You know that STD I sent you, throw it out! VENT

nyrvixen Posted: Jun 12, 2012 10:14 PM

You know that STD I sent you, throw it out! VENT

Ok so we sent out our STDs already. We've had the same list since we got engaged and since we are only inviting family and close friends we figured we'll send them out since we have a few OOT guests. Well FH and I have these 2 friends (we'll call them Jeff and Kathy) that actually met at a party I was throwing for FH's birthday and they ended up hitting it off and flash forward a year they're getting married and we're invited to the wedding. So we sent them a STD for ours. Well FH's friend Mike had been talking about how since the wedding is coming up he needs extra cash and he's been worried about losing his job and his fiance is a teacher in danger of losing hers so he asked FH if they were hiring where FH works. FH found out that they were hiring part time for nights and weekends so he told his friend Jeff. FH asked him several times if he really wants this job because he gets hired and then says he doesn't want it that will look bad on FH who's trying to get full time there and FH will lose his employee recommendation (which he's trying to help my friend get a job there)Jeff said he really needs the job. FH put in a good word, Jeff went for an interview and he was hired. Then Jeff took a couple of weeks to fill out all the paperwork (w2 and all that stuff) Then they gave Jeff a start date which Jeff calls back a day before his start date to tell them he needs to push it back a week because the place he's working at right now needs him to do nights for a week. They say fine and tell him he needs to start the Saturday before Memorial Day since it's a mandatory day for all employees. Then Jeff calls them back and tells them that he can't start that day because now they're going to be doing a tasting at their venue. The place calls Jeff to try to work out a day he can start. Jeff doesn't return the calls. Finally Jeff calls and says he's not going to work there.FH explains that he starts working there and doesn't like it he can quit and there will be no repercussions to FH or my friend who is trying to get a job. Jeff goes, oh well that sux.

So now my friends application has been tossed out and they are mad at FH for what his friend did since now it's too late to hire someone else and have the board approve the person.

So I don't care if it's tacky or not but they are off the invite list. You don't mess with where someone works. Especially someone who has been busting their butt to get full time. Thank you for those that actually read this whole vent. Now I ask you, Am I wrong for not inviting them even though we sent them a STD?

katnwill Posted: Jun 12, 2012 10:20 PM

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I don't think you're wrong. You want your true, close friends to be at your wedding. I don't think he was a good friend; he was only thinking about himself. He did not care about how his actions would affect your FH's job status and future employment.

bellasmommy1029 Posted: Jun 12, 2012 10:22 PM

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No. I would be the same way. Your fh went out of his way. What a ****** that guy is

Sdegennaro2 Posted: Jun 12, 2012 10:29 PM

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Wow people are so ungrateful seriously! I don't think your wrong at all I wouldn't invite them!

2013Bride Posted: Jun 12, 2012 11:15 PM

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That's messed up and I absolutely don't blame you for the un-invite! Like you said, you don't mess with where someone works....

LilinBobby Posted: Jun 12, 2012 11:52 PM

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You know what I'm gonna say! F*** that SH**!! Man people are so rude!!! I'm so sorry this happened. I hope they can see that FH is probably totally embarrassed by this kind of behavior! This is why I hate people sometimes!

Nenny Posted: Jun 13, 2012 12:24 AM

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That's so rude! I wouldn't invite them to my wedding either.

nyrvixen Posted: Jun 13, 2012 12:56 AM

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thank you all. I was sooo steamed. FH was laid off of his last job and was lucky enough to find this one. Unfortunately where he works it's all political and about who's butt you kiss. They call him last minute, he goes in. They change his hours, he doesn't complain. And now this looks bad on him because he recommended someone that screwed them over. FH even said him the first time he had to change his start date that if he doesn't want the job say something now so someone else who might need a job can take the position. But nope, he just kept saying he wants the job. UGH! oh and FH gets a text from him asking if we sent the RSVP back for their wedding because they haven't gotten it yet. You know what, you're not going to get the RSVP back so take that!

stormstryker Posted: Jun 13, 2012 02:37 AM

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grrrr!!!!!! I hate how the friends actions look poorly on your FH! Its not like he has complete control over someone else's actions.

KristyANDMatt224 Posted: Jun 13, 2012 07:25 AM

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i agree! they are OFF the list!

vppjzv Posted: Jun 13, 2012 07:27 AM

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jf418 Posted: Jun 13, 2012 07:45 AM

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girl i had would be so heated! def not wrong to not invite them

natalierose1085 Posted: Jun 13, 2012 08:13 AM

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That's messed up with this guy did. I would do the same if I were you and not invite them. Any half way decent person wouldn't do that to a friend, they shouldn't be surprised when you don't consider this guy a friend anymore!

FutureMrsSweeney Posted: Jun 13, 2012 09:43 AM

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That is terrible! How can Jeff be so selfish?! People don't understand how someone's recommendation means a lot in some industries. Write them off Yvonne!!! No Invite for them!

Courtz Posted: Jun 13, 2012 12:33 PM

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I read it all love!!!
See what pans out over the next few months, but it sounds like you won't be friends with them any longer and they will not be receiving a 'formal invite'.

cj52514 Posted: Jun 13, 2012 12:39 PM

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I 100% would not invite them either! Especially since your FH tried to explain the consequences and he said 'oh well that sux?'. That's some nerve! I hope everything is ok with your FH's job!

nyrvixen Posted: Jun 13, 2012 12:49 PM

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FH is actually now trying to look for something else. He loves what he does but he got passed over for full time once already because the woman he trained ended up actually being a friend of the boss so she got full time over FH and now he's getting the crappy patrols since this thing with his 'friend' happened.

Thank you all for reading my rant. I just couldn't believe that someone that has been your friend for years would go and do that.