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i'm sorry, that really *****. i'll have been engaged for a little over 2 years until my wedding. i can understand where you're coming from. it's like tacking on another year to it. everything will work out though. now you can focus on finding a job in ny and relocating. good luck with everything!

best of luck! everything happens for a reason!

I know how you feel. I have postponed my wedding four times because of finances. Your allowed to be moody

sounds cliche but everything DOES happen for a reason!!! even if it doesn't seem that way to us.....i wish u the best of luck with everything! and i'm sure in the end everything will be perfect and u'll see why it had to happen this way. love, support, hugs & prayers!!!

oh noo Im sorry to hear this...

FH and I had to do the same.... we had to push it back a year due to numerous reason..... :(

Im sorry sugar... It will work out and things happen for a reason.. they really do.....

aw im sorry! it's for the best though im sure!! everything happens for a reason

I would talk to FH....after all this planning, NOW he tells you he wants to live together first???? that sounds fishy to me. . . . it sounds like he may be a little nervous about the wedding and not ready to get married yet... or maybe he just wants to live together and then never get married.

Hate to sound harsh, but that was how i read it...... i would have a talk with him... if it's just you not having a job yet, that will come, i don't think that's a reason to postpone the wedding (unless you just can't afford it otherwise)

GOOD LUCK!

I don't quite understand--you're postponing the wedding because you can't live together first? Why do you have to live together first? It's not as if the few months before the wedding are a good test of how married life and living together is going to be--just the wedding planning is incredibly stressful, without all the extra stress of moving and starting a new job. If you're ready to be married, you shouldn't have to live together first. If your FH isn't sure you're ready to be married and need to live together first, then you shouldn't be so far along in the wedding plans. You shouldn't be finding this out a few months before the wedding.

Are you sure this is about living together? And it's too bad about your FSiL being due at that time, but lots and lots of weddings have gone ahead with bridal party members who were pregnant, whether they could or couldn't make the wedding.

I think you need to have a long, and very honest conversation with your FH about exactly why you're putting off the wedding. If you were OK with it, that would be one thing, but you're obviously not. Getting married shouldn't be so hard. Good luck! I hope everything works out.

you will get through this!! i am impressed by the maturity of your decision, as hard as it was to make. you will still have an amazing wedding, and now that so much is done, a lot less stress come next december!!



i wish you all the best in your job search!!

Good luck, stay strong.

I'm so sorry .... maybe it will work out for the best... sometimes things really do happen for a reason. You will be ok sweetie... I wish i could be more helpful and encouraging... but im not sure what would make you feel better. I cant imagine how frustrating it is!!! Be Strong.. things will work out the way they are supposed to!

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Posted by Pencils

I don't quite understand--you're postponing the wedding because you can't live together first? Why do you have to live together first? It's not as if the few months before the wedding are a good test of how married life and living together is going to be--just the wedding planning is incredibly stressful, without all the extra stress of moving and starting a new job. If you're ready to be married, you shouldn't have to live together first. If your FH isn't sure you're ready to be married and need to live together first, then you shouldn't be so far along in the wedding plans. You shouldn't be finding this out a few months before the wedding.

Are you sure this is about living together? And it's too bad about your FSiL being due at that time, but lots and lots of weddings have gone ahead with bridal party members who were pregnant, whether they could or couldn't make the wedding.

I think you need to have a long, and very honest conversation with your FH about exactly why you're putting off the wedding. If you were OK with it, that would be one thing, but you're obviously not. Getting married shouldn't be so hard. Good luck! I hope everything works out.

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Well Said......