XOXO

Susi, I'm sorry you're stuck with this! I know exactly how you feel as I've had to take everyone and my momma to get dresses, to fittings, etc etc. It can be very frustrating. I told FH to take his mom to pickup her dress earlier this week so that it could save me time this weekend, and he did, thankfully. Just re-express to Mike that you need his help on this one because otherwise it takes away from the time you need for other things.

wow.

No offense, but if this was your week: On Monday, she goes to LIJ for Pre-op testing, on Tuesday she has a brain scan, and on Thursday she gets a new port for the chemo put in

Would YOU feel like going to buy a freakin bra?

Men light a fire under his rear to get him going. Sorry he is being so difficult

Oh I feel your pain. I have a similar situation with my FMIL about shopping at least. Just breathe, and it will all work out.

He should've realized that you can't do everything and it is his mother after all. He probably figures your the girl so she would feel more comfortable with you instead of him.

I give him the benefit of the doubt, but smack him upside the head later anyway.

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Posted by beachbum05

wow.

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indeed

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Posted by SusiBtoM

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Posted by ido07

No offense, but if this was your week: On Monday, she goes to LIJ for Pre-op testing, on Tuesday she has a brain scan, and on Thursday she gets a new port for the chemo put in

Would YOU feel like going to buy a freakin bra?

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I wouldn't want to go shopping for a bra with all that going on, which is why I wanted FH to take his mom TODAY, while she is feeling good.
Did I mention that FH has been home from work for two weeks ?

Good news is that he did take her, and she got everything she needed, plus some other stuff.
Her fitting is scheduled for October 8th, so this way she can rest up the entire weekend.
Next project is shoes.............

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So glad FH came thru and took care of this. One question was it before or after you beat his A$$?

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Posted by beachbum05

wow.

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ditto

are you kidding me with this? please don't tell me your fmil's CANCER is interferring with your wedding planning. heaven forbid.

stop and read what you just wrote and rethink this.

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Posted by SusiBtoM

Laid the guilt on really thick...... I'm sick so I can't take her tomorrow, you are going to AC for your bachelor party so you can't take her, she has to go all the way to Bayside from Fresh Meadows by bus....

I love his mom, she is really great, but sometimes I just can't do everything on my own.

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I'm glad everything worked out for you! Pay no mind to the negative comments from people....I guess they forget how stressful planning is. I completely understand your point on wnating to get it done on a good day!! Good Luck with everything in the future!!

I don't think its fair for anyone to attack the OP... If you read what she wrote she isn't b*tching about her FMIL having CANCER... she complaining that her husband should have been the one taking care of this.

I'm sure his mother wants to be a part of this...

and none of you know their situation so back off

have a little sympathy and give Susi a break.

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Posted by carolinep24

I don't think its fair for anyone to attack the OP... If you read what she wrote she isn't b*tching about her FMIL having CANCER... she complaining that her husband should have been the one taking care of this.

I'm sure his mother wants to be a part of this...

and none of you know their situation so back off

have a little sympathy and give Susi a break.

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I SECOND THAT!!!!

Sorry, not for nothing, I know ENTIRELY way too many people getting married or who recently were married who are dealing with cancer and chemo [MYSELF included]

I lucked out in my situation, but if my mom was going through chemo 1 month before my wedding I'd be worried about other sht than her dress and my wedding. Call me crazy

ETA:
I apologize to the OP for my small vent, but seriously, you will remember what you said after your wedding is over and you're going to really feel bad about it. Weddings consume our minds and make us say funny things. Even regarding CANCER apparently

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Posted by Brian and Marie

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Posted by carolinep24

I don't think its fair for anyone to attack the OP... If you read what she wrote she isn't b*tching about her FMIL having CANCER... she complaining that her husband should have been the one taking care of this.

I'm sure his mother wants to be a part of this...

and none of you know their situation so back off

have a little sympathy and give Susi a break.

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I SECOND THAT!!!!

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IMO, in the scheme of things, it isn't really that important if FMIL has a dress or bra or shoes. It matters that she is there.

My FMIL died from a brain tumor six weeks before our wedding, so I read this a little differently.

Yes, planning a wedding is stressful, but so is having your elderly Mom going through cancer treatments or going through cancer treatments yourself.

Maybe FH feels funny bringing his Mom bra shopping. Maybe he is stressed out too.

I am sorry you are all going through this. If it helps any, I can definitely empathize with you, but I c an also see why others were taken aback.



Hope you feel better and here are some for your FMIL.