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here here! aparently, 'brides helping brides,' and 'not wedding related,' are not clear enough.

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REally I don't see what the big deal is. If you don't like the subject of a thread then DON'T read it.

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Posted by blushingbridetobe

REally I don't see what the big deal is. If you don't like the subject of a thread then DON'T read it.

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Then what is the point of having separate boards? Should EVERY topic be posted everywhere?

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I'm offended, I'm offended!!!

Just teezin...

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Posted by searsc

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Posted by blushingbridetobe

REally I don't see what the big deal is. If you don't like the subject of a thread then DON'T read it.

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Then what is the point of having separate boards? Should EVERY topic be posted everywhere?

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I agree!!! I am not even planning my wedding anymore and find it distracting.

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Posted by divabride

Its really not a big deal. New boards are made all the time. This one will just be dedicated to wedding talk. Again, this isnt meant to start drama, its just an idea.

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Many many moons ago, LIW only had a BHB, NW and then a vendor board. The other boards were created at the request of the members becuase the BHB was getting bogged down with other NWR posts. I think if there was an attempt to break away and create a wedding only MB, the same exact thing would happen all over.

Anytime someone mentions posting on the appropriate forums, the responses are similar to what you are getting here..don't read, who cares, etc.

ps...I agree with what you are trying to do but it's in vain.

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YOu know what...with all the thinking and planning I put into my own wedding, its a breath of fresh air to see none wedding related posts. I dont complain when I see someones grandma passed away, or whatever else the NWR might be. You lend your support or throw out idea...so whats the big deal about the politics. No one is shoving anything down anyones throat and trying to make them change their POV. Maybe im a weird bride, but there is only so much I can hear about save the date cards, etc...and youre right I DONT click on them if I dont want to read them!!! I just feel like if you start nit picking about what qualifies as wedding related or appropriate for this board there are a lot of things that will be taken off, and i dont think its necessary!!

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I'll be honest as to why I post NWR on BHB- many people post on NWR. It really doesn't bother me, and I find the NWR on BHB are totally different than the posts on NWR.

I honestly don't think I would stop posting NWR topics on BHB because that is where the most people frequent and respond . . .

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Posted by divabride


Wow!!! Spoken by a true elder. Thank you for sharing. Since you've been here so long, what would you recommend? Has this problem ever alleviated itself?

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I guess I am showing my age, huh??

Obviously the problem never alleviated itself because there are NWR posts here. The response is always this forum gets the most views, but if everyone started posting in the proper places, they will eventually get the traffic too.

I participate in several message boards and all of them work to maintain the integrity of the forums. I don't really understand the resistance to using the proper forums here.

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I really don't think another board is necessary. I posted here yesterday about water in Jamaica, which was related to my wedding/honeymoon, but I could see how some would see it as NWR. I wanted advice quickly from a great deal of people, which is easier to get on NWR. So long as posts are correctly identified in the subject, I don't see the issue--just don't click on it...

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I think the major problem is that people want to post, what ever it is, on the board where most people look. Usually, when posting, people want responses, lots and lots of responses. So, even though it may not be wedding related, but people want perspectives, they will still post on the one iwth the most posts.

I think its a good idea to saperate, but I am also skeptical; I don't think that will work.

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and let me just add that the NWR can be very DETERRING lately IMO . . . Like last night I posted about a bracelet I liked and just wanted opinions- it was not for the wedding. No offense to anyone, but I never would have posted it on NWR. I think it would be ridiculous to start a new wedding only board because that is what BHB is supposed to be . . . The more boards that are formed, the more the NWR is bound to spread- especially since people have varying opinions on it. Maybe the point of the various boards just need to be reinforced. again, for the most part, I don't care much for the NWR board because lately everything posted turns into a big joke . . .


Here's for a really silly analogy . . . If you keep gaining weight, do you just keep buying new and bigger clothes, or do you gat to a point where you say enough is enough and go on a diet?

I think we just need some reminders once in a while from the LIW gods to use the borads for their individual purposes . . .

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Posted by divabride

Hmm.. I dont know how politics came into play here, but I wasnt referring to that. Im merely stating a board that is strictly related to wedding chat. Im not asking for the BHB board to be removed or to be changed at all. Im just saying as simple as it is to have a board dedicated to child conceiving, a board on strictly wedding planning can be made also. I think everyone is missing the big picture here and trying to make it be something that it isnt. Everyone is so tense about all the drama thats going on in this board, that they are quick to think Im part of it too. Not the case people, Id just like a new board for those of us that arent tired of talking std's, favors, and invitations.

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You are so very kind. Trying to bring LIW together. And they have a board already for those trying to conceive.....TTC Boards......I thought I'd let you know.
I think people post on here NWR because it gets more responses. BHB is one of the most visited.

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well...great idea but there are too many threads already i believe.. some memebers only visit creatain groups...

like really, what is the difference between bhb or the 05 group? i'm sure the 06's will ask soon.

there is already a general fourm and some of these issues should/could of gotten posted there...

on the flip side

i think this election was the most important in a really long time.

but then again, post it somplace else..

and then again, if you don't want to talk about it, don't go in it...

just 2 cents

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I post on many message boards and the difference is that if a thread gets stared in a forum where its not supposed to be, the moderators move it to the appropriate forum. LIWs doesnt do that so why do we have all these specific forums if people arent going to use them???
If I was a Bride trying to plan my wedding...looking for advice, I certainly wouldnt appriciate it if I had to wade through posts that had nothing to do with wedding planning.