Wow - shocked by the tackiness...

Original post by beachbum05

Jul 17, 2007 01:00 PM

Ok, so remember a few weeks ago I told you how I wasn't invited to the rehearsal dinner of FH's friends' wedding (even though he was and he isn't a GM)?

So today I get an after-wedding brunch invitation ONLY addressed to my FH.

ANDDDDDDDDD the response card doesn't even have a stamp on it.

Are these people SERIOUS!? I'm guessing I'm not even invited to the wedding.

I'm shocked at the tackiness.

How do you NOT invite someone with their FIANCE. It's not like FH's friend doesn't know we're engaged....or doesn't know ME! We've hung out - we were engaged before they were - there's no excuse. I'm blown away.

Wow.

ETA: I sent the response card with BOTH of our names, saying we will not attend. If I'm not invited to the wedding, which I'm guessing I am not...we're not going. FH thinks its ridiculous too.

Mizzdimple Posted: Jul 17, 2007 01:21 PM

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Thats nuts., do they have financial problems?

kBr Posted: Jul 17, 2007 01:24 PM

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damn that is ridiculous- good idea sending the RC with both names and a big fat NO- i would have done the same thing!

beachbum05 Posted: Jul 17, 2007 01:25 PM

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Posted by Mizzdimple

Thats nuts., do they have financial problems?

No!!! They live in a ridiculous apt on Park Avenue, both come from wealthy families, and are having their RD at Tavern on the Green and their wedding at the Mandarin Oriental hotel, overlooking central park.

Just shows you that just because someone has money doesn't mean that they have class.

JTsGal829 Posted: Jul 17, 2007 01:27 PM

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Posted by Junebride62108

Posted by LuvMyAlfonse

wow Bonnie that's ridiculous. I'd call them out on it for sure.

I AGREE!! DONT THESE PEOPLE REALIZE HOW RIDICULOUS THEY LOOK? SHAME ON THEM!!

my thoughts exactly!!!! Like you said.. it's not like they don't know you, or that you are engaged.. if you had only been dating a month maybe then i'd get it.. but to not invite someone with thier fiance.. YUCK!!! Tacky is right!

ETA: wow just read that they are having RD at tavern and mandarin is totally expensive. You are right..money certainly does not equal class.. that's nuts!

Mizzdimple Posted: Jul 17, 2007 01:27 PM

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Posted by beachbum05

Posted by Mizzdimple

Thats nuts., do they have financial problems?

No!!! They live in a ridiculous apt on Park Avenue, both come from wealthy families, and are having their RD at Tavern on the Green and their wedding at the Mandarin Oriental hotel, overlooking central park.

Just shows you that just because someone has money doesn't mean that they have class.

That REALLY su Ks! Yes no class.

GinaBambina08 Posted: Jul 17, 2007 02:02 PM

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Extremely tacky! you don't not invite someone's fiance, especially if you know them! That's horrible!

florezpeeps Posted: Jul 17, 2007 02:08 PM

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these ppl are horrible to you, do they even put 'and guest' or are they terrible all around and just put his name alone?

blu6385 Posted: Jul 17, 2007 02:11 PM

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hmm the only thing i can think of do they not like you ..do you get along with them??

beachbum05 Posted: Jul 17, 2007 02:14 PM

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Posted by florezpeeps

these ppl are horrible to you, do they even put 'and guest' or are they terrible all around and just put his name alone?

Nope just him!

beachbum05 Posted: Jul 17, 2007 02:16 PM

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Posted by blu6385

hmm the only thing i can think of do they not like you ..do you get along with them??

No! We get along just fine! I've never met her....just FH's friend. We get along well and have gone out a couple of times.

And believe me, I'd know if there was some bad-blood - I'm not oblivious to that stuff.

They're just tacky.

TheFutureMrsM Posted: Jul 17, 2007 02:19 PM

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WOW that is crazy, i really dont get people sometimes. Its like people have no idea what proper etiquette is

LuvMyAlfonse Posted: Jul 17, 2007 02:20 PM

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Posted by TheFutureMrsM

WOW that is crazy, i really dont get people sometimes. Its like people have no idea what proper etiquette is

understatement of the new millenium.

florezpeeps Posted: Jul 17, 2007 02:23 PM

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Posted by beachbum05

Posted by florezpeeps

these ppl are horrible to you, do they even put 'and guest' or are they terrible all around and just put his name alone?

Nope just him!

omg, that's terrible, even if he wasn't engaged (which makes this off the chart ridiculous) they have no class (they can live in the mandarin and eat at blt's everyday and still be classless) because how did they not put 'and guest' at the very bottom most least to someone in their bp~

blu6385 Posted: Jul 17, 2007 02:24 PM

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Posted by beachbum05

Posted by blu6385

hmm the only thing i can think of do they not like you ..do you get along with them??

No! We get along just fine! I've never met her....just FH's friend. We get along well and have gone out a couple of times.

And believe me, I'd know if there was some bad-blood - I'm not oblivious to that stuff.

They're just tacky.

ok then ill have to go with you there just tacky ... the only way i could see you not get invited is if there was major tension between you and the couple ...well the only other thing i can think of maybe they arent aware of eitquette ... i know on my eparty invites i did not address FH friends FI or girlfriends on them not because they werent invited but it just didnt occurr to me at the time to do it ... also my eparty was bigmess and pain so things like that slipped by me ... also i wasnt even aware really that you were suppose to invite the BP dates to the RD i would have never known that if it wasnt for this site or other people telling me i would have been clueless ... but again i dont know these people i can just take your word for it maybe they are just tacky

florezpeeps Posted: Jul 17, 2007 02:25 PM

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Posted by beachbum05

Posted by blu6385

hmm the only thing i can think of do they not like you ..do you get along with them??

No! We get along just fine! I've never met her....just FH's friend. We get along well and have gone out a couple of times.

And believe me, I'd know if there was some bad-blood - I'm not oblivious to that stuff.

They're just tacky.

wait, what if the bride is doing all the invites but her brainy fh has forgotten to mention his friend is engaged (bahhh she still should know to give a guest invite)

blu6385 Posted: Jul 17, 2007 02:27 PM

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Posted by florezpeeps

Posted by beachbum05

Posted by blu6385

hmm the only thing i can think of do they not like you ..do you get along with them??

No! We get along just fine! I've never met her....just FH's friend. We get along well and have gone out a couple of times.

And believe me, I'd know if there was some bad-blood - I'm not oblivious to that stuff.

They're just tacky.

wait, what if the bride is doing all the invites but her brainy fh has forgotten to mention his friend is engaged (bahhh she still should know to give a guest invite)

very good possiblity FH would do something like that

GinaZ Posted: Jul 17, 2007 02:28 PM

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woooooow sooo rude! How do you not invite someones Fiance!! its not like ur a random person! RUDE!

Super2star Posted: Jul 17, 2007 02:29 PM

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maybe you can invite your FH's friend and not his wife...lol...see how SHE likes it

beachbum05 Posted: Jul 17, 2007 02:30 PM

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Posted by florezpeeps

wait, what if the bride is doing all the invites but her brainy fh has forgotten to mention his friend is engaged (bahhh she still should know to give a guest invite)

Well, they should have gotten clued in when I returned the RSVP to the REHEARSAL DINNER and wrote 'FH name and Bonnie XXX will not attend.'

So if they don't get the picture after I return the brucnh RSVP with 'FH name and Bonnie XXX will not attend' then they're plain ridiculous.

I'll keep you all posted when we (and by 'we' I mean probably just FH) get the actual WEDDING invitation.