Dear MIL,

Just because I mentioned to you that MAYBE I was thinking of taking Franky (MY HUSBAND) to AC for the weekend of his birthday does not mean that I was inviting you! Please let us live our own lives and stop trying to think you are #1 in his life and I cannot do anything for him JUST THE TWO OF US!

Also, please note that when MY HUSBAND is sick, I will take care of him! You do not need to make him soup and tell him to travel ALL THE WAY TO THE ISLAND to make him feel better! I got this!

Sincerely,
Your less then patient daughter IN LAW!!!!!

PS - Brother in law and I are getting tired of the baby speech...KNOCK IT OFF!

Re: Dear MIL,

yikes!!!!!!

what does she do when youre sick??

Re: Dear MIL,

I am so thankful my MIL doesn't have this 'mama's boy' complex.... I feel bad

Re: Dear MIL,

hey could be worst, she can not care at all and trust me it is worst

Re: Dear MIL,

Barb - When I'm sick she just comments on how GREAT HER son takes care of me (which he does but not to the extent that she makes it out to be). She has some misconception of how her son is and it drives me INSANE!

She's the reason I left Facebook, well one of the main reasons...couldn't take her 'of course my son did that we raised him right' or 'my son would never do something like that' or comment on EVERY SINGLE POST I ever made, on someone's wall or status, EVERYWHERE!

Regy - I'm sure it is worse...trust me, I'd be happy with a middle ground. Any mother who calls the girlfriend/fiance/wife when a fight is going on between the SO and her son to 'clarify his side of the story' just crosses the line for me. She's WAY too involved and all DH does now is bow his head, shake it, and say 'I'm sorry'.

Re: Dear MIL,

thats sickk. does dh actually drive to get soup??? if he does, smack him for me.

Re: Dear MIL,

NO WAY! He knows better! She either freezes it for him (although he's not sick anymore by the time she sees him) or has his poor father drop it off on his way home from work.

Re: Dear MIL,

ye I get what ur saying, I totally see how annoying and infuriating that can be
middle ground would be amazing. oh well....

Re: Dear MIL,

wow, how obnoxious!

i totally understand the frustration (to a point) though... when DH and I first moved in together, MIL would ask him to come over and help her fix her computer (or other random sh!t) ... but it drove me crazy because we live 30-40 mins away from her, while her other son lives 10 mins away ... why not call him?! Anyway, after her calls started becoming a habit, i told DH it's unacceptable and he can't run over there for her. She still does other things like that, but he's learned to push her away and she's gotten used to the fact that it'll happen.

Re: Dear MIL,

This makes me think of DH's aunt... and I can't stand her! I feel bad for the poor girls who have her as a hovering, holier-than-thou MIL!

I'm glad your DH is starting to see the situation as you see it... his support will be your #1 weapon against her!!!

Re: Dear MIL,

I'd change the locks if she's got your key and stop answering the phone...and tell your Husband that YOU come FIRST and to stop bowing down to her!!!


I feel for you

Re: Dear MIL,

Thanks girls! Venting here DEF helps and I don't go completely crazy on DH. She's just a bit much and DH DEF knows that. Even he stopped answering his phone when she calls. I'm not answering my phone when she calls either anymore (under DH's intrustructions). She likes to call me and give messages to DH like I'm his answering service.

We live 30 minutes from the ILs and THANK GOODNESS! They do not have keys and I don't think ever will being that I know for a fact she just drops by SIL's house with her key, unannounced since she lives 5 minutes from MIL. DH and I agreed that we are not going to look for houses anywhere close to the ILs, we just have to hope they don't decide to move close to us (like MIL keeps saying).

I know a lot of you feel my pain and as a complete whole, I'm sorry. I actually recently changed my mind on wanting kids soon and told DH I can't take the pressure and if she mentions it again I'm going to tell her that I'm pushing it back because of her and if she keeps it up she's going to just have to live with her animals as being her grandchildren.

Just thinking about her I want to

Re: Dear MIL,

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Posted by ourwedding9510

I know a lot of you feel my pain and as a complete whole, I'm sorry. I actually recently changed my mind on wanting kids soon and told DH I can't take the pressure and if she mentions it again I'm going to tell her that I'm pushing it back because of her and if she keeps it up she's going to just have to live with her animals as being her grandchildren.

Just thinking about her I want to

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One piece of advice, if I may... when you decide to have kids, make her sit down and have the uncomfortable conversation about boundaries. My poor coworkers HATES her MIL because of her obsession with her kids (as opposed to any of her other grandchildren), constantly stalking them at soccer games, on the weekends, weeknights, etc. My coworker is just now playing 'the bad guy' and trying to distance her MIL from being such an intrusion. But once you get preggo, it could be just the catalyst you need to draw the line with her!

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