XOXO

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Second...I can see where you can be upset but I also think you need to step out of the brides shoes and take a look from a different perspective....Last year I had 7 weddings to go to..and this year i have 5 lined up already, plus my brother is having a baby....In april...i'm going to nebraska for my cousins wedding (which i'm in and will be there for 9 days) and then i come home and the next weekend is a friends wedding...will any of them suffer...nope its just something i need to financially plan ahead for

would it be nice if we could all have our own year to get married in w/o anyone else choosing that? Yes it would be awesome, and would it be nice if everything revolved around weddings...of course!!!! But I wouldn't freak out too much, because 6 months is plenty of time....I think even 2 months is plenty of time. The important people will be there and do what they have to do to be there with you!!!

I've been bouncing around two dates...one is 08-08-08, which my cousins says i cant have b/c he wants it...and the other is 10-10-08, which i just found out that my FH's friends wnat that same weekend...when FH told me about his friends i got pissed off and did not even want to discuss weddings....i didnt understand how people could be so inconsiderate and plan something so close...so we didnt talk about it and the more i thought the more i realized that we can't always plan our lives around everyones

Just go with the flow...if someone picks the week before or the week after...then think about panicing....but just try to remember that in 6 months a lot changes...even 2 months....so i understand your feelings...just make sure to look at it from both sides!!!!

If you really went to the extra step to express the fact you were not comftable with having your weddings so close together and she ignored it.

Then I think for the sake of the family either still have it on your date and put on a happy face at her wedding or move it so there is more of a buffer.

Do not rush to be wed in order to get in before her. I was trying to do this. My cuz and his fw booked a hall first day looking even before a engagement ring. I was horrified because i had just gotten engaged and didn't announce it yet. So i was in this mad dash and went nuts for two weeks. I am just happening to book it earlier then his date but its about 5 months apart. I honestly didn't care if it was two months apart I just always wanted a march or october wedding and felt 2007 was too soon.

Anyway back to you - I feel bad for your situation your not the one being selfish but in order to be the better person I wouldn't make it a big deal otherwise family members may call you bridezilla and i really don't think your that person.

Listen girl! Don't sweet that. This you year alone I want to five weddings, from May up until September in some causes I went to two weddings in one month. Don't worry about it. You'll be all right.
Listen though, you and f need to get on the ball with securing a hall.

I understand being upset because I'm in your shoes. FH and I got engaged at at the time there was only two other person getting married before me. Fast foward to almost ten months later and now there are 6 people who got engaged after us and are getting married before us and they are all weddings that we will more than likely be going to with the last one only 2 months before mine! (YAY for Matilde! )

Bottom line is that people are free to do what they want when it comes to their wedding just like you're free to do whatever you want when it comes to yours. Don't worry everything will work itself out!

I understand you being upset because it bugs me when people who aren't engaged and weren't even planning on it suddenly start trying to force it ito happen the minute they find out that you're getting married. Instead of being happy for you, it almost feels like they're trying to steal the spotlight and you get upset and it can't be helped, I guess. My cousins girlfriend started doing this when we got engaged, and they had only been going out for six months! Sure, this works for some people, but definitely not for them. I knew that as soon as they hit the one year mark the pressure would really be on because that's how long it took before I got engaged. If they were really in love it be one thing, but trying to get married just so that you're doing it too doesn't make sense to me.
Unfortunately, there's really nothing you can do and if you stay upset, it'll ruin what's supposed to be one of the happiest times of your life. You just have to go with the flow. Maybe they'll get married, maybe they won't but keep the focus on you and you'll stay happy.

i completely understand my cousin who is 4 years older who just met her b/f about 8 months ago wasnt even considering marriage AT ALL untill me and FH announced our engagement and the first thing she said was.. oh thats nice but we plan on getting married sooner then that. I was so upset that she was going to 'rain on my parade' and iwas so upset. So a few months later we booked our place next thing we knew they booked a place for 6 months earlier then ours. THEY'RE NOT EVEN ENGAGED YET!!!! so our motto is that they will have their wedding first but thats cuz were saving the BEST FOR LAST!! (that would be ours) so take it with a grain of salt that people are jealous of u and want to get married first but ur wedding will be the best for last!! try not to let it bother u i know its hard!

I totally understand where you're coming from! My MOH just got engaged 2 weeks ago and is getting married 6 months before me. At first I was really upset....

But think of it as research Going to everyone elses wedding is only going to make yours better!!!

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Posted by Soon2BMrsD

just make sure all ur little special things u keep to urself that way u blow everyone away the day of the wedding!

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Excellent advice Megan! Also, because if these family members wedding are so close to and before your's, you don't want them to steal your ideas and make them look like they're own!
Ya know what they say... weddings can bring out the worst in people. Good Luck!!

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Posted by Soon2BMrsD

yea its kinda early. im getting married the week after u. im sending them out about a year before. no earlier. JMO

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I agree. Things change.... if you know what I mean.

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Posted by KimAMalone

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Posted by Soon2BMrsD

just make sure all ur little special things u keep to urself that way u blow everyone away the day of the wedding!

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Excellent advice Megan! Also, because if these family members wedding are so close to and before your's, you don't want them to steal your ideas and make them look like they're own!
Ya know what they say... weddings can bring out the worst in people. Good Luck!!

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I couldn't agree more!!!!

thanks... i like to call people by thir names mines megan!!