friends are. Hopefully she was just kidding.

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no totally not kidding. my rsvp dates were 2/1, when i didn';t hear from her, she wrote me an email...