Does anyone know about military leave?

My brother is in the army reserves and has been called to active duty in Germany. I am very upset that he will be leaving for a year. I am scared for him and I want him here for my wedding. Does anyone know what the military leave policy is? I do know know if he will be able to come home for my wedding If anyone has been in this situation please let me know what happened. Please understand that I am not trying to be selfish only thinking about my wedding, I am trying to decide if I should postpone.

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I don't know about military leave but why don't you ask your brother to find out? Let him know that you really want him there and are considering postponing the wedding until he gets back. See what he says.

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My brother is going to try to find out. I wanted to see if anyone else has been in this situation before and how they handled it.

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My brother is Army National guard and has been on active duty for almost a year (thankfully in Albany). I just spoke to him last night and he said he accumulates 2 days leave per month of duty. Hopefully it works the same way when they're overseas. I do know that when the terror alert is heightened leave is not granted. He almost didn't make it home for my e-party earlier this month.

I'd be devastated if my brother couldn't be at my wedding too. I hope it all works out for you!

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Thank you. I guess I will have to wait and see.

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I would ask him. my FH is a reservist, thank god never actvily called more than his 1 weekend a month.

I was always under the impression that whether reservist or full-time active, you don't have much say when they call you. It's one of those rights you kind up give up when you enlist.

My FH was close to missing his sisters wedding, during training, so he had to delay his A-school to the next session so he would be home. But being called to report I think is different.

Good luck!!!!

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Not to frighten you too much, but my husband had leave for our wedding and 30 days before it we had to postpone because his orders were changed and then with 30 days notice we rescheduled it as soon as he got new orders.
Also, members of bridal party were changed because some could get leave for the orginal date and couldn't for the new date that we actually got married and vice versa.

He can try to put in for leave as soon as he gets to his command in Germany. Is he is staying in Germany? If so he might have a good chance, but if he is going there to wait to go to war it is highly unlikely... ( and don't answer that, because you are not allowed to talk about troop movements due to Operational Security)

My husband is in the Air Force and most of his friends if they are at their duty station or at a TDY, they can get about 2 days leave for a wedding and it has to be an immediate blood relative. It only works for sister, brothers, mom, dad as well as in laws. Grandparents are not included and because of that my husband had to miss both of his Grandfather's funerals last year. Do you know if your brother is going TDY??

About postponing I would be leery as well unless you are going to wait until atleast a year from when he leaves, because the military really tells them nothing.

I didn't look at your date yet, but please cut your brother some slack over the next few week until he leaves, right now he is taking precedence over your wedding and he has no control over it and most likely will know nothing until he gets there and it is even worse because the ARMY is not the friendlist branch of the military.

So, my advice would be to hold off for a few weeks. And believe me I know it sucks, I waited until the last possible second to postpone our date and rarely get chances to see my family up north due to my Dh's leave. He currently has 28 days of leave and is unable to take it, he is only able to travel a radius of 250 miles from the base here in Texas.

I know how much it sucks and if you need to vent feel free. I learned a hard lesson that from now on I have to plan everything in pencil because I never really know when he is leaving or coming back and the rumors are usually always incorrect. Like as of right now I am moving some time in March to Arkansas (I have no clue when because I only find out two months before) and then this summer we are moving elsewhere and again I have no clue where...

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Thank you for the adivce Laurie. I am sorry to hear what happened to your wedding plans. I am trying not to bother my brother because I know that he is going through a stressful time right now. What is TDY?

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Posted by suzieq

Thank you for the adivce Laurie. I am sorry to hear what happened to your wedding plans. I am trying not to bother my brother because I know that he is going through a stressful time right now. What is TDY?

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Hey SuzieQ,

Don't be sorry about our weddings plans! We aren't. It sucked at the time being especially since the invites went out and I was did my fittings without having a wedding date but all of that is a long time ago and we did get married and we had a perfect day in September and the 100+ guests that did make it showed us truely how much they cared because they dropped everything on short notice to be there for us!
TDY is a Temporary Tour of Duty, they go from anywhere from a few weeks to 5 months anything longer then that is normally a deployment. Dh's schedule is up tp 90 days TDY then he is home for 12-160 then up tp 90 days again. I know that some of the guys that are being sent are just kinda filling in for deployed active duty guys and I'm hoping that it is all your brother is doing.
Just be very up front with your vendors mine were sweethearts to our situation and worked with me, the only money we lost was reprinting new invites but we got them at cost because the printer felt bad and they rushed them to my parents house. I would just sorta hold off for the next month or so and see how things go, just be concered for your brother help him through things he must be a nervous wreck and most likely is thinking of your wedding as well.
Hopefully his assignment won't be a year or if it is hopefully he will get R&R leave and maybe he can schedule that for your wedding date. I know plenty of guys who scheduled it to be home when their wives had babies. Most of them missed the whole pregancy but got home for the day after the birth and the first week or so. Also, and I can try to find the link their was a recent news story of a reservist who was gone for the most of his daughter's wedding planning and she thought he wouldn't be home for the wedding and he got R&R that week and him and his wife (the mom) surpised their daughter with him being at the end of the asile to walk her down to the altar!
(Isn't that awesome! That story still makes me cry to this day! They said the whole church gasped when they saw him!