I am FAR from complaining that my FMIL has cancer. My mom died of cancer three years ago, so I know all about good days and bad days. I have been dealing with cancer non-stop since 2002. My mom died in September 2004, and FH's mom was diagnosed one month later.
I don't want sympathy. I was just looking to vent a little frustration and to complain a bit about FH - he just has no clue sometimes.
Im so sorry for your loss & suffering. I did say a prayer for your FMIL as soon as I read also, but I definately was hurt by the way you wrote your OP, but I see you were venting about something else. It just made you out to be a real brat... Fcking internet... ruins communication
Many prayers your way
B22
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I don't know... i was always raised to not judge other people unless i was in their shoes. (this is NOT directed at anyone...) I try to offer advice, but Im not going to tell someone they are going to eventually feel horrible for something they felt and expressed
WHY? they felt it... it happens.. I'm sure there are plenty of things ive thought that made other people's eyes roll.. but hey-- im human, can't help it.
now, I can't say that im not guilty of THINKING a nasty thought about someone and its hard for me to stifle my big mouth, but I do it... chhhhha know?
yes- in the scheme of things, her health is so much more important than this wedding (sorry susi!) but girls, remember how important your wedding is to YOU...
an besides, how do we know her FMIL isn;t some crazy old bat who likes to kick puppies and spits on little children? (kidding... kidding...)
allow her to let out her frustrations. Im sure she cares tremendously about her FMIL... and is frustrated enough without all of us attacking her.
B22
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Posted by MrsBartonToBe
Fcking internet... ruins communication
the internet is EVIL... ITS EVIL!!!!!!!! [/soylent green reference]
MrsQ-in2007
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Posted by SusiBtoM
Thank you ladies.
I am FAR from complaining that my FMIL has cancer. My mom died of cancer three years ago, so I know all about good days and bad days. I have been dealing with cancer non-stop since 2002. My mom died in September 2004, and FH's mom was diagnosed one month later.
I don't want sympathy. I was just looking to vent a little frustration and to complain a bit about FH - he just has no clue sometimes.
Susi, I totally understood what you meant by your OP - I am actually surprised that people misread it and thought it was a vent about you FMIL having cancer and it 'interfering' with your plans. I didn't read it like that at ALL and I know you only mentioned her illness to point out that your FH taking her TODAY would be way better than your sick FMIL going BY HERSELF next week, when it will be a busy and/or difficult week for her.
I'm happy Mike took her!! There really is no way you can do it ALL on your own, so if laying on the guilt worked, then good job!
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Whatever happened to 'If you don't have anything nice to say.....' Relax people, re-read the OP, she was venting about FH and he obviously wasn't that uncomfortable, he took her.
LB and DC
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shame on those of you who didn't read the OP thoroughly! a bride venting about her FH is not the same as being 'pi$$ed' at her FMIL for having cancer - a 5 year old could see that. and then making her feel bad because you can't read? how awful.
Susi, i am sorry your FH was being less than 100% supportive, i am glad you were able to light a fire under his a$$.
for your FMIL that she recovers quickly and feels better soon!
