so i set my countdown...

after our reception in december... i reset my countdown to when we thought we'd be ready to TTC.

i don't pay much attention to it anymore.

it's at 67 days.

i feel like i just swallowed a watermelon.

not so sure i'm ready anymore. we are still so broke.

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i don't think anyone really feels financially ready (unless they're filthy rich) ... if the people on Maury Povich can afford to have babies, you can DEFINITELY do it too

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My FIL said something to my BIL once and it's stuck with me...'you'll never have enough money to have a baby...' SO TRUE! I might have problems with my MIL but my FIL is awesome!

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i know.

i know.

i wish i could just FF to having a 7 month old who stays 7 months old FOREVER. skip past the hospital bills and blah blah blah.

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HAHA! And I say I hope my kid comes out 22, with a college diploma and is moving out...!

We can dream right?

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Posted by ourwedding9510

My FIL said something to my BIL once and it's stuck with me...'you'll never have enough money to have a baby...' SO TRUE! I might have problems with my MIL but my FIL is awesome!

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I've def. heard this many times!

I think just as important..if not more...you have to be emotionally ready.

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Posted by ourwedding9510

HAHA! And I say I hope my kid comes out 22, with a college diploma and is moving out...!

We can dream right?

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i want a perma-3 year old ... potty trained and able to form sentences

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i'm emotionally ready. i just feel bad that we aren't in the best financial shape. we aren't going to be able to have a nursery or anything.



i mean i suppose this is a major 'duh' but -- it's obviously more important that it'll come into a home with lots of love than to a home with lots of rooms, right?

okay fine i feel better.

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aw! hun! I am not sure if anyone is ever ready!

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I fear it for financial reasons sometimes.

I just got a hospital bill from when I had my first epidural for my back issue: $800! When we went online to aetna and checked, the next visit will be bill $500 and the next is zero because I hit the deductible for the year.

it scares me a little to know if I didn't hit that deductible we would be so screwed when the birth happens this year.

pick up a copy of baby bargains, it eased my mind so much!

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Posted by jhines4684

I just got a hospital bill from when I had my first epidural for my back issue: $800! When we went online to aetna and checked, the next visit will be bill $500 and the next is zero because I hit the deductible for the year.

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holy moly! i had no idea these appointments were so damned expensive!!!

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Posted by jhines4684

I just got a hospital bill from when I had my first epidural for my back issue: $800! When we went online to aetna and checked, the next visit will be bill $500 and the next is zero because I hit the deductible for the year.

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holy moly! i had no idea these appointments were so damned expensive!!!

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depends on your insurance obviously....

i hope DH's insurance is good. :O

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Posted by jhines4684

I just got a hospital bill from when I had my first epidural for my back issue: $800! When we went online to aetna and checked, the next visit will be bill $500 and the next is zero because I hit the deductible for the year.

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holy moly! i had no idea these appointments were so damned expensive!!!

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Oh I didn't mention this part: i paid $500 to the spine specialist for all 3 visits (not $500 a visit) thinking that was it, I had NO IDEA the hospital charged! next time, I'm not using the OR!!! I felt the needle the 3rd time and it wasn't that bad, it was a pinch!

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you will adjust to whatever expenses are thrown at you. if there's one thing i've learned, no matter how much money I make, or me and DH together, I am always on a budget. Always watching my spending. You find a way to make it work.
I'm nervous as hell, especially since DH's salary is currently frozen ( ) but we'll make do. As long as one of us isn't unemployed, we're fine.

He may cry about not getting a new golf bag when he wants it, but such is life.

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Posted by Clover23

you will adjust to whatever expenses are thrown at you. if there's one thing i've learned, no matter how much money I make, or me and DH together, I am always on a budget. Always watching my spending. You find a way to make it work.
I'm nervous as hell, especially since DH's salary is currently frozen ( ) but we'll make do. As long as one of us isn't unemployed, we're fine.

He may cry about not getting a new golf bag when he wants it, but such is life.

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ITA - I actually felt this way when we were about to adopt our pets (which I know are WAY less $$ than kids) but we were like 'will we be able to afford food, littler, vet visits?' and you just do it.

Btw, you're pretty intense w/ your timer!

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DH and I are not wealthy at all, but I would say finances are (so far) the thing that has changed the least since having a child. We budget every little detail, and it's worked out great. We do cloth diapers (trust me, they are not like the cloth diapers back in our parent's days of raising kids!), I breastfeed, and we (luckily) got a ton of gifts and hand-me-downs that cut down expenses. It helps to have savings for those emergency moments, but budgeting is really the least of our worries thus far. No one is ever 100% ready, you just have to be 100% WILLING to put someone else before yourself. It's amazing all the little things that become more difficult to do...but this girl is totally worth it!

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Posted by miamimerger

DH and I are not wealthy at all, but I would say finances are (so far) the thing that has changed the least since having a child. We budget every little detail, and it's worked out great. We do cloth diapers (trust me, they are not like the cloth diapers back in our parent's days of raising kids!), I breastfeed, and we (luckily) got a ton of gifts and hand-me-downs that cut down expenses. It helps to have savings for those emergency moments, but budgeting is really the least of our worries thus far. No one is ever 100% ready, you just have to be 100% WILLING to put someone else before yourself. It's amazing all the little things that become more difficult to do...but this girl is totally worth it!

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she is TOO CUTE! Can't deal.

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Posted by miamimerger

DH and I are not wealthy at all, but I would say finances are (so far) the thing that has changed the least since having a child. We budget every little detail, and it's worked out great. We do cloth diapers (trust me, they are not like the cloth diapers back in our parent's days of raising kids!), I breastfeed, and we (luckily) got a ton of gifts and hand-me-downs that cut down expenses. It helps to have savings for those emergency moments, but budgeting is really the least of our worries thus far. No one is ever 100% ready, you just have to be 100% WILLING to put someone else before yourself. It's amazing all the little things that become more difficult to do...but this girl is totally worth it!

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OMGGGG!!! I am SOOOOO far from having babies but this little girl is what a cutie pie - how could you not want to procreate!

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I feel terribly unready also. I wonder if I have it in me

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Awww becki! The closer we got to trying (and even when I first got my BFP), I felt not ready!! Its scary!!! No one is ever completely ready though. It definitely seems like something you want, and its normal to be scared.

You could postpone it a few more. Months or just stop preventing, have fun, don't stress it and see what happens!

No matter how much money you have, you make it work. All a newborn needs is lots of love (and milk!).

Good luck!!!