Re: did you think your first year of marriage was easier or harder then you expected

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Posted by tracyg

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Posted by wc0143

I didn't expect it to be 'hard' ... we'd already lived together for a while, so it's really exactly the same.

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exactly, i really didn't expect anything to change. It's only changed for the better.

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That's how I feel.

Re: did you think your first year of marriage was easier or harder then you expected

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Posted by Irishbride

Much harder than I expected and we lived together b/4 we got married.

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that's interesting.

Re: did you think your first year of marriage was easier or harder then you expected

Actually I have to say so far so good. I think the real test for us will come when we have kids....becuase we lived together before we were pretty well adjusted. Add kids down the road and then we will see how well adjusted we are!!!

Re: did you think your first year of marriage was easier or harder then you expected

Easier than expected. I wasn't sure how we would adjust to living together, but it's been great.

Re: did you think your first year of marriage was easier or harder then you expected

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Posted by wc0143

I didn't expect it to be 'hard' ... we'd already lived together for a while, so it's really exactly the same.

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My feelings exactly!

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We didn't live together before the wedding, so it has been harder than I imagined....I just want to make sure how we share chores, etc. now is how I want it to be forever, because I know this first year will set the precedence for the rest of our lives.

ETA: Also, we were the first of DH's friends to get married. I always imagined they would just let us be married, but they are still calling DH every night to go out drinking and partying. It makes us hard to live my idea of a happy married life, with us either going out with his friends who get soo wasted or else him feeling guilty for abandoning his friends...It is hard for him to create a happy medium with keeping his friends and having a happy marriage, but I like staying in, having a mellow weekend, and all the friends want to do is go out and get drunk. I am 26, DH is 28, and I just want to put that behind us.

Re: did you think your first year of marriage was easier or harder then you expected

It was harder than I could have ever imagined, but we were up against it on so many levels (financially, the house, inlaws, etc.). It's definitely gotten better/easier over time, either that or I'm just numb to the occassional b.s.

Re: did you think your first year of marriage was easier or harder then you expected

I think it's easier than I thought but DH and I will be together for 7 years in May and and at that time we would have been married for less than 2 years.

We also lived together while we were engaged so we've had a lot of time to work out whatever issues we had over the years.

Re: did you think your first year of marriage was easier or harder then you expected

Everything but the money has been great!!! I love my DH and being married

Re: did you think your first year of marriage was easier or harder then you expected

Easier then I thought it would be, it is probably becuase we were living together before we were married. I am not saying it has been a piece of cake, every couple has there ups and downs, and marriage did have some adjustments. But I love being married, and the first year has been easier then anticipated.

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I say easier. DH and i are looking foward to a less stressful year since the wedding is over and i have finally come up with a way to deal with my MILs grouching and complaining. I hope for the best this year. My DH and i have never been as close as we are now and it is a wonderful feeling.

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We didn't expect it to be hard, and it's not. It's been very nice, and easy EXCEPT that we are living with his mom, which is hell. But we keep our sense of humor about that, and know that by next Christmas we'll be in our own place.

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Posted by Monkeybride

So far so good. We lived together before so it's not that different for us but we have had our share of adjustments and we're doing well through them.

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Same here. We already bought the house and have been living together for over 3 years. I got my first Christmas wife card today and that was awesome!!!!

Re: did you think your first year of marriage was easier or harder then you expected

The same as I thought it would be...pretty easy but maybe that's because we lived together. All I know is that if we can get through planning a wedding, our respective families, buying a house, and work stresses all within one year, then we can get through anything!

Re: did you think your first year of marriage was easier or harder then you expected

Definitely easier... last year we dealt with the engagement, planning the wedding in less than 1 year (actually, 3 weddings, but that's another story), buying a house, completely gutting the house and renovating it by ourselves within 3 months, me taking the bar exam, and getting a new job, so now that we're married, and all the craziness is behind us, life is wonderful!

Re: did you think your first year of marriage was easier or harder then you expected

I would say the first year was easier than everyone said it would be. But the second year is going even better than the first! I think we have the hang of this marriage thing! LOL

Re: did you think your first year of marriage was easier or harder then you expected

As we are approaching our first year of marriage in March, I found it completely easier than I imagined.

The first couple months were more of an adjustment - just getting the house together and getting used to having each other around all the time - but its been a wonderful first year!

Re: did you think your first year of marriage was easier or harder then you expected

We're only 6 months into it and it has been one of the suckiest years of both of our lives (one major disaster after the other) aside from our wedding and my finally finishing a degree.

But our relationship stuff was much easier. The only thing we found difficult was it seemed like everyone wanted a piece of us so we spent more time visiting others and little to no time alone relaxing.

Without each other we'd probably be in the looney bin...I can't wait for the ball to drop and end this year.

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harder! weve had some tings to deal with.

Re: did you think your first year of marriage was easier or harder then you expected

Within our relationship, its been pretty much what I expected! We had some adjustments to do when we first moved in together but we have learned to live well together! We still have our moments but I wouldnt trade being married to him for the world!

However the first 6 months have been the hardest of my life! 3 weeks after our wedding my mom was diagnosed with cancer! My stress level really did make living with me a tad more difficult than it had to be! (I would cry if DH asked why I didnt put the mustard away) Then with all the back and forth and worrying and helpign around their house while setting up our house, I would be lying if I said it didnt take its toll at times between DH and I (although he NEVER once complained) Then my mom passed away and with the holidays I did most of the shopping from DH and I as well as from my Dad to my brothers, my SIL, my DH, my nieces and nephews...So its been nothing short of draining, hectic and emotional.. But that is what marriage is about, figuring out the good and bad together!

The way I figure it, if DH and I could survive these past 6 months this happy to be with one another, we are on the right road and 2005 can only get better!