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Posted by mrsdraskin2009

it is tacky to then NOT even thank them for attending your special day

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'Thank you for being capable of getting out of your house and attending an all you can eat-drink-dance party'

SERIOUSLY???

It is beyond TACKY to not even give a card, it is mean and hurtful

Regardless, I plan on sending everyone that was invited a thank you. But I still feel hurt by those that didnt make the effort to even give us a card.

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Posted by Bride825

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Posted by mrsdraskin2009

it is tacky to then NOT even thank them for attending your special day

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'Thank you for being capable of getting out of your house and attending an all you can eat-drink-dance party'

SERIOUSLY???

It is beyond TACKY to not even give a card, it is mean and hurtful

Regardless, I plan on sending everyone that was invited a thank you. But I still feel hurt by those that didnt make the effort to even give us a card.

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Hey I hear ya! I said, people suck! But I cannot control whether or not my guests do the right thing, but I can control that I thank them appropriately. Like I said, you cannot expect people to do the right thing.

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Posted by AngnShaun

you should still thank them just say thanks for sharing in our special day...

40-50 people is an insane amount of missing gifts...

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ita..who the hell were these people!!!!!!!!

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Posted by gina409

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Posted by AngnShaun

you should still thank them just say thanks for sharing in our special day...

40-50 people is an insane amount of missing gifts...

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ita..who the hell were these people!!!!!!!!

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My thoughts exactly

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Posted by mrsdraskin2009

IMO...

You thank people for attending your wedding.

End of story.

ETA: I will get flamed for this but here goes...

You have your wedding without ANY expectation of cards, gifts, etc. It is not a fundraiser. Yes, people suck and don't give a gift or a card, but I think it is tacky to then NOT even thank them for attending your special day. It is supposed to be about people sharing in your union, having a good time with the people you love and care about. It is not about who didn't give a gift or a card.

I need more people on my level...everyone is sooo concerned with keeping track of who gave this, who didn't give this.

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I completely agree with this.

With that in mind, I only did not send 1 person a thank you card & that is because she caused me a lot of heart ache.

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Posted by Bride825

'Thank you for being capable of getting out of your house and attending an all you can eat-drink-dance party'

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I sent everyone a Thank You.......and actually had the non-gifters send gifts. We got one card on our 1 yr anniversary!

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ugh!!! that many people did not give gifts
I would send a thank you, but would not be happy about it.

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If someone brought me at least a card (money or not) I would send a thank you. But someone who shows with nothing...I wouldnt send one.

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I haven't sent thank yous to non-gifters yet. All of the non-gifters have said that i'll be getting a gift 'soon' or keep saying that they misplaced the card so I'm waiting til I get the gift.

My FIL was so insulted that a few of his cousins didn't give gifts that he said something to them.

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Posted by mrsdraskin2009

Hey I hear ya! I said, people suck! But I cannot control whether or not my guests do the right thing, but I can control that I thank them appropriately. Like I said, you cannot expect people to do the right thing.

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This is exactly what I think.

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I thanked my non-gifters, even though I was insulted by most of them. I never got gifts from them. Even the ones who said 'it was coming'. It is really annoying and when I think about it my blood boils but oh well. I did the right thing- inviting them and thanking them and if they want to be rude and not give us a gift or even a card... well then... i hope people do the same to them if and when their time comes!!

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wow thats a lot.
i had like 2- I sent them a thank you for sharing the day with us.

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Holy crap...40-50 people? Thats insane!!!!! I agree with the girls who said to send a card thanking them for coming to the wedding.

But wow...40-50

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I'm not writing one for anyone who didn't give us a gift...I have enough to write already.

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Posted by Marianne13

If they came to your wedding without a gift of any sort, I tend to think they are from another planet and probably don't even know what thank you cards are...so I wouldn't waste 40-50 thank you cards, ink, and time if I were you.

BTW..that is a lot!

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Or they came for a free meal and a night out We had a no gifter, and they will NOT be getting a thank you card ,tacky or not. I think it is even more tacky to attend a wedding and not give anything..but that's me. And if I couldn't afford a gift, I wouldn't be at the wedding.

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I sent TYs to everyone who was there and everyone who couldn't attend but sent a card (gift or no gift). We had TONS of OOTers and many did not give gifts or cards. But they were there and I was happy to share our TY cards with them so they'd have a little reminder photo from our wedding. I'm sure many just went straight in the trash, but who cares? It wasn't that much extra work (and I probably had a good 30+ that fit this category).

I don't know... I guess presents just aren't that big a deal to me. If people come to my baby shower without gifts, they will certainly still get TYs for coming. It's just the way I am. (They'll probably also all get birth announcements, whether they attended or not.)

Do whatever you want. What do you really care what other people say about it?

I never did send ANY vendor TYs. By the time I was going to get around to it, it was like 6 months later and I just didn't care anymore about sending them TYs. I had already thanked them enough the day of with nice tips and through email immediately after the ones that were important to me.