Adjusting to Living Together

Did you find adjusting to living together hard?
What was the easiest part and what was the hardest?
How do you split up household chores?
DH says he can't cook, but he gets home at 6 and I don't get home until 7 or 8- feels weird to be married and each to fend for themselves for dinner. Would love to here others experiences about newly married and newly living together.
Also anyone have DH move into their place as opposed to starting fresh with a brand new place neither lived in before?

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I am not fining it that hard- The last 6 months I spent fri-mon by him so I guess it made the transition a little easier. when it comes to dinner- DH and I pretty much eat on our own during the week. He doesnt get to eat lunch till 2-2:30 and I eat at 11:30. So when it comes to dinner, I want to eat the latest 7 when DH doesnt eat till 9. Weekends we eat all meals together

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DH & I moved in together in January of 2006.
It was a little bit of an adjustment but nothing too crazy. I for one do not like to cook, so DH had to figure out how to cook & he is very good at it. He cooks dinner 5 or 6 nights a week. Although this past summer DH was not getting home from work until order 7:30 so I would prep dinner & all he had to do was finish it up when he got home.
As far as household chores go I clean the apartment & do all the laundry. The only household chore I ask DH to do is to clean the shower because I hate doing that.

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We moved in together August 2009, a few months before our wedding. we were spending every night at my place or his before that, so I didn't think it would be a big adjustment. In some ways, I was right, but I was also wrong! I think that you know your DH has certain bad habits at their own place, but you never prepare yourself for them to bring those habits with them! I remember two things we were annoyed about were: I apparently don't wash dishes the exact way he does, and he leaves his facial hair ALL OVER the sink. Silly things like that. It took some adjusting and getting used to our quirks, but nothing we couldn't handle. It also helps that we are both very laid back yet organized for the most part.

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DH and I did not live together prior to us getting married. We closed on our house right after the honeymoon. the first day was hard for me but then after that i pretty much got used to it. we have also been together for almost 8 years so i already had an idea on what to expect (although i still yell at him for making a mess when he cooks )

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DH and i moved in together about in 2007. he does some work at night so i am primarily the one who would cook and clean. but DH has always been VERY helpful if i needed an extra hand. he's been helping out more now that we have the baby and we need to split our time with her.

the adjustment was ok. just make sure you are always open about everything b/c that will make the transition something you do together, not one person transitioning for the other.

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DH and I moved in together June 2009. Old habits DIE HARD! He still leaves everything everywhere and the apartment is just 1 big mess ALL THE TIME. I can't seem to keep up with it, especially when I'm not around for a weekend. I love with him though and we got into a routine. Now, as soon as I have free time I can start cleaning the apartment every Sunday and HOPEFULLY that will help! It does help that he cooks and I don't and he likes to do the laundry (weirdo) but if we could just get his mess in order, we'd be set!

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I love living together. I do cleaning, laundry, cooking, food shopping etc etc etc. When i think about it- i do everything- sometimes he helps clear the table but thats it- he makes sure evrything in the apt is working and up to par.

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Did you guys just move in together when you got married?

I ask because that's what we did, and the first few weeks were a little weird...just getting used to having another person around and stuff. You guys only got married a few weeks ago (yay!!!) so it's totally normal to be trying to figure out a routine.

Your schedule is similar to mine and DH's; he's home by about 5:30 and I don't get home until 7-7:15. I plan a weekly menu for us so we know what we're eating. Maybe that sounds crazy, but there's no last-minute 'what are we having for dinner?' scramble. This is what we do in terms of dinner...he'll get home and have a light snack to curb his hunger. An apple, a mini bag of microwave popcorn, something like that. (We try really hard to eat healthy). I try to cook dinners that will last for two meals. On the weekend, I try to make something that will last through the whole week, so we can have it whenever. My go-to right now (since it's chilly outside) is soup. If we don't feel like cooking, then it's easy to reheat. It packs well for lunches.

My DH can cook, but I LOVE to cook so he pretty much never does. He loves to clean though, so since he gets home early, he has a light snack and cleans up a bit. We have three cats so there's always some kind of mess to tidy up. Or he'll go pick up our laundry from the laundromat, get an oil change, go to Home Depot for anything we might need for the place, that kinda stuff.

You'll figure out a routine. It's all just trial-and-error. As for your last question, I moved into his place. I had my own apartment but it was too small for the two of us + three cats.

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Well for me it was different...The first time I ever traveled or slept alone with DH was in our honeymoon! LOL it was really really traditional for us..I lived with my parents and siblings, he lived with his parents and siblings. I never once ever slept over his apartment vice versa b/c it was considered taboo by our parents and we dated for 5 years this way! But all in all, after we came back from our honeymoon thats when we started living together! So far it has been great and we are usually home by 6:30 for dinner..it has been the most beautiful experience yet ever and I am so glad we waited until marriage to live together...we are used to each other by now and it didnt take too long to adjust for us...

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We had a very difficult time adjusting to moving in together. I am very neat and my DH is messy (although her is getting better) and I hated coming home to his mess every evening. Initially I did the bulk of the cleaning but after a couple of months it was too much so we split the chores. DH takes out the garbage, rinses the dishes, loads the dish washer, empties the dish washer and vacuums. He helps with the laundry and the cooking . He also feeds and walks our dog the majority of the time. I do the dusting, moping, cleaning of the bathroom (DH usually scrubs the tub), changing of linens etc.

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Did you find adjusting to living together hard? YES

What was the easiest part and what was the hardest?EASY??? seeing eachother everyday.LOL Hard sleeping in the same bed.

How do you split up household chores?I do EVERYTHING!!

DH says he can't cook, but he gets home at 6 and I don't get home until 7 or 8- feels weird to be married and each to fend for themselves for dinner. Would love to here others experiences about newly married and newly living together.
I work some late nights and DH works late every night. I cook mostly all meals on Sunday so its easier during the week to just heat it up and make the sides. I do the food shopping when he is at work on Saturdays and cleaning. That way he isnt in MY WAY,lol. I love the fact that we watch each others shows together and snuggle most nights. We have our differences and of course we are two very open people and always say what we are feeling, which is good and bad at times but, that is who we are and we love each other for it.
I have to say some things have gotten easier as times have gone on but, we still have a lot to work on and that is why we have the rest of our lives together to figure it out :)

Also anyone have DH move into their place as opposed to starting fresh with a brand new place neither lived in before? My DH moved in to my place, I have a son and didnt want him to have too many changes at once. So we stayed here, 3 bedroom lots of room, so he didnt have to change schools.

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Did you find adjusting to living together hard?

No, I find that it is more fun and we enjoy each other a lot more now.




Easiest: Decor----we have the exact same taste

Hardest: hmmm I'll have to get back on this one....I have no idea.




How do you split up household chores?

50 / 50 although sometimes he will do some extra stuff b/c I magically 'forgot'