Please help!!- Invitation question

When addressing the outer envelope should it read
Mr. & Mrs. ....
or
Mr. and Mrs. ....

and if the 2nd one is correct do you think the 20 ppl that I addressed the envelopes Mr. & Mrs. ... will notice? Please Help!!!

Re: Please help!!- Invitation question

Hi --

It should read as follows:

'Mr. and Mrs.'

Any formal social invitation should read this way ---

As far as your second question --
'will they notice???' -- I guess that it
would depend upon who they are --

I certainly don't want to cause you any
added unnecessary stress but I am assuming that you are asking this question on the Vendor's Board because you are seeking
a definitive answer as respects proper etiquette when it comes to the addressing of the outer envelopes of your wedding invitation
--It really should be 'and'

Can you get away with it?? -- probably --
Is it socially correct?? -- no--
Should you re-do them??--probably

Best of Luck with all--

Linda
1-866-BRIDEOO/Linda's Lovelies
(516) 781-3162
www.lindaslovelies.com
[email protected]

Re: Please help!!- Invitation question

Hi Shannon! It is proper etiquette to spell out any abbreviations, so 'and' in this case would be correct.

However, this is what is posted in Crane's Wedding Blue Book,
' The word 'and' should be spelled out unless you are using a calligraphy script that contains a lovely flourished ampersand (&).'

If you are really concerned with changing the symbol and re-doing the envelopes, I think that's fine... I wouldn't make yourself too crazy over it though-- keep one thing in mind: people are simply going to be happy to receive the invitation from you, and will forgive any breeches of etiquette.

Good luck! Please FM or call me if you'd like to discuss this futher. I'm happy to help. --Laura--LA Productions

Re: Please help!!- Invitation question

Again, to my knowledge, 'and' between
Mr. and Mrs. should not be abbreviated --
when addressing the envelopes --
in fact, no abbreviations should be used --
Although there are several sources to refer to for proper etiquette--You can easily check the Crane's Blue Book Website--they cite samples under 'envelope addressing' -- 'married couples' -- Although, this is not the only source that I continue to refer to--
All of their Samples for addressing envelopes to married couples that I saw have 'and'
spelled out --
Whenever they refer to
Calligraphy on the envelopes they are
referring to hand-done in lieu of computer -
Not sure which you are doing --
At any rate, of course, clearly, the great majority of your guests will be excited
just to receive your wedding invitation
rather than focusing in on whether or not you have, in fact, adhered to the guidelines of proper etiquette when it came to addressing your outer envelopes--
Again, I am assuming that you are asking this question on this Board because you are seeking the correct answer--In my opinion,
based on my experience, and extensive research 'and' should be spelled out
on any formal social invitation ---
However, if in fact, you do not re-do
or have the envelopes re-done, many of your
guests will probably not even be aware of
the breach of etiquette --

Please don't stress over any of this -- but
if you ask for a professional opinion on this board based on the experience and knowledge of vendors -- In my opinion, you
are entitled to an accurate response --

Again, Best of Luck with all!!

Linda
1-866-BRIDEOO/Linda's Lovelies
(516) 781-3162
www.lindaslovelies.com
[email protected]

Re: Please help!!- Invitation question

Hi,

I would like to weigh in on this as well. While Linda is absolutely right in the most formal sense of ettiquette, Laura is also right.

Many brides today choose a less 'stuffy' way of addressing their envelopes. I have had many brides ask to even use just first names on the inner envelopes. Are they absolutely correct in doing this - no but if that is what they choose - it is their wedding. I always advise them this is not 'perfect' ettiquette but they don't care - because that is how 'they' want to do it. There are a lot of times that the brides bend the rules on many issues of ettiquette this being the least. I don't think the ettiquette police will come after you on this one!

Now for the question - will they notice. I think this is one of the little things that people just don't pick up on - most people any way. I think you are safe if sending out those invitations. If you choose to re-do your invitations I am sure that the person you originally bought them from can order you extra envelopes at a nominal cost. But in my opinion I think you are fine to send them out just the way they are.

Kathy
Follow Your Heart

Re: Please help!!- Invitation question

Hi..

'and' is correct but the only ones who will probably notice are brides like yourself who are also in the the planning stages!

Relax, there are too many other things to worry about. This isn't important in the scheme of things.

Regards,
Gail Caparelli
Simply Elegant