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AwaitingAugust Posted: Jul 06, 2011 02:11 PM+
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nervous... UPDATE

in 2 hours, i have a meeting with my boss ... at this meeting, i'm going to tell him that my co-worker who was recently promoted to be the team leader is a complete waste of space and that I should have been promoted.

i'm sooooo nervous ... my heart is POUNDING just thinking about it

i'm almost positive that nothing will change immediately. I'm hoping that this will put a grain of doubt in my boss' head about the idiots' abilities and that, in the long run, the idiot will be demoted (better yet, fired) and i will get the team leader position.

wish me luck!


ETA: all done ... my gosh, i was nervous! my boss pretty much said that he sticks by his decision to promote the idiot to team leader, but that he doesn';t want me to feel trapped in this position so he will try to find something for me (a way for me to get more responsibility) ... but it prob won't happen for a few more motnths. That's fine - i'm happy i got it off my chest .... this is pretty much the best possible outcome of the meeting so i'm happy

ETA2: only thing that didn't go perfectly is that i started tearing up in the middle and felt soooo embarrassed about it oops!
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mybabylovesmoi Posted: Jul 06, 2011 02:14 PM+
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Re: nervous...



good luck! remember, state facts and keep emotion out of it! I hope it works out
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Linzee636 Posted: Jul 06, 2011 02:15 PM+
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Re: nervous...

OMG good luck!!!!

I have such a similar situation, except I don't want her job. A co-worker was promoted, and ever since, she has been THE WORST manager. I know there's a learning curve, but she is just really not good with people at all. DH has encouraged me to say something to my boss, but I'm too afraid.

I wish you all the best for speaking up
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2010BTB Posted: Jul 06, 2011 02:17 PM+
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Re: nervous...


Posted by mybabylovesmoi



good luck! remember, state facts and keep emotion out of it! I hope it works out



ITA!

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adelz Posted: Jul 06, 2011 02:17 PM+
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Re: nervous...


Posted by mybabylovesmoi



good luck! remember, state facts and keep emotion out of it! I hope it works out



Exactly this! Goodluck!!!!
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WeezyGirl2354 Posted: Jul 06, 2011 02:19 PM+
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Re: nervous...

good luck.... you'll do great!!!!!!!!!!!
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dctead Posted: Jul 06, 2011 02:22 PM+
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Re: nervous...



Good Luck!! Breathe...talk slowly...and give the facts. You'll do fine!!
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halfbaked Posted: Jul 06, 2011 02:29 PM+
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Re: nervous...

Good luck!!!
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Rosalind_75 Posted: Jul 06, 2011 02:33 PM+
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Re: nervous...

GOODDDDDDDDDDD LUCKKKKKKKKKKKKK
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AwaitingAugust Posted: Jul 06, 2011 02:51 PM+
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Re: nervous...

Thanks everyone!


Do you guys think i should focus on how good i am (and why i deserve a bigger role in the group), or how bad he is, or both?
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little j Posted: Jul 06, 2011 02:53 PM+
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Re: nervous...

do yourself a favor. talk about your qualifications. but do not speak negatively of co-worker.

you can get the same message across with out bringing other people down.

....its worth the try to promote yourself AND YOUR PRESENTATION STYLE

good luck
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AngnShaun Posted: Jul 06, 2011 02:53 PM+
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Re: nervous...

good luck!!!!!!!!!
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SoontobeMrs.Brown Posted: Jul 06, 2011 02:55 PM+
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Re: nervous...

Good luck!!!!
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mariedsgn Posted: Jul 06, 2011 03:04 PM+
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Re: nervous...

OMG!!! Good Luck Mor!!!



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AwaitingAugust Posted: Jul 06, 2011 03:05 PM+
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Re: nervous...


Posted by little j

do yourself a favor. talk about your qualifications. but do not speak negatively of co-worker.

you can get the same message across with out bringing other people down.

....its worth the try to promote yourself AND YOUR PRESENTATION STYLE

good luck



Thanks - that's what i was thinking too ... my only problem with it is that since the idiot was already promoted, i need to knock him down first before they can move me up, no?
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Linzee636 Posted: Jul 06, 2011 03:17 PM+
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Re: nervous...


Posted by AwaitingAugust


Posted by little j

do yourself a favor. talk about your qualifications. but do not speak negatively of co-worker.

you can get the same message across with out bringing other people down.

....its worth the try to promote yourself AND YOUR PRESENTATION STYLE

good luck



Thanks - that's what i was thinking too ... my only problem with it is that since the idiot was already promoted, i need to knock him down first before they can move me up, no?



I would definitely focus more on your qualifications. But if you say anything about the coworker, it should be about your concern for his ability get the job done well. Since he was already promoted, you don't want your boss to seem like you're undermining the decision. Emphasize ways that you excel over the jerky, not all of the ways that he just sux.
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Bride825 Posted: Jul 06, 2011 04:08 PM+
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Re: nervous...

I hope it goes well Good luck!!
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AwaitingAugust Posted: Jul 06, 2011 05:23 PM+
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Re: nervous... UPDATE

bump with update.
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Linzee636 Posted: Jul 06, 2011 08:22 PM+
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Re: nervous... UPDATE

Awww I'm so happy that you were able to get that out in the open. Fingers crossed that things turn up soon!

If 'misery loves company', two of my friends totally teared up on the job today It happens to the best of us!
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AwaitingAugust Posted: Jul 07, 2011 09:29 AM+
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Re: nervous... UPDATE


Posted by Linzee636
If 'misery loves company', two of my friends totally teared up on the job today It happens to the best of us!



haha, thanks glad to know i'm not the only wuss
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