Would you let a baby come to your wedding?

I got a RSVP yesterday that said +baby on it! I was so mad when I opened it because this person was late in returning the RSVP by a couple of weeks and this person's bro is bringing an uninvited guest. This person is FH's UNCLE's friend. I called FMIL right away and told her I did not want a baby at the wedding and to please handle this.

I do have 3 young cousins at the wedding, ages 6-10. So my wedding isnt children free. I feel that my cousins have to come to my wedding bc they're close family. I don't want to let this dude bring his baby when he didnt even ask, sent the RSVP late, AND his bro is bringing an uninvited guest.

I am not a mother so I may not understand. Insights please.........

Would you let a baby come to your wedding?

Crashing! I am not a mother either, but this would have upset me too. A friend of mine has a 1 month old, so the baby will be 8 months old by the time my wedding comes around. She is not bringing the baby. If she would have asked me, I probably would have said ok. But, if she took it upon herself to write +baby on the invitation, I would've been put off by that. And she is my friend, not one my inlaws' friends.

Would you let a baby come to your wedding?

Also not a mother, also struggling with this. I specifically did not want kids except the ring bearer and flower girl. I put mr and mrs X on the invitation and they respond 'and family'. Frustrated.

Would you let a baby come to your wedding?

It is incredibly rude to add anyone on to an RSVP, whether it be a guest, a family or a baby. If you are invited solo, you either go solo, or decline to attend.

Would you let a baby come to your wedding?

I'm not a mother either, but I know most the moms I know would love to dump the kids at the parents or in laws so they can have a fun night out at a wedding.

I also have a 'no children' policy. The ONLY exceptions being my 3 first cousins age 12-14. I have a huge family and about half of my cousins have kids. It would have turned into freaking romper room if I invited everyone's children. This is your FH's family, so let them take care of this situation for you.

Would you let a baby come to your wedding?

I thought I would come off as hypocritical for having my cousins there but I'm glad to hear that other people are in this boat.

What gets me even more annoyed is that when FFIL called this guy up to ask him if he was coming to the wedding, he said he was trying to find a babysitter. That's why I was shocked when I saw +baby. Because wouldn't you just ask in that phone convo if you can bring the baby? All he said was him and his wife are coming.

Would you let a baby come to your wedding?

The only children in my wedding are those in the bridal party! We aren't making any exceptions! Everyone has known pretty much from the start and we sent little notes included with the STD and again with the invitations. So, everyone had/has plenty of time to get a sitter. If they can't or don't want to we are perfectly fine with them not coming.

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Posted by MrsB92713

Also not a mother, also struggling with this. I specifically did not want kids except the ring bearer and flower girl. I put mr and mrs X on the invitation and they respond 'and family'. Frustrated.

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This is exactly why on my invites I put 'we have reserved blank seats in your honor' and included notes about it being an adult only affair because I didn't want ppl doing this! We still got one RSVP back though where one of FH friends included a guest after we gave him only 1 seat SMH! I had FH handle that lol

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I am sorry you have to deal with this. The nerve of some people. If it were me, I would at least call the bride and ask, not just assume I can bring a baby. I put adult reception on the invitation so I hope everyone knows that that means.

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Posted by vanillataco

I thought I would come off as hypocritical for having my cousins there but I'm glad to hear that other people are in this boat.

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At first my mom was worried about having my cousins there and nobody elses kids. I don't care though. My two twin cousins (12 yrs old) were at my shower and my MOM'S COUSIN'S WIFE said something to her about them being there and not her daughter. w.t.f!

Would you let a baby come to your wedding?

Sorry you're dealing with this. I feel like I'll be dealing with this same situation. I want NO kids except my niece and nephews who are in he bridal party (12, 12, 14 yr old). I'm not even having my other niece and nephew come. But I've been told time and time again, it's your wedding!!! You invite who YOU want there. If people don't like it, too bad!!

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Posted by Stephanie621

I'm dealing with that now. I haven't sent out invitations yet but people are assuming that it's ok and telling me their plans. I was a little put off by it at first bc these are all people who recently got married and strictly had a policy of no children or babies so I was kind of assuming they would take that same stance with my wedding.

But, after thinking about it A LOT, I realized it's not going to be me taking care of the babies and if they want to bring them to a wedding late at night (it doesn't end until 12:30) then that's fine with me.

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sure you won't be taking care of the babies, but how would you feel if youre saying your vows and that baby is screaming it's head off?

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Due to the relationship of you/FH and the guests with the baby I would tell them the truth. That you don't want kids. Yes, they tried to get a sitter but overall how important it is to have them at your wedding? If you are nervous about the ceremony tell them not to attend that and also tell them the music during the reception will be loud.

My cousin bought her infant daughter to my sisters wedding. This was discussed prior to the wedding between my sister and cousin. She was a new mommy and was breast feeding. Also, it was family and she had family members to help if the baby got fussy. The were not at the ceremony but this is also the most well behaved little girl.

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Posted by Pinkisles

It is incredibly rude to add anyone on to an RSVP, whether it be a guest, a family or a baby. If you are invited solo, you either go solo, or decline to attend.

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this!

Crashing! I can't believe the nerve of some people. I am dreading this part of the planning!

Would you let a baby come to your wedding?

The youngest kid at my wedding will be our daughter who will be 3 years old in Nov and is the flower girl and my 3 year old cousin who is the ring boy. All my cousins have kids so I had to include them but they are age 5 and above. Babies shouldn't be at weddings. Personally, I would attend the wedding without the baby so I can enjoy myself. That is what one of my cousin is doing. She is leaving her 1 and 3 year old with her mother in law to babysit.

Would you let a baby come to your wedding?

I told my bridsmaid about the whole baby drama and she said, 'what's wrong with babies'? I wasn't mad bc she hasn't planned a wedding yet.

Glad we are all on the same page! It's different if it's a close family member and that's what I told FMIL

Would you let a baby come to your wedding?

At the end of the day, I decided that I would do whatever I wanted and everyone could deal with it. I made up rules and made exceptions when I felt it was appropriate. (1 child, first cousin). Deal. Get over it. You don't like it, don't come.

Stay strong! It's your wedding!

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Posted by Stephanie621

I'm dealing with that now. I haven't sent out invitations yet but people are assuming that it's ok and telling me their plans. I was a little put off by it at first bc these are all people who recently got married and strictly had a policy of no children or babies so I was kind of assuming they would take that same stance with my wedding.

But, after thinking about it A LOT, I realized it's not going to be me taking care of the babies and if they want to bring them to a wedding late at night (it doesn't end until 12:30) then that's fine with me.

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sure you won't be taking care of the babies, but how would you feel if youre saying your vows and that baby is screaming it's head off?

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Exactly! Or what about the ppl who don't watch their kid(s) and assume since they are around friends/family it's ok for them to just run around and go crazy! If you don't want children there I would say so.