X-Post from LIF - Anyone with me?

So we got married almost 3 weeks ago. Day was perfect, hm was beyond perfect. Went back to work yesterday which was great b/c I love my job.

But I just feel this sadness - perhaps 'wedding depression'. I focused solely on the wedding for 2 years, and I feel like I have nothing now. We aren't getting a house for a year or two, and babies aren't in our immediate future - it's kinda like - what now?

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it will pass..i promise

but in the meantime enjoy it..and have lots of loving

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Now, life is whatever you want it to be.

Spend time with your husband - I love being a newlywed. We are super happy and I don't have any of the stress of wedding planning hanging over me.

Do all the things you didn't do during your engagement because it took time and money away from wedding planning. I caught up on reading, played some video games and took up running and volunteer work. I've never been happier.

Did you get some great kitchen gadgets as gifts? Learn to cook some new dishes or bake some new goodies. Take a wine or beer tasting class or learn to mix an awesome cocktail.

Enjoy this time, because you are only young once.

I miss my honeymoon sometimes, more than my wedding. We had two weeks when all we had to do was just enjoy the days and nights. Now that I'm back at work and have responsibilities I long for that care free feeling. But I'm not too sad - I'm sure I will have other, great vacations in the future.

Was there something about wedding planning that you liked and want to do again? My husband and I loved our dance lessons. They were an oasis from the craziness. So we kept taking them. You could be an event planner for a charity in your free time, or take up scrap booking, photography, etc. Was it the social aspect? Then try to visit with family and friends more often. My mom said that when she got married it was a tradition that anyone at your wedding should be invited to your home withing your first year of marriage. It might be difficult, but it's a good way to stay in touch with people.

Good luck.

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It'll definitely pass...I felt that for the first couple of weeks but I've settled in to life. It probably helped that school started and we started casually house hunting though...

Find something to focus on and you'll feel better

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Not much changed after the wedding so i didnt feel this at all

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Posted by AngnShaun

Not much changed after the wedding so i didnt feel this at all

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Not much changed for me either Ang - maybe that is why it is kinda hitting me. We were together 11 years, lived together for 6 years. It is definitly fun thinking about him as my husband, but I just feel a little lost.

I def need to find some sort of hobby!!

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i was like that too although i was and stil am mostly depressed about how sucky my vendors came out.
but im now focusing on life -friends and family, hanging out, gettting all the weddding crap out of my house! it will pass, i promise!

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I definitely felt like this after the wedding. I just spent so much of my time planning the wedding that I was at a loss of what to do with myself afterwards.

But life gets in the way- there were many weddings, bach. parties, graduations, birthdays, weekend getaways, babies born, etc., etc. We also did a TTD shoot which was like our farewell to our wedding. It was a good note to end everything on! Planning the shoot gave me something fun and wedding related to focus on after the wedding- then there's other milestones- getting your pics back, writing out thank you cards, designing your albums, etc. So don't worry, you still have a little bit of wedding stuff left and the sorta 'down feeling' you have will pass. You're definitely not alone though!

ETA: Lori- I just saw your response to Ang- that is a good idea! My mom and I took cake decorating classes this summer and it was a lot of fun and interesting!

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Sorry, I didn't feel that way. We got married a month ago, and the only thing I was depressed about was going back to work. I enjoyed planning the wedding, but I like having my free time again! It got a bit stressful at the end. I would like to go back to our honeymoon!!!!

Definitely try a new hobby or decorate the house...or go on more dates with hubby, out with friends, etc. Im sure it will pass!!

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Posted by AngnShaun

Not much changed after the wedding so i didnt feel this at all

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ITA.

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I was honestly expecting to go into some sort of depression after the wedding, but I was actually fine. I wasn't happy it was over, but I was ready to move onto married life.

I think because I also had other things going on (training for a half marathon and looking for a job) I was able to keep myself occupied.

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Lori, I still feel the same way from time to time. It does fade over time but when I am bored I definitely get the wedding blues. And even though my day went overall really well, I start thinking of what I could have done differently. I agree with the other girls, try to keep busy, read, watch movies, visit some friends. I got really into using my Netflix after the wedding so DH and I will watch movies at night after work.

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I feel it sometimes too but it has subsided over time. I really missed the attention and all the excitement that came before wedding at first. After a certain point, I stopped thinking about it as much.

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i don't know i was actually happy it was all over. for me it was very stressful and i was glad to be done with it! maybe you can find other things to devote your time to... is there something you are into like craft wise, cooking, fitness, etc?