Im sure its different whether you are or are not living together..but...with all t he planning and preparing to be married..is your relationship changing? Do you notice a difference?
for ex: My FH and I talked about it and his mostly single friends are all like...well never see you again. bla bla.. it kinda hurt!
The difference in dating v. getting married...your responsibilites to each other...do they change since youve gotten engaged?
Are other things changing?
Jasonsgirl
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I don't think things have changed. I think it just a different feel being engaged then dating. Everything is the same with us.
GinaBambina08
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Things havent changed with me and FH...but I guess the fact that he doesn't have too many single friends helps...the single friends he does have want to be married but just haven't found the right girl yet...so they always tell him how lucky he is....I guess you could say I have it pretty good...
angl2001
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i dont think they will i already told him i am still gonna need at least 1 night a week with my girls!
madseason
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He has 2 nights set aside with them a week and they are still going on about it...so hes fearing his life is over and things are changing...
Jasonsgirl
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i dont think they will i already told him i am still gonna need at least 1 night a week with my girls!
FH told me the same thing he is going to need a guys night out. I can always see my girlfriend because he works night and the weekends alot. His friend havent said anything to us. My friends haven't said anything either.
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They haven't changed much, but what has changed actually has changed for the better. We rarely fought before and now we fight even less.
As far as going out with friends, he can go out whenever he wants but he chooses not to most of the time. He doesn't like going out clubbing anymore...then his other friends in relationships we go together to hang out with them...He will go out here and there to have dinner with friends, go watch a game and stuff like that...Infact he is at his friends house now, they ordered food, and now playing video games.
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i feel like theo nyl thing that has changed is feeling more 'grown up'per say.. like insteadof going out to the bar and drinking till we get stupid we think.. wow we could you that 100 bucks for favors/invites/limos/ flowers ect. so we kinda feel like the old couple.
Espo22
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I actually tell Fh to go out more but he is the one who doesn't want to, its weird...He was so big into clubbing and partying alot, and now he has no interest
madseason
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They haven't changed much, but what has changed actually has changed for the better. We rarely fought before and now we fight even less.
As far as going out with friends, he can go out whenever he wants but he chooses not to most of the time. He doesn't like going out clubbing anymore...then his other friends in relationships we go together to hang out with them...He will go out here and there to have dinner with friends, go watch a game and stuff like that...Infact he is at his friends house now, they ordered food, and now playing video games.
wow...thats similar to us...
he and his friends have a group....the other relationship guy dropped bc his father is gravely ill....FH's best friend is single and has no desire to get married...so he runs his mouth, nad then FH feels guilty and thinks his life is going to end...
anyone have a spare backbone?
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i feel like theo nyl thing that has changed is feeling more 'grown up'per say.. like insteadof going out to the bar and drinking till we get stupid we think.. wow we could you that 100 bucks for favors/invites/limos/ flowers ect. so we kinda feel like the old couple.
yes!!!! and I think hes falling intowhat every one is saying and its starting to freak me a little you know.... he keeps saying things are changing..i am we are....i dont get it!!
They haven't changed much, but what has changed actually has changed for the better. We rarely fought before and now we fight even less.
As far as going out with friends, he can go out whenever he wants but he chooses not to most of the time. He doesn't like going out clubbing anymore...then his other friends in relationships we go together to hang out with them...He will go out here and there to have dinner with friends, go watch a game and stuff like that...Infact he is at his friends house now, they ordered food, and now playing video games.
wow...thats similar to us...
he and his friends have a group....the other relationship guy dropped bc his father is gravely ill....FH's best friend is single and has no desire to get married...so he runs his mouth, nad then FH feels guilty and thinks his life is going to end...
anyone have a spare backbone?
Well for fh its hard for him regardless bc he has different groups of friends...His friends from LI that he went to college with are all mostly in relationships so we do see them more often since we do things together, plus he plays softball on a league with them.
then he has a couple more groups of friends, one group it is mostly single guys and they have actually been very understanding...I tell him he should go out once in a while though but he just doesn't want to be in that scene, for a couple reasons though.
His other groups of friends are very mixed, married and single guys, they do make time for eachother and will go have dinners together, or meet up at someones house or something.
FH is fine with not partying anymore, but then again he also has that been there done that attitude and over it. I mean he did after hours every weekend, spring break a couple of times, WMC, vegas about 5 times and all that other stuff lol...So he is comfortable at where he is at now.
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you are your makng that step into adult hood,... not that his friends arent but they're at a differnet stage in thier life you both will soon realize that.. ive noticed it recently.. when we see his friends.. they are still into going to the bar everynight and hanging out and clubbing EVERY WEEKEND. its great to do that but i feel like ive kinda grown out of that stage.. like i can sit here and talk about getting married and having kids and its ACTUALLY in arms lenght... their just not ready for that yet. their still in college my FH like most on here has a careere and is busy with work and cant go out and ditch class the next day. its a very hard adjustment and things will change but my mom said thats when you and your husband or wife will get a new set of friends who are on the same page.. and you will haveyour married friends and your old friends. sorry this post is all over the place i hope you get what im trying to say
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Well...nothing has really changed...we have been living together for over 4 years, and it felt like we were married before....but I get excited when I see him talk about visiting the vendors to people, and update people on the wedding progress! I felt like I have been dragging him to help me plan this, but it is nice to see him get involved once and a while! I just can't wait to move out of my mom's house!! My mom is cool, and we pay rent, but god, just to have our own space will be fantastic! I think that will be the biggest change!
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i feel like theo nyl thing that has changed is feeling more 'grown up'per say.. like insteadof going out to the bar and drinking till we get stupid we think.. wow we could you that 100 bucks for favors/invites/limos/ flowers ect. so we kinda feel like the old couple.
thats exactly us!!!!
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i think for the most part things are the same. we always had a very close relationship and do everything together.
but now its nice because our lives are finally meshing, things are becoming more us.. like joint account, how we spend our money, and even just the vibe from our families... and its making me realize that soon its really going to be us (like family, house kids)
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i feel like theo nyl thing that has changed is feeling more 'grown up'per say.. like insteadof going out to the bar and drinking till we get stupid we think.. wow we could you that 100 bucks for favors/invites/limos/ flowers ect. so we kinda feel like the old couple.
DITTO! we act so old now.. its kinda cute. i love the timei do see him (once a week) and i woudl rather relax then go out with ppl that now feel liek they cant have fun with us bc we are engaged...
not that our realtionship changed.. i feel my single friends relationship with me has changed....
i guess its better to find out peoples true colors now then never....
for ex. my girls (not with anyone just dating around) feel odd going out with me bc i have this 'ring' on... liek i will scare the guys away
oh well.. i can still have fun, sorry i wont make out with guys with you...
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I dont think that anything has changed. I think that I need some time with my girlfriends now that we live together, so we have nights out with our friends, with out eachother!
I think a little seperation is good!!!! As long as you can end the night snuggling!
