Bachelor Party Question...Do you know what went on?

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Posted by davenjess

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Posted by Songstress

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Posted by davenjess

Yes - i know. Dave & his best man know all about my 'issues' with strip clubs, etc. My brother was there for almost the whole thing, as was my best friends' husband.

I trusted ALMOST everyone that was there, so while I was nervous, I knew in my heart, it would be okay. My only requests for him was no strip club (i have SEVERE self esteem issues, but he has known of them since the beginning of our relationship) and come home to me... In my heart, I knew if he came home to me and was able to look me in the eye, then NOTHING he could've done would be that bad. The worst thing that happened is that he wasn't as drunk as everyone else because he had a headache at one point and had to take tylenol and drink water for one hour or so. They were kicked out of a bar or 2 in Hoboken too...

My husband is one of the few who have BEEN TO the whole, 'bachelor party movie' party. Seriously, he was at one about 10 years ago that cancelled the wedding...it was the party to end ALL parties. From that day on - no one that he hangs out with has EVER had a party ANYWHERE near that one. I've heard all about it from the groom, and a lot of Dave's friends and holy S H I T is all I can say.

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OMG! That must have been terrrrrible!! i cant believe someone would go to such lengths after months and months of planning a wedding. Only to cheat on their SO with a dirty stripper. Im glad Dave was a good boy and took your feelings into a consideration.

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That's just it - the poor guy DIDN'T CHEAT. Almost every single other person there did, but not him. He's a lovely guy, an honest guy and sooooo nice. He told me everything he remembered and he thinks that the brides' brother made it all up. The wedding was delayed, but they eventually got married.

Guess what? 2 months into the marriage, they broke up, he foudn out she was banging her boss for a year at that point & divorced her.

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that is crazy!!!! I really want to know: WHY bother getting married if you are already cheating on your SO?? I just don't understand it.

LOL yes. Yes I do. Dh told me more than I asked to know. Not that anything bad happened. They went to a strip club on LI. They ahd a private room for like 3 hours. Topless girls served them food. They found this to be a bit awkward and probably not up to health codes. LOL. While in the vip room they had unlimited lap dances. Ew. After the three hours they hung out in the regualr part of the club. The girls brought DH on stage and took of his belt and pulled down his pants and whipped him in the bum. He had welts for a few days after. Its funny but I'd prefer him to not go to strip clubs anymore now that he got that out of the way. But Im sure more of his friends will get married and want to go to them....

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Posted by Songstress

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Posted by davenjess

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Posted by Songstress

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Posted by davenjess

Yes - i know. Dave & his best man know all about my 'issues' with strip clubs, etc. My brother was there for almost the whole thing, as was my best friends' husband.

I trusted ALMOST everyone that was there, so while I was nervous, I knew in my heart, it would be okay. My only requests for him was no strip club (i have SEVERE self esteem issues, but he has known of them since the beginning of our relationship) and come home to me... In my heart, I knew if he came home to me and was able to look me in the eye, then NOTHING he could've done would be that bad. The worst thing that happened is that he wasn't as drunk as everyone else because he had a headache at one point and had to take tylenol and drink water for one hour or so. They were kicked out of a bar or 2 in Hoboken too...

My husband is one of the few who have BEEN TO the whole, 'bachelor party movie' party. Seriously, he was at one about 10 years ago that cancelled the wedding...it was the party to end ALL parties. From that day on - no one that he hangs out with has EVER had a party ANYWHERE near that one. I've heard all about it from the groom, and a lot of Dave's friends and holy S H I T is all I can say.

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OMG! That must have been terrrrrible!! i cant believe someone would go to such lengths after months and months of planning a wedding. Only to cheat on their SO with a dirty stripper. Im glad Dave was a good boy and took your feelings into a consideration.

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That's just it - the poor guy DIDN'T CHEAT. Almost every single other person there did, but not him. He's a lovely guy, an honest guy and sooooo nice. He told me everything he remembered and he thinks that the brides' brother made it all up. The wedding was delayed, but they eventually got married.

Guess what? 2 months into the marriage, they broke up, he foudn out she was banging her boss for a year at that point & divorced her.

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NOOOOOOOOOO!!! OMG!!! That is HORRIBLE! poor guy.

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He's married now with a child and with the PERFECT woman for him!!! His wife is exactly like him and their daughter is adorable!

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Posted by davenjess

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Posted by Songstress

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Posted by davenjess

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Posted by Songstress

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Posted by davenjess

Yes - i know. Dave & his best man know all about my 'issues' with strip clubs, etc. My brother was there for almost the whole thing, as was my best friends' husband.

I trusted ALMOST everyone that was there, so while I was nervous, I knew in my heart, it would be okay. My only requests for him was no strip club (i have SEVERE self esteem issues, but he has known of them since the beginning of our relationship) and come home to me... In my heart, I knew if he came home to me and was able to look me in the eye, then NOTHING he could've done would be that bad. The worst thing that happened is that he wasn't as drunk as everyone else because he had a headache at one point and had to take tylenol and drink water for one hour or so. They were kicked out of a bar or 2 in Hoboken too...

My husband is one of the few who have BEEN TO the whole, 'bachelor party movie' party. Seriously, he was at one about 10 years ago that cancelled the wedding...it was the party to end ALL parties. From that day on - no one that he hangs out with has EVER had a party ANYWHERE near that one. I've heard all about it from the groom, and a lot of Dave's friends and holy S H I T is all I can say.

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OMG! That must have been terrrrrible!! i cant believe someone would go to such lengths after months and months of planning a wedding. Only to cheat on their SO with a dirty stripper. Im glad Dave was a good boy and took your feelings into a consideration.

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That's just it - the poor guy DIDN'T CHEAT. Almost every single other person there did, but not him. He's a lovely guy, an honest guy and sooooo nice. He told me everything he remembered and he thinks that the brides' brother made it all up. The wedding was delayed, but they eventually got married.

Guess what? 2 months into the marriage, they broke up, he foudn out she was banging her boss for a year at that point & divorced her.

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NOOOOOOOOOO!!! OMG!!! That is HORRIBLE! poor guy.

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He's married now with a child and with the PERFECT woman for him!!! His wife is exactly like him and their daughter is adorable!

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So glad he had a happy ending after that HELL. I hope his exwife is miserable.

i believe his ex wife is still with the boss - who left his wife for her...(i try not to ask, but one of my close friends is in his family and she mentions them time to time).

I don't get that either - if you are cheating, why bother going through with it all???? But she did..and to be honest, he has said a thousand times, he wouldn't change anything that has happened, because if he hadn't gone through that, he wouldn't be with his wife now.

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Posted by milana

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Posted by Songstress

Whats up with all the DH's who are 'not into strip clubs' Mine says he isnt either but he sure enjoyed the strippers at his bparty

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My DH thinks its just a waste of money and time!

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Thats what my DH said too. And he thinks they have germs.

Dh went golfing during the day with his buddies, they came back to our house to get showered and take a short nap, they went out for dinner then went to a bar, got really drunk and i got a phone call from the the bouncer at the bar to pick them up bc they are really drunk and 1 of this friends was kicked out of the bar and has been sitting in his car for the last 30 minutes bc they wont let him back in,

Dh isnt in to strip clubs, he thinks its a waste of money and says most of the girls are dirty or fake

Yes....Paintball & Poker

They did a joint bachelor party in Vegas a few years back...and there were strippers involved. I know alllllll about it and could care less.

if he had like a private back room showing, there would be an issue but Matt's way to bad of a liar and has way to much of a guilty concious to not tell me about lol

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Posted by davenjess

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Posted by Songstress

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Posted by davenjess

Yes - i know. Dave & his best man know all about my 'issues' with strip clubs, etc. My brother was there for almost the whole thing, as was my best friends' husband.

I trusted ALMOST everyone that was there, so while I was nervous, I knew in my heart, it would be okay. My only requests for him was no strip club (i have SEVERE self esteem issues, but he has known of them since the beginning of our relationship) and come home to me... In my heart, I knew if he came home to me and was able to look me in the eye, then NOTHING he could've done would be that bad. The worst thing that happened is that he wasn't as drunk as everyone else because he had a headache at one point and had to take tylenol and drink water for one hour or so. They were kicked out of a bar or 2 in Hoboken too...

My husband is one of the few who have BEEN TO the whole, 'bachelor party movie' party. Seriously, he was at one about 10 years ago that cancelled the wedding...it was the party to end ALL parties. From that day on - no one that he hangs out with has EVER had a party ANYWHERE near that one. I've heard all about it from the groom, and a lot of Dave's friends and holy S H I T is all I can say.

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OMG! That must have been terrrrrible!! i cant believe someone would go to such lengths after months and months of planning a wedding. Only to cheat on their SO with a dirty stripper. Im glad Dave was a good boy and took your feelings into a consideration.

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That's just it - the poor guy DIDN'T CHEAT. Almost every single other person there did, but not him. He's a lovely guy, an honest guy and sooooo nice. He told me everything he remembered and he thinks that the brides' brother made it all up. The wedding was delayed, but they eventually got married.

Guess what? 2 months into the marriage, they broke up, he foudn out she was banging her boss for a year at that point & divorced her.

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WHAT WOW! That is a crazy story!

mine didn't have one...he's too old and he doesn't drink..i'll never have to hear 'I was too drunk...i don't know what happened'

however...i dated a loser a few years ago who told me about some nasty BP stuff...which he thought was 'acceptable'...

ETA: i have no problem with strip clubs..years ago i went with an ex to a couple..it was actually quite entertaining...

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Posted by Songstress

Whats up with all the DH's who are 'not into strip clubs' Mine says he isnt either but he sure enjoyed the strippers at his bparty

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Ehh, who knows... I'm sure there are plenty of guys out there who either choose not to for personal reasons or just aren't that interested in strip clubs- whether its that the couple has an agreement with each other about it bc one/both isn't into the idea, the guy wants to but doesn't feel like 'hearing it' from their SO afterwards so its not worth it, lying and saying aren't into it but they are, just don't feel there's any need for it, religious/moral reasons, maybe they are too shy, etc, etc.

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Posted by GinaZ

LOL yes. Yes I do. Dh told me more than I asked to know. Not that anything bad happened. They went to a strip club on LI. They ahd a private room for like 3 hours. Topless girls served them food. They found this to be a bit awkward and probably not up to health codes. LOL. While in the vip room they had unlimited lap dances. Ew. After the three hours they hung out in the regualr part of the club. The girls brought DH on stage and took of his belt and pulled down his pants and whipped him in the bum. He had welts for a few days after. Its funny but I'd prefer him to not go to strip clubs anymore now that he got that out of the way. But Im sure more of his friends will get married and want to go to them....

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Ouch...Gina that is a riot!!

yeah, they went to vegas and i know what they did each night. DH did go to scores in vegas and told me about it, he laughed bc he got a blonde stripper that was at the table, dh doesnt like blondes yes i know its weird since im blonde, but i always joked that all the strippers at his bachelor party will probably be blonde. But he said she was real nice, she sat at the table and he told me she was a single mom and going to college, and even asked him questions about the wedding and if he missed me and stuff. Hes very open about things and all his friends think hes crazy for telling me so much but these guys dont even tell their gfs when they go to strip clubs dh will tell me but will tell me not to say anything bc nobody elses gf's know. Even he thinks its weird and says to his friends that he doesnt know why they have to lie about it, and that he wouldnt want to be with somebody that he felt he had to lie to about these things bc they didnt trust him and didnt let him do things.

When she was giving him a lapdance it was at the table with his friends right there, and he said during the lapdance all his friends cracked up bc in the middle of getting it he turned to his friends and said 'i miss denise' he says probably bc he was talking about me to the stripper beforehand so thats why lol.

i saw pics from all the clubs they went to, he took alot of pics with other bachelorette parties. I was fine with everything. I didnt call him while he was away, he kept calling me and texting me though and sending me picture texts, i even said 'uhmmm its your bachelor party why do you keep calling me lol' i did call him the last day he was there to find out what time he was getting back home to pick him up.

im ok with lapdances, they went to scores actually early in the evening and then after went to a club

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Posted by Songstress

Whats up with all the DH's who are 'not into strip clubs' Mine says he isnt either but he sure enjoyed the strippers at his bparty

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eh doesnt always mean its a good thing to be honest. Some are shy and some just dont feel they have to pay a girl to dance for them they see it as pathetic. But let me say that i knew one guy who HATED strip clubs never wanted to go with his friends. When you heard him talking about it you would think he was so disgusted by it. But alot of it had to do with him thinking he was too good to pay a girl for anything and this guy ill also say cheated more than most guys i know. I also know another man who never went to a strip club and again will talk about it like its so disgusting and hes a dog though and cheats ALOT

then some im sorry to say, i think they just say that to their SO and dont mean it. I see some of dh's friends who say the same things and lie about ever going, but if you ask the gf's they'll all say how their bf's hate strip clubs

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by Songstress

Whats up with all the DH's who are 'not into strip clubs' Mine says he isnt either but he sure enjoyed the strippers at his bparty

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eh doesnt always mean its a good thing to be honest. Some are shy and some just dont feel they have to pay a girl to dance for them they see it as pathetic. But let me say that i knew one guy who HATED strip clubs never wanted to go with his friends. When you heard him talking about it you would think he was so disgusted by it. But alot of it had to do with him thinking he was too good to pay a girl for anything and this guy ill also say cheated more than most guys i know. I also know another man who never went to a strip club and again will talk about it like its so disgusting and hes a dog though and cheats ALOT

then some im sorry to say, i think they just say that to their SO and dont mean it. I see some of dh's friends who say the same things and lie about ever going, but if you ask the gf's they'll all say how their bf's hate strip clubs

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Not surprising. Thats why most men say they dont like it. They have too much pride to pay for a woman. Thats why Chris doesnt like them. But when his friends are paying for the strippers he doesnt mind at all!

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Posted by Songstress

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by Songstress

Whats up with all the DH's who are 'not into strip clubs' Mine says he isnt either but he sure enjoyed the strippers at his bparty

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eh doesnt always mean its a good thing to be honest. Some are shy and some just dont feel they have to pay a girl to dance for them they see it as pathetic. But let me say that i knew one guy who HATED strip clubs never wanted to go with his friends. When you heard him talking about it you would think he was so disgusted by it. But alot of it had to do with him thinking he was too good to pay a girl for anything and this guy ill also say cheated more than most guys i know. I also know another man who never went to a strip club and again will talk about it like its so disgusting and hes a dog though and cheats ALOT

then some im sorry to say, i think they just say that to their SO and dont mean it. I see some of dh's friends who say the same things and lie about ever going, but if you ask the gf's they'll all say how their bf's hate strip clubs

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Not surprising. Thats why most men say they dont like it. They have too much pride to pay for a woman. Thats why Chris doesnt like them. But when his friends are paying for the strippers he doesnt mind at all!

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yup thats exactly how this guy was, i was close to him so i would laugh that he didnt like stripclubs bc he was such a pig. But i have met alot of guys who dont like it bc of a pride thing. They'd rather go to a club and meet a hot girl and get her bc they can not bc they had to pay her. I can definitely understand that theory though.

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Posted by Jenn04

DH went back to AZ (where he is from)...stayed at a nice resort with friends, golfed, went out and went to a strip club. I didnt feel the need to get all the strip club details - but he knows I dont really care so we just never felt the need to talk in depth about it. He doesnt drink but he said he had a great time!

On a side note...some of his friends are sooo whipped and their wives said they werent allowed to go to the strip club...or stay at the hotel! W T F?! I would never do that to DH. I really honestly dont get what all this stripclub madness is about. If a guy wanted to cheat..hes gonna cheat...regardless of where he is!!!!

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thats my theory and honestly a guy is much much much more likely to cheat at a regular club than a strip club lol. I wrote in a thread on the 08 boards before that to get a bj or sex at a strip club you have to pay alot of money for it but in a regular club you can get it for free. At a strip club you have to pay a girl to rub up against you but in a regular club you can get that for free and you can touch them. A strip club you wont leave with the stripper but a regular club you can leave with a girl. A guy who is gonna cheat would do so regardless and he doesnt need a strip club to do so

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Posted by missliss

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Posted by Jenn04

On a side note...some of his friends are sooo whipped and their wives said they werent allowed to go to the strip club...or stay at the hotel! W T F?! I would never do that to DH. I really honestly dont get what all this stripclub madness is about. If a guy wanted to cheat..hes gonna cheat...regardless of where he is!!!!

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This blows my mind too. I would never not 'allow' him to go, that's ridiculous to me. He's a grown man, not a child and i'm not his mother. And exactly, if he wanted to cheat, i don't see him all day, he could have boundless opportunities that I would never know about, he doesn't have to wait for a strip club to do it.

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welllllllll-i have to say....he knows i dont like stirp clubs, so he just wont go to them.

i havent said u cannot go..i have said..if u go ill choke u w/ur own nuts....

i dont think hell cheat at a strip club. i KNOW he wont.

but i dont like the idea of him watching some naked girl dance....or getting a lap dance n her stroking/touching/rubbing him.

he wouldnt like it if i did this at a club, so why would i?

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Posted by BriansBride529

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Posted by missliss

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Posted by Jenn04

On a side note...some of his friends are sooo whipped and their wives said they werent allowed to go to the strip club...or stay at the hotel! W T F?! I would never do that to DH. I really honestly dont get what all this stripclub madness is about. If a guy wanted to cheat..hes gonna cheat...regardless of where he is!!!!

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This blows my mind too. I would never not 'allow' him to go, that's ridiculous to me. He's a grown man, not a child and i'm not his mother. And exactly, if he wanted to cheat, i don't see him all day, he could have boundless opportunities that I would never know about, he doesn't have to wait for a strip club to do it.

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welllllllll-i have to say....he knows i dont like stirp clubs, so he just wont go to them.

i havent said u cannot go..i have said..if u go ill choke u w/ur own nuts....

i dont think hell cheat at a strip club. i KNOW he wont.

but i dont like the idea of him watching some naked girl dance....or getting a lap dance n her stroking/touching/rubbing him.

he wouldnt like it if i did this at a club, so why would i?

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i dont know, i think most guys would like it if their gf/fiancee/wife got a lapdance from a female a strip club im jk i know thats not what you meant, but reading your last line i just thought hmmmm maybe some guys would like it hahaha but you meant a male stripper