XOXO

jenny2penny Posted: May 28, 2003 09:03 AM

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Lunatrek Posted: May 28, 2003 09:08 AM

Re: Need Advice...Sorry So Long

I think it's fair to have a discussion with him about it. You need reassurance from him that all of these actions are definitely in the past. If he gets defensive, if it were me, I would be nervous. He shouldn't have that kind of a reaction unless he's hiding something. So let's hope he can calmly assure you that your suspicions are unfounded and ancient history... after all, he's marrying you! But talking to him about it is something you should definitely do. It will drive you crazy to keep this to yourself. Good luck! I'll keep my fingers crossed for you!

jags77 Posted: May 28, 2003 09:10 AM

Re: Need Advice...Sorry So Long

you have FM

Sunny Posted: May 28, 2003 09:47 AM

Re: Need Advice...Sorry So Long

You will never be happy unless you trust him. No matter how unpleasant it will be, you should find out what's up.

NovemberSue Posted: May 28, 2003 09:50 AM

Re: Need Advice...Sorry So Long

I would ask him about it very calmly. That thing could be ancient. It may have been something he wrote in high school. I would not make too much of it and just see what he says.

cw0904 Posted: May 28, 2003 09:57 AM

Re: Need Advice...Sorry So Long

You need to find out what is going on. You should talk to him before he leaves.

jeng Posted: May 28, 2003 09:59 AM

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I would talk to him about it, especially with him going away for 2 months. It would eat at me....

I would be sure to approach him calmly and even start with a disclaimer that it's probably nothing, but you can't get it out of your head.

At least that's what I would say. You know best how to approach him.

NovemberSue Posted: May 28, 2003 09:59 AM

Re: Need Advice...Sorry So Long

Do not let your anger build up. Just tell him that you were cleaning and you found something.
Its probably really old.

jenny2penny Posted: May 28, 2003 10:07 AM

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NovemberSue Posted: May 28, 2003 10:12 AM

Re: Please, help I Need Relationship Advice...Sorry So Long

As long as you don't accuse him, you should be able to talk rationally about it. Its all in how you keep the tone of voice and just ask him how old that is. You should definately be able to talk about it. Good luck.

jenny2penny Posted: May 28, 2003 10:16 AM

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ChristineC68 Posted: May 28, 2003 10:27 AM

Re: Please, help I Need Relationship Advice...Sorry So Long

It's definitely an in person conversation you need to have. You should be able to talk to him about anything and you should not have any doubt about what he's doing. I hope it goes well

kelly6273 Posted: May 28, 2003 10:30 AM

Re: Please, help I Need Relationship Advice...Sorry So Long

It's probably nothing. Don't worry! Like you said, it had been a while since the room was cleaned.

I would confront him about very calmly...almost jokingly and see how he reacts. His reaction should tell all.