So pretty much my mother and I have been going at it back and forth for the last 6 months over the wedding, because she thought it was her wedding pretty much. We had a fight today over brides maids dresses and she pretty much kicked me out of her car and called my reception hall and canceled my wedding which was happening this may.
Im stuck now, im so upset and i dont know what to do. I still want to have a wedding, but my fiance and I just bought a house and were strapped for cash. Plus, my mom was my boss and she fired me over all this. (shes crazy!)
So now im jobless and weddingless. Does anyone know any really cheap places I can go?? im so destroyed, now were going to try and attempt to find a cheap place to have it.
MJDoc12
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holy cow!!!!!
i wish i had a word of advice---just
maybe she will cool down and come to her senses. she can't just cancel the hall like that over the phone--she has to do it thru certified mail with an official letter....so hopefully she will come to her senses and not cancel it after all.
good luck!
bride138
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Yeah, from what I know my aunt told me she was faxing over an official letter to cancel it when she was on the phone with her!
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Posted by MJDoc12
holy cow!!!!!
i wish i had a word of advice---just
maybe she will cool down and come to her senses. she can't just cancel the hall like that over the phone--she has to do it thru certified mail with an official letter....so hopefully she will come to her senses and not cancel it after all.
good luck!
Yes, that's true. Most rh, if not all, make the bride and groom sign the contract, and they will NOT take anyone else's word for it that the wedding is cancelled, even if it's the mother who's paying. It's the bride and groom's wedding. No one else can cancel. Call the RH yourself and see if your mom called. Maybe she just wants you to think she did so that things begin to turn in her favor???
Hope things turn around for you. Maybe you can have a nice, calm talk with her and discuss this???
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oh my god! I am soooooo sorrrrrrrrrrrrry! It's sooo close isn't she going to lose money for doing this???? Maybe you can have a nice talk with her and explain how much this means to you
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OMG! I am so sorry you are going through this!
Do you already have all of your vendors lined up? Did she sign all of the contracts or are you responsible for them?
How many people r u having at the wedding? Maybe u could cut back the $ and have a smaller wedding that u and your FH can afford? Maybe a Thurs night or Sun nite wedding or a Sunday brunch wedding? I'm sure your guests will understand.
Are you sure she won't change her mind? I don't know if I'd even want her to change her mind unless she was willing to give up control and let u guys decide what u want for YOUR wedding. I don't think I have ever heard of anything so selfish.
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whoooa! this is some crazy sh*t! i am so SO sorry that u're going through this! moms can be nutty sometimes and act on impulse. like the above post, hopefully she'll come to her senses & cool down & fix this...but she fired you??? sounds crazy to me! definetly check out Brentwood Country Club. They have an entire package for uner 10k that includes everything from ur reception, flowers, dj, limo, etc. etc. etc.... I went to a wedding there over the summer & was really impressed. it was beautiful, the food was delish, and the drinks super yummy...and i couldn't get over the price they paid for EVERYTHING. i wish u the best with this situations. keep us updated~~!!
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I think you need to have a heart-to-heart with her. I know it may be hard...but she is your mother and you have to really consider your relationship with her? Are you willing to sacrifice your relationship with your mother? Is she willing to loose money on this?
I know this is hard but I would recommend speaking with her...if there is any room to make ammends I would. (Ofcourse I dont know the entire situation.)
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wow..This is crazy??oh my god I really dont know what to say besides sorry; and yes like the other girls mentioned you should really talk to her.. and what about all the money that was invested isnt she going to lose all of it.. This is pretty sad.. HOpefully it will all work out. I will pray for you
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Posted by MJDoc Hope things turn around for you. Maybe you can have a nice, calm talk with her and discuss this???
Posted by Jenn04
I think you need to have a heart-to-heart with her. I know it may be hard...but she is your mother and you have to really consider your relationship with her? Are you willing to sacrifice your relationship with your mother? Is she willing to loose money on this?
I know this is hard but I would recommend speaking with her...if there is any room to make ammends I would. (Ofcourse I dont know the entire situation.)
I agree....you NEED to have a heart to heart with her about this. Give it a day, and then talk to her in person, or maybe write her a letter so you can get everything out. TALK...try not to fight.
ps: isn't the contract always in the bride & groom's name regardless of who's paying???
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Posted by bride138
So pretty much my mother and I have been going at it back and forth for the last 6 months over the wedding, because she thought it was her wedding pretty much. We had a fight today over brides maids dresses and she pretty much kicked me out of her car and called my reception hall and canceled my wedding which was happening this may.
Im stuck now, im so upset and i dont know what to do. I still want to have a wedding, but my fiance and I just bought a house and were strapped for cash. Plus, my mom was my boss and she fired me over all this. (shes crazy!)
So now im jobless and weddingless. Does anyone know any really cheap places I can go?? im so destroyed, now were going to try and attempt to find a cheap place to have it.
omg are you sure we don't have the same mother?!?! I'm totally afraid that my mom is going to do to me what your mom did to you when it comes down to it...my mom is very controlling and if it isn't her way then its the highway...
do you think maybe your mom is just having a hard time with the fact that you're getting married soon and doesn't want to let you go?
if you want to vent...i'm soooooooo here for you!
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I would just do something in the new house....is she cancelling all the other vendors/did you pay for anything because you can do it at home and stil keep your date if you have all the other vendors lined up.
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That's crazy. I would kill my mother personally. But, seriously, talk to her after she's cooled off. If she's still adamant, I know that Brentwood Country Club and Mediterannean Manor in Patchogue offer all inclusive weddings. Good luck.
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If she signed the contract as the 'guarantor' then she will be responsible for all costs incurred. Our contract had a place for me to sign, DH to sign & the 'guarantor' (aka person paying).
The RH will call you if she tries to cancel. Someone who didn't want me & DH to get married called my RH, said they were me & canceled my wedding. The RH called me immediately to confirm. (as did my bridal shop, my RD place, my hotel.... )
THAT being said, your mother needs to cool off. You guys need time. She will not humiliate herself by having to tell your entire family that she canceled your wedding & fired you over bridesmaids dresses. Think about it.
She'll come around. Don't make ANY rash decisions right now. And do NOT call her. right now. Just wait until tomorrow. Or The next day.
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Wow, it is too bad that all happened. I am hoping you are able to make amends with your mom. I am sure she loves you, and sometimes people can be blinded by their anger. It also sounds like she is having some issues with losing you and having you go off on your own, which is pretty common. Moving forward, it might be a good thing to find work outside of your mom's company. Hopefully, both of you can come to an understanding regarding the wedding that will make both of you happy.
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That's really sad that your mom is that controlling and vindictive... But do you think she is just saying this to scare you?? I am sure she won't be able to cancel anything bc your name and your FH's name should be on everything.. I hope everything works out for you...
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OMG I'm so sorry She has to know she cant run your life otherwise she will do it forever. I would say talk to her but she doesnt sound reasonable. Maybe you can call the hall and work out a payment plan with them???
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I am so sorry to hear that. I hope you can work things out. I'm sure you are both really stressed out with all the wedding BS especially that yours is right around the corner. Honestly, I have posted a million times that I am selling my BM dresses(6) so if you want them, maybe I can give you a really good price. Hope everything works out for you!
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honestly then just cancel the wedding and work on getting married at a justice of the peace or something completely downscaled. Don't have your mother involved with your finances anymore since she is obv. a control freak.
I wouldn't give a poop who you are if you treated me like your mother had treated you i would cut her off for most of the things in my life.
You can have the big party on your ann. this way its less stressful.
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Who signed the contract for the place? If you signed it, how can she claim to have any legal right to cancel it?
