need advice - was in a wedding over the weekend, it was great, BUT....

...there was a little drama and I'm unsure if how to handle it, or if I should just refrain from doing anything.

One of the other BMs, one of my best friends, got really upset (rightfully so) early on. After the CH and the bride and groom had their first dance, it came to our attention that there were no seats left at the assigned table for my friend's parents. It's still unclear as to whether it's the RH's fault or a simple mistake by the bride/groom, but it was just upsetting the way a particular member of the staff handled (or didn't handle) the situation. I overheard this woman speaking to my friend's parents in what was basically an 'eff you' manner, completely unaccommodating. I worked in service / hospitality for more than 10 years, and this was NO way to talk to a wedding guest, not to mention that they didn't do a single thing to remedy the problem.

My friend's father is handicapped and has a hard time standing for long periods of time. They ended up leaving, and my friend was in tears. I did my best to distract her and tried to help her have a good time, but I know she was disappointed that they felt they had to leave, especially so early into the evening.

Of course, I also made sure that the bride was unaware of this -- I realize this was HER day, and I didn't want her to be upset in any way. I don't think she realized that they were missing, because there were at least 250 other guests.

My question is.... do I say anything to the bride the next time I see her? I will be seeing her before she returns home from her HM.... she and her DH are flying to CA, meeting us for another wedding before they return. Or should I zip it and let it be history?

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oooh that's a tough one!!!! although, if i were the bride, i would want to know!

1. the rh should know about this nasty bitchh and something should be done about it -- she paid for 2 people who couldn't eat bc they didn't have seats and weren't accomodated! she should get $$ back!

2. i would feel horrible if that happened to me as a guest and the bride never apologized or anything...

3. if it were my friend's parents, i would want to apologize to her parents first and second to my friend!!!!

that's horrible!

Re: need advice - was in a wedding over the weekend, it was great, BUT....

JMO but I would tell her.


I would want to know after all the $$$ I paid that my guest were treated the right way and if there was a problem I'd handle it.

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My first reaction was not to say anything because why rock the boat, ya know?

But, if it were my wedding, I'd want to know.

I'd mention it, but in passing, try not to make it a big deal, KWIM?

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After the response from the RH's people i would have told her... I would definitely have wanted to know so i could kick someones ***....

Its unfortunate that they were treated that way...

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I would definitely mention it to her. If I was the Bride, I would call up the RH and let them have it, then I would call my friends parents and apologize for the way they were treated. That is so rude. After spending so much money, the last thing a bride and groom want is the staff being rude to their guests.

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Posted by brittndave

oooh that's a tough one!!!! although, if i were the bride, i would want to know!

1. the rh should know about this nasty bitchh and something should be done about it -- she paid for 2 people who couldn't eat bc they didn't have seats and weren't accomodated! she should get $$ back!

2. i would feel horrible if that happened to me as a guest and the bride never apologized or anything...

3. if it were my friend's parents, i would want to apologize to her parents first and second to my friend!!!!

that's horrible!

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my thoughts exactly .... especially regarding #2 ... the bride & groom should def apologize to those guests, even if it wasn't their fault.

so yeah, i'd say something

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Posted by AugustBridein09

JMO but I would tell her.


I would want to know after all the $$$ I paid that my guest were treated the right way and if there was a problem I'd handle it.

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ITA. In fact I might have said something to the groom or the parents of the bride during the wedding, to be honest.

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i would definately say something to the bride

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IMO....tell them! This was their wedding representing them...give them the right to call her parents apologize for how they were treated.

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I would say something--they def deserve to know so that they can talk to their RH!

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We had some issues at our venue on the day of and many people have told us incidents that occurred and what they overheard from the staff, including my DOC. I was very thankful that people told me (whether or not I wanted to know) and we made sure management knew about it all. Management has since taken steps to make sure those employees that caused the problems are no longer causing problems.

Its only fair to let her know.

(I heard something else disturbing this past weekend but now have to try to let it go!)

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Posted by AugustBridein09

JMO but I would tell her.


I would want to know after all the $$$ I paid that my guest were treated the right way and if there was a problem I'd handle it.

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Ita...and after knowing she might want to call them and apologize..not that's its her fault at all but she might want to..and I'm sure if she ever found out months later she might be mad no one told her

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I would definatly tell her. I would want to know if it happened at my wedding.

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Oooh tough situation...............
TBH, maybe your friend should say something if she's upset-since it was her parents.

I would stay out of it...just because you don't really want to get caught in the middle.

JMO

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Tell her. I would want to know if I was her. I would blast the RH and offer an apology to my friend's parents. I would also demand the RH refund the money paid for them and then some. Some people should not work in the service industry.