DId anyone NOT do a sweetheart table

My dad wants the bridal party to the right and left of us. Sitting in one long table. I am not too sure if I want this? Instead of having them sit with there family members.

I immediatly got a call from some people who said, they did not want to come to the reception, if they don't have their relatives there to sit next to them

Re: DId anyone NOT do a sweetheart table

I haven't ever been to a wedding where there was one long table with groom and bride and bridal party all together - only seen it on old movies. Most of the ones I have been to have bride and groom at their own table and bridal party at their own tables with their dates or scattered among the guests at many different tables.

Re: DId anyone NOT do a sweetheart table

I had my bridal party sit at tables with their family or significant others. I did not want to split them up, because in all honesty, they probably would not have even been at the table, they would have wandered of to their significant other. And seriously, all you do is sit to eat, if that, so I wanted them to enjoy their company at the table. You could have them sit up with you, and have their significant other sit up their too, but i don't like the way that looks because your bridal party is all dressed up and their significant other is dressed down a bit. I liked having my DH and I alone at our table, it gave us some alone time. Our dais was raised and it was really cool siitting up on it with DH and just looking out at everyone and realizing all our family and friends were all their for us.

Re: DId anyone NOT do a sweetheart table

Back in the day there were long tables to the right and left of the bride and groom but now its usually a sweetheart table....(when my cousins got married in 1989, 1991 and 1995 they had those long tables)

Re: DId anyone NOT do a sweetheart table

---

Posted by Spitzergirl

My dad wants the bridal party to the right and left of us. Sitting in one long table. I am not too sure if I want this? Instead of having them sit with there family members.

I immediatly got a call from some people who said, they did not want to come to the reception, if they don't have their relatives there to sit next to them

---

First of all, I cannot believe ANYONE would say that to you! THey should be at your wedding for you and your FH, not for the other relatives. SEcond of all, my friend Jen sat at a table with her DH and her bridal party (at one big table) and it looked special...especially when the best man and MOH got up and made speeches. It just made it seem like a special day for all of them, and they were honored. Do what you feel is right. My sister also had all of the bridal party sit togehter at one table (separate from them), but away from their otehr relatives. I chose to have everyone sit with their relatives regardless of if they were in teh BP. It really makes no difference. Do what makes you and your DH happy.

Re: DId anyone NOT do a sweetheart table

I was in a wedding where I had to sit up at a long table with the rest of the bridal party. DH (boyfriend at the time) had to find a place to sit with other friends of mine not really near where I was at all. I really did not like it at all. I felt bad because when I wandered off to sit with DH and my friends, I felt like I wasn't spending time with the bride and when I was at the table I felt bad leaving DH.
We just had 2 BM and 2 MOHs so we put them with their dates at a table with some other friends.

edited to add

---

Posted by matron

---

Posted by Spitzergirl

My dad wants the bridal party to the right and left of us. Sitting in one long table. I am not too sure if I want this? Instead of having them sit with there family members.

I immediatly got a call from some people who said, they did not want to come to the reception, if they don't have their relatives there to sit next to them

---

First of all, I cannot believe ANYONE would say that to you!

---

I can't beleve anyone would say that either. ***?

Re: DId anyone NOT do a sweetheart table

Are these people in the BP... is it just SO, dates or spouses?

If its just a date that shouldnt be a problem but if its a serious GF or spouse then it may be ..the only way you will know is if you asked how the person feels.

I read somewhere that ettiquitte dictates that it is rude to expect your BP to be away from their spouse..dont know about S.O though..
Not all are understanding. Especially if the spouse has to drive by themselves while their partner is in the limo and spends the ceremony and a greater part of the evening alone.

One option is to have the BP table and get the toast out of the way then let the individuals join their S.O or spouse.

Re: DId anyone NOT do a sweetheart table

Okay my friend got married last May, she had the long Dias tables...Her and DH in the middle bridesmaids on side, ushers on the other!!!!
It WAS HORRIBLE!!!!!!
My table had three husbands and one boyfriend along with one couple and DH and I. The girls were totally bummed they couldn't sit with their spouses..
VERY OLD fashioned!!!!!

Re: DId anyone NOT do a sweetheart table

I've never heard of a father making a request like this.

Re: DId anyone NOT do a sweetheart table

It is very old fashioned, maybe that's why your dad wants it that way.

We didn't have a BP, only a MOH and BM, so we had them and their spouses at our table...just the six of us. It was really nice.

My dream, if I could've had it my way was to have me and DH and both sets of our parents at one table. I just thought it would've been nice to have dinner with my parents on my wedding day. Unfortunately, DH's parents are divorced and do not get along.

Re: DId anyone NOT do a sweetheart table

All of my friends got married in CT (where I grew up) and they all had the one long table thing. It can be a lot of fun and the pics look cute. However, it sometimes sucks because my date (prior to DH) would have to sit at some random table of people he didn't know. We did the dias though and had the bridesmaids sit with their SOs/dates at one table and the groomsmen & their dates at the other.

Re: DId anyone NOT do a sweetheart table

We did not do a sweetheart table, nor did we seat all the bridal party together. We sat at a regular round table in the center of the room with our best man, matron of honor and one each of bridemaids and groom - each with their significant other. Our other grooms and bridemaids were seated elsewhere with their significant other.

Re: DId anyone NOT do a sweetheart table

DH was adamant that the wedding party sit with us. I said 'well then what about the spouses who have to sit on their own?' He said 'that's their problem - they can talk to the other guests at the table'.

Which is fine if you know them. If you don't it's awkward. And like Boop said, after eating no one is going to sit at the head table anyway.

DH saw the errors of his ways and we did the sweetheart table.

I think when the spouses know the other people at their table then maybe a long dais can work.

Other than that I think a SH is better.